Nicest thing a straight guy's done for you

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    Apr 26, 2016 11:55 PM GMT
    Hey y'all, wanted to cheer myself up and hear about your positive experiences with accepting straight guys. I've noticed that most of my buddies are tolerant but not accepting. They would never go on fb defending gay people or call someone out for using homophobic slurs. But they'd say something along the line of "Yeah I don't problems with gay people, they should get married and stuff, just don't hit on me". Probably a Millennial thing, hopefully next gen is better.

    So are there any heartwarming moments that happened to you like that straight highschool kid on Ellen who asked his gay buddy out to prom? Has a straight dude ever really gone out of his way to show you he's accepting, like dance with you, stand up for you, or act normal when you talk about guys? OR straight guys who refused to get married until gay marriage became legal? Like David Pockock

    (Hopefully this doesn't come off as another straight guy worship thread, just getting sick of only seeing females doing all the yelling)
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    Apr 27, 2016 2:08 AM GMT
    It's early days yet. These things take time.
  • Allen

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    Apr 27, 2016 7:14 AM GMT
    Almost all of my friends are straight. Matter of fact, I only have two gay friends -- and they're a couple.

    I can think of several examples, but here's the first that comes to mind:

    I was at a straight bar (kind of a small redneck-dive dance bar) with a straight couple. I knew the husband and had just met his wife that night. And at this point, the husband didn't know I was gay. Anyway, his wife decided to fix me up with one of her girlfriends that night who proceeded to come on to me pretty strongly -- she was feeling her liquor. I told her I was flattered but I was gay. She was like, "oh, that's cool ... my brother is gay." We then chatted for about twenty more minutes before she moved on. My friend's wife then came up to me with her husband and asked what happened. I told her I was gay, but thanks for the thought. Her husband just shook his head with a weak smile at his wife. A few minutes later, his wife walked away to chat with some other friends leaving just me and her husband. Her husband then put his arm around me (my shoulders) and kept it there for like a good fifteen minutes. He's not known for being affectionate or touchy-feely. But here he was with his arm around me in the middle of a fairly red-neckish bar. I could tell it was his way of telling me he was totally cool with my being gay. And I really appreciated the gesture.

  • RainBow_Drago...

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    Apr 27, 2016 10:41 AM GMT
    True story starring me: I once had sex with a guy and he ejaculated like a horse. when we were both finished and were out on the baloney smoking a cig he looked at me and said " I'm straight". icon_rolleyes.gif
  • mystery905

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    Apr 27, 2016 11:15 AM GMT
    Let me suck his cock....
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    Apr 27, 2016 11:21 AM GMT
    RainBow_Dragon2000 saidTrue story starring me: I once had sex with a guy and he ejaculated like a horse. when we were both finished and were out on the baloney smoking a cig he looked at me and said " I'm straight". icon_rolleyes.gif

    Yeah, straight until then.
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    Apr 27, 2016 11:56 AM GMT
    Many years ago, like in 2000, I went to a nice "straight" club to meet up with some friends. A few friends brought their spouses and boyfriends....I was the relative newbie to the group....As the night goes on, and people are getting trashed and dancing and enjoying....I was accused of hitting on a few of the women in the group by their non-dancing and very drunk boyfriends.# of the guys started a pushing match and threatening me....fortunately for me....one of my friends in that group was a State Champion Wrestler in HS and mow a Senior Wrestler at Ohio State. He came out with us, as he was an intern with our work group. A few of his wresting team buddies were also there too....As things were getting ugly with the drunk jealous boyfriends, John and his team mates came over and stepped in to stop it. John is VERY HETERO...but he is also exceptionally open minded and secure in who he is, as were his team mates....John and his team mates(3 of them) saved my ass from these guys, even though the women were all trying to break up the confrontation...
    In the end, John pulled me out on the dance floor , and even a slow dance with him! It was a little harder for me than it was him....He placed my hands on him and demanded that I hold him....at the end of the song he kissed me on the dance floor and said...."not everyone is afraid of gay.."...I did dance with 2 of his team mates too...It was a very interesting night....The girls were so embarrassed by the guys, that they all broke up....John is married and lives in Strongsville, OH, now...VERY Hetero, and cool.
  • SilverRRCloud

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    Apr 27, 2016 5:56 PM GMT
    I am not too keen on being defended for being gay by anyone including my friends and myself. If anyone needs to defend this, he is most likely in a totally wrong company.

    Yet, I get to hear now and then then that the guys who come up with any negative comments about being LGBT, of different race, etc., quickly get sidelined.

    Most of us here are busy folks living our pretty good lives. We have put in quite some work, effort, money and energy into getting here. Hardly anyone would consider it worth their while spending ANY of their time with the folks who are even touching down on the subject of other people's sexual orientation.

    On a more mundane level, quite a few people I know and am friends with benefit continuously from the pink dollar in their daily business. None of them are really keen on ever being perceived as being anything but pro-LGBT for all the obvious reasons.

    SC
  • tazzari

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    Apr 27, 2016 6:17 PM GMT
    When my partner died 12 years ago a very straight friend took me to the Caribbean for a week and let me get away from it all. I'll be eternally grateful.
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    Apr 27, 2016 6:26 PM GMT
    tempprofile saidHey y'all, wanted to cheer myself up and hear about your positive experiences with accepting straight guys. I've noticed that most of my buddies are tolerant but not accepting. They would never go on fb defending gay people or call someone out for using homophobic slurs. But they'd say something along the line of "Yeah I don't problems with gay people, they should get married and stuff, just don't hit on me". Probably a Millennial thing, hopefully next gen is better.

    So are there any heartwarming moments that happened to you like that straight highschool kid on Ellen who asked his gay buddy out to prom? Has a straight dude ever really gone out of his way to show you he's accepting, like dance with you, stand up for you, or act normal when you talk about guys? OR straight guys who refused to get married until gay marriage became legal? Like David Pockock

    (Hopefully this doesn't come off as another straight guy worship thread, just getting sick of only seeing females doing all the yelling)




    I'm disappointed and actually shocked to hear this. I'm twice your age and I have the totally opposite experiences with straight guys. I was under the impression things were getting better, not worse.

    All of my closest friends are straight males. They do so many over-the-top kind things for me I'm actually having to stop and think because there are countless examples I could give you.

    One example that comes to mind: A few years ago, this guy I was seeing broke up with me because I called him out on something he did. He was not the jealous type at all but he did admit to me that he was jealous of one particular friend of mine......whom I'll call "Hank", (who is straight and very very handsome.) I told Hank how my ex said he was the only person he was ever jealous of and he just smiled and acted flattered.

    Well, a couple of weeks later, Hank and I were at a garden center buying some fruit trees together, and low and behold, my ex walks up. Hank was very friendly to him as usual and shook his hand, as did I. Suddenly I felt his hand go under my shirt and start rubbing my back. He pulled me to him and told my ex "we have a lot of things to do around the house today", then he looked me dead in the eye and kissed me passionately right in front of him! My ex's mouth had literally dropped open when we finished kissing. When we got back to the truck, Hank turned to me and said "you're welcome!" and we both started dying laughing.

    At any rate, I have to toss this up to the area you live in. Maybe it's just not a very progressive town?
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    Apr 27, 2016 6:27 PM GMT
    keep in mind this is the other 95%
  • interestingch...

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    Apr 27, 2016 6:52 PM GMT
    Rugby as most people on here know is probably one of the most macho sports there is, there are no safety pads or anything to protect you from being taken out by some enormously huge muscle bound guy at high speed and landing in a heap and being kicked or trodden on in all weathers, you got the picture, anyhow there are several gay teams including a very large one in London with four regular teams and well over a hundred players, they share the club, showers and fields with a straight team who are very protective of all the gay guys who share the club. If anyone joins their team and gives any of us any hassle, they get punched out the door and not aloud to be a member of their club, the team captain has invited me out with his friends several times and is a great guy, they don't care showering with us and are very comfortable with all of us getting changed and being naked in front of each other, there is never any funny business going on and everyone socialises with each other. How cool is that, they say that rugby is an animals game played by gentlemen and soccer is a gentlemen's game played by animals, thats not that far from the truth as soccer players and fans in the UK and other countries fight and are bigoted to a certain degree. I'm sure some people have heard the term football hooligan. That doesn't really happen with rugby which is not really what you would expect.
    I ended up playing a drinking game with the straight rugby guys who tried to make me screw up by licking my face and grabbing my balls etc, anyhow I thrashed them and they couldn't believe it, it was a core strength game, I do yoga and have a very strong core, they are all way more muscular than me so were shocked by me lasting twice as long as them LOL.
    Cheers to those guys, thats was the most action that I had in a long time hahaha
  • tbandj

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    Apr 27, 2016 9:37 PM GMT
    tempprofile saidHey y'all, wanted to cheer myself up and hear about your positive experiences with accepting straight guys. I've noticed that most of my buddies are tolerant but not accepting. They would never go on fb defending gay people or call someone out for using homophobic slurs. But they'd say something along the line of "Yeah I don't problems with gay people, they should get married and stuff, just don't hit on me". Probably a Millennial thing, hopefully next gen is better.

    So are there any heartwarming moments that happened to you like that straight highschool kid on Ellen who asked his gay buddy out to prom? Has a straight dude ever really gone out of his way to show you he's accepting, like dance with you, stand up for you, or act normal when you talk about guys? OR straight guys who refused to get married until gay marriage became legal? Like David Pockock

    (Hopefully this doesn't come off as another straight guy worship thread, just getting sick of only seeing females doing all the yelling)


    Hey, man. Hope things get better for you.

    Most of my close friends are straight. I didn't come out until after college and when I had finally gotten together with most of them that night, a bunch of them came up to me and apologized if they ever made me feel uncomfortable if they ever made gay jokes, etc.

    My roommate and best friend from sophomore year and up was one of the first few people to meet my boyfriend. Before my partner got there, he asked if I was being treated right. And then proceeded to tell my partner the "I'll kick you ass if you ever hurt him" story.

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    Apr 27, 2016 10:08 PM GMT
    My friends are almost all straight dudes and they've been terrific. When I came out they were really supportive and a couple even wrote comments on Facebook in support of gay rights. I also have several straight male coworkers who've been supportive. These are younger guys and older guys.
  • ChicagoSteve

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    Apr 27, 2016 10:13 PM GMT
    Allen saidAlmost all of my friends are straight. Matter of fact, I only have two gay friends -- and they're a couple.

    I can think of several examples, but here's the first that comes to mind:

    I was at a straight bar (kind of a small redneck-dive dance bar) with a straight couple. I knew the husband and had just met his wife that night. And at this point, the husband didn't know I was gay. Anyway, his wife decided to fix me up with one of her girlfriends that night who proceeded to come on to me pretty strongly -- she was feeling her liquor. I told her I was flattered but I was gay. She was like, "oh, that's cool ... my brother is gay." We then chatted for about twenty more minutes before she moved on. My friend's wife then came up to me with her husband and asked what happened. I told her I was gay, but thanks for the thought. Her husband just shook his head with a weak smile at his wife. A few minutes later, his wife walked away to chat with some other friends leaving just me and her husband. Her husband then put his arm around me (my shoulders) and kept it there for like a good fifteen minutes. He's not known for being affectionate or touchy-feely. But here he was with his arm around me in the middle of a fairly red-neckish bar. I could tell it was his way of telling me he was totally cool with my being gay. And I really appreciated the gesture.

    What a great story Allen, thanks for sharing! Reading that brought a smile to my face.
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    Apr 27, 2016 11:05 PM GMT
    I asked all of my closest straight friends including my best friend and his wife if they would be willing to be part of my wedding party. None of them hesitated to say yes.
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    Apr 27, 2016 11:06 PM GMT
    Woah these are all great stories. Sorry if I made it seem like things were horrible with me, no I'm not gay bullied or anything. But my friends and most guys in my college town are doing something that makes me feel excluded(and other gay/bi dudes in my area feel the same way) and I can't figure out what it is. Maybe it's bringing their gf's around and hooking up and not acknowledging that I'm alone, or lack of change in their homophobic vocabulary. Or still reacting in disgust at two guys kissing. They probably think they're accepting but don't realize how insensitive they come off as sometimes.

    Really glad to hear u guys have super cool friends tho, especially how awesome rugby teams in the UK are based on what I read here
  • interestingch...

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    Apr 27, 2016 11:53 PM GMT
    tempprofile saidWoah these are all great stories. Sorry if I made it seem like things were horrible with me, no I'm not gay bullied or anything. But my friends and most guys in my college town are doing something that makes me feel excluded(and other gay/bi dudes in my area feel the same way) and I can't figure out what it is. Maybe it's bringing their gf's around and hooking up and not acknowledging that I'm alone, or lack of change in their homophobic vocabulary. Or still reacting in disgust at two guys kissing. They probably think they're accepting but don't realize how insensitive they come off as sometimes.

    Really glad to hear u guys have super cool friends tho, especially how awesome rugby teams in the UK are based on what I read here


    The ex professional welsh rugby captain Gareth Thomas got immense support from team mates after coming out and divorcing his wife also recently rugby league player Keegan Hirst also came out and got divorced after being married for quite some time, he also has received a lot of support from team mates and hasn't changed his standing within the game.
    Another I just remembered is Sam Stanley who is a Kiwi also has a boyfriend, I think he is playing in the UK right now, I am sure there are others but if in the public eye shouldn't be forced out because it could cause mental health problems for them, you should do it when you are ready.
    Gay rugby teams are growing in number around the world after London being the first ever gay team which started in 1995 and has a large following, they play many straight teams which is great for integration, There are a couple straight guys on the team which is cool
  • bro4bro

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    Apr 28, 2016 3:46 AM GMT
    Here's three short stories about my three closest friends, all straight.

    I met A in the gym. We'd been buddies a few years when I attended his wedding, a destination wedding over a long weekend on Hilton Head Island. Most of the weekend we were at the beach or in the pool. When I said goodbye on Sunday afternoon he gave me a good long hug, both arms wrapped around me tight, in front of his new wife, his parents, brother, sister, cousin, and friends - and we were each wearing nothing but board shorts and dripping wet. It showed me very plainly that he truly accepted me.

    B is my current workout partner. He's straight and single. When we first started hanging out together I was looking for a convenient way to come out to him but he never once asked if I was dating anyone, if I'd ever been married, etc. So, after I got tired of waiting for an opportunity I mentioned that I was training to compete at the Gay Games in a few months. He didn't say a word, didn't even blink, didn't have any reaction whatsoever. I thought maybe he didn't hear me - or maybe had already guessed - so after a while I brought it up again. What I didn't know is his mom's an interior decorator and he was a former fitness model - made the cover of Men's Health a couple times - so he was very accustomed to being around gay guys, and it made absolutely no difference to him. Now, over two years later, we're like brothers. We laugh together about our respective dating mishaps and misadventures. We depend on each other.

    S is the best and closest friend I've ever had. He's a former US Marine and former minor league baseball player, and is married with four kids. When we first met, he let me know in a very sly way that if I was gay, it made no difference to him. And then he told me a story about his honeymoon in Fiji, where he ripped the manager of his hotel a new asshole when he caught him harassing a local gay guy. He remains the only human being on earth - including parents, brothers, sisters, and boyfriends - who has looked me square in the eye and said, "I love you." Naturally I said it back, and meant it. And we've heard it from each other many times since.
  • Apparition

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    Apr 28, 2016 4:15 AM GMT
    had unprotected sex with my mom 9 months before she had me...lol.
  • Allen

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    Apr 28, 2016 5:09 AM GMT
    ChicagoSteve said
    Allen saidAlmost all of my friends are straight. Matter of fact, I only have two gay friends -- and they're a couple.

    I can think of several examples, but here's the first that comes to mind:

    I was at a straight bar (kind of a small redneck-dive dance bar) with a straight couple. I knew the husband and had just met his wife that night. And at this point, the husband didn't know I was gay. Anyway, his wife decided to fix me up with one of her girlfriends that night who proceeded to come on to me pretty strongly -- she was feeling her liquor. I told her I was flattered but I was gay. She was like, "oh, that's cool ... my brother is gay." We then chatted for about twenty more minutes before she moved on. My friend's wife then came up to me with her husband and asked what happened. I told her I was gay, but thanks for the thought. Her husband just shook his head with a weak smile at his wife. A few minutes later, his wife walked away to chat with some other friends leaving just me and her husband. Her husband then put his arm around me (my shoulders) and kept it there for like a good fifteen minutes. He's not known for being affectionate or touchy-feely. But here he was with his arm around me in the middle of a fairly red-neckish bar. I could tell it was his way of telling me he was totally cool with my being gay. And I really appreciated the gesture.

    What a great story Allen, thanks for sharing! Reading that brought a smile to my face.


    Thanks buddy! icon_smile.gif
  • shutoman

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    Apr 28, 2016 7:52 AM GMT
    I have a number of good straight male friends and they've had no problem with my being gay.

    But in direct answer to your question: my friend Adam took me to the opera on Tuesday - excellent tickets to see Tannhauser at the Royal Opera. Not cheap, and one of a number of similar treats he's given me recently. He's a happily partnered father of two; he's just a very generous guy.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Apr 28, 2016 3:02 PM GMT
    One of my very good college friends serves as "senior contributor" of my weekly fitness webradio show in which we interview fitness professionals, registered dieticians and anyone involved in anything "fitness" on a regular basis. He doesn't just help, he injects his brand of professionalism and synergy ... brings in guests and really adds to the dialogue. Totally awesome!
  • Trauts

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    Apr 28, 2016 3:13 PM GMT
    The nicest thing a straight guy can do is to treat you equally like any other friend
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    Apr 28, 2016 4:26 PM GMT
    hetero peen is delish!