• Apr 29, 2016 7:29 PM GMT
    Hey y'all, just wanted a few opinions on using an enema/douching/whatnot. I don't bottom too often, but when I do, I try to use an enema. Now, essentially, each time I do use an enema, it makes me SUPER tight, making bottoming more painful/difficult. Last week I bottomed after an enema and it was far more painful than it should have been (there was some blood later on, but that might be a variable with my partner). When I don't use an enema, everything goes swimmingly. While enemas are pretty useful, the irritation they cause my ass seem to do more harm than good. Has anyone else had this sort of experience?

    Essentially, I know how much fun having things in your butt can be, given my experience playing with dildos. But when it actually comes down to it, bottoming often pales in comparison to when I'm control with a dildo alone, and the enema definitely has something to do with that I think. It's a struggle, because I definitely want to be clean but I also don't want my ass to bleed. icon_smile.gif
  • secondstartot...

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    Apr 29, 2016 7:32 PM GMT
    lube ..... after you douche

    then fingers before cock



  • Apparition

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    Apr 30, 2016 1:27 PM GMT
    so dont use an enema.
    find a top that doesnt most guys.
  • Timbales

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    Apr 30, 2016 1:57 PM GMT
    Doing a full blown enema soon before bottoming isn't necessarily a good idea. You're somewhat harshly cleaning out everything that is in there, including the beneficial mucus membrane. That could be one of the reasons for your discomfort. You might want to consider changing up your diet with more fiber for cleaner movements and just doing a quick rinse douche with purified water and a bot of condom-safe lube.
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    May 01, 2016 7:48 PM GMT
    Douching isn't necessary. The only thing you really need to worry about is being clean. How you achieve that is your own business. There are more ways to get clean down there than douching.

  • CubCasey

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    May 01, 2016 8:38 PM GMT
    I agree with Timbales in the irritation factor. And its probably your timing. I actually suggest paying attention to your diet more or taking a fiber supplement so that you don't need to douche before bottoming.

    There's actually a fiber supplement made for gay guys that I just started using and its great! Its called Pure for Men and it costs about as much as a fiber supplement from the grocery store, but I think its better. Its vegan and has chia, flax seed, and psyllium husks... most just have psyllium. A great product, especially if your diet is the reason behind the feeling that its necessary to douche before bottoming. Also reassurance for when you don't have the opportunity to douche before a spontaneous roll in the hay.

    If you still feel the need to use an enema, it does irritate things down there. No way getting around that, but you can try and make it as gentle as possible. Make sure its normal, clean, pure water around the same temperature as your body so that you don't shock your insides. I like to take a hot shower, squat down and relax under the water until I feel hole open and relax, then douche. And the only place you should be cleaning is the lower area of your rectum which is normally empty unless you have to poop. If you force too much water in there... things get sloppy because you've forced water to where things aren't solid yet, and then pockets of water get trapped in the twists and turns and then that water finds its way out when you've got a cock up your ass. Not fun and very embarrassing, especially if the other guy is an asshole about it. Pick up one of those baby things they use to suck boogers out of infant's noses... that's about the amount you need to gently clean yourself.

    Also timing of using an enema is important. Take a BM about an hour before you douche, and douche at least an hour before bottoming. Reason being when you take a dump, that opens everything up so if you douche, you're going to have the sloppy problem I mentioned before. Also your ass needs time to settle down after you douche. You've just forcefully pushed water inside yourself, when your body isn't turned on and ready to take anything inside of it. And you've taken the mucus membrane away which has basically dried you out and leaves you very susceptible to tearing. So if you give it some time, your body's natural defenses will have time to get back to where they should be.

    But if you're bleeding with this top guy, is he being too rough, too quick? I've bled from a guy shoving a thick 10 incher in with barely any lube... I didn't know he was going to do that right away, and it was not fun, especially when there was blood in the toilet later on. Remember communication is important and YOU are in charge because its your body that he's poking around in. If something doesn't feel right, take the time to it figure out... don't worry about ruining a moment. It will be 10x more sexy and pleasurable if both parties are comfortable and feeling good. And add more lube about every 5 minutes, have him rim and finger you, have him massage you so you relax more. Maybe you can't take it that deep yet so you have to gently ease it in until you can comfortably take it. I also think that being on top is one of the best positions to start in for a bottom. You're in control and can really pay attention to your body and get things lubed and opened up. Once you feel great, you should be able to move on to other positions and comfortably enjoy!

    Anyways... my answer is try fiber supplements, lube, communication with your partner, and more lube.
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    May 01, 2016 9:14 PM GMT
    secondstartotheright saidlube ..... after you douche

    then fingers before cock




    Agreed... plenty of lube.

    We've tried BoyButter, but much prefer "Spunk"..


  • May 01, 2016 11:35 PM GMT
    thanks d00ds, I appreciate the help