My ex just super liked me. Should I go after him?

  • glowstik

    Posts: 150

    Apr 29, 2016 7:52 PM GMT
    A handsone younger guy that works and cleans is hard to come by.

    I ended things last Aug after he was still hanging out on grindr with the same profile that said "single" we were brand new together a month.

    I tried smoothing things over, nope
    I tried calling, nope.

    So 2 weeks ago I get a random text. I respond to find out it's him he says "It's me Bob, I know you probably don't want to talk to me but I hope you're doing just fine"

    I had just been thinking about asking him to hangout earlier that day (mistake #100)

    So I replied "cheeky" No, actually I was just thinking about asking you to hangout so I was kinda expecting to hear from you. icon_smile.gif"

    No reply

    I wait 10 mins and text...

    "Is now a good time to chat?"

    No reply

    So I delete his # and go on with life


    Now he has super liked me on Tinder, I had previously likex him


    Short of attempting going to his house to see him I have exhausted and screwed up everything else ever which way. The hopeless romantic in me wants to think he is still unsure, insecure, scared and wants me to go after him.


    When in reality he may have me right wherd he wants me.

    So hypothetically if it were you do you

    A) no action
    B) escalate 1 notch and try visiting him to see if he's even still there
    C)remove all attention and unmatch him
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    Apr 29, 2016 9:32 PM GMT
    you should:
    C)remove all attention and unmatch him


  • SilverRRCloud

    Posts: 872

    Apr 30, 2016 6:31 AM GMT
    Only the OP really has the answer to his own question.

    My gut feeling would be to move on immediately.

    The past will always a heavy burden on whatever you two guys try to build up now, if anything at all...

    Just my 2 cents...

    SC
  • Allen

    Posts: 341

    Apr 30, 2016 7:44 AM GMT
    OP, you have a lot more patience than I do! I'll give you that.
  • mcbrion

    Posts: 305

    Apr 30, 2016 8:03 PM GMT
    So, he doesn't reply when you write him, but instead, tries to convey - without actually saying the words - that he "super likes you" on an app/site?? You ARE asking this tongue-in-cheek, correct? You DO remember the axiom: Actions Speak Louder Than Words.

    I would not pursue such a guy: his demons are already hurting him, and you would be wise to stay away and not respond when he (passive-aggressively) plays the 'lets-see-if-I-can-get-his-attention-again' game. He clearly does not value your feelings, but if you're attracted to that - have at it.

    I agree with the other poster: you knew this already.
  • leanandclean

    Posts: 270

    Apr 30, 2016 9:43 PM GMT
    C

  • Apr 30, 2016 11:56 PM GMT
    glowstik said::WHOLE BUNCH OF STUFF THAT DOESN'T ACTUALLY MATTER


    The answer to your question is:

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  • mwolverine

    Posts: 3384

    May 01, 2016 2:39 AM GMT
    D) Message him saying you're glad he's doing well but want nothing further to do with him.

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  • Wendigo9

    Posts: 426

    May 01, 2016 2:46 AM GMT
    If your ex wants you back that bad, why not have some fun and mess with his head for a while? lol
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    May 01, 2016 2:53 AM GMT
    I'd say wait until you're out of high school before you start considering a serious relationship. I'm assuming that you're still in HS based on your post.
  • AMoonHawk

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    May 01, 2016 3:40 AM GMT
    d. hook up with him and see where it goes from there icon_smile.gif
  • nippletickle

    Posts: 12

    May 01, 2016 2:55 PM GMT
    glowstik saidA handsone younger guy that works and cleans is hard to come by.

    I ended things last Aug after he was still hanging out on grindr with the same profile that said "single" we were brand new together a month.

    I tried smoothing things over, nope
    I tried calling, nope.

    So 2 weeks ago I get a random text. I respond to find out it's him he says "It's me Bob, I know you probably don't want to talk to me but I hope you're doing just fine"

    I had just been thinking about asking him to hangout earlier that day (mistake #100)

    So I replied "cheeky" No, actually I was just thinking about asking you to hangout so I was kinda expecting to hear from you. icon_smile.gif"

    No reply

    I wait 10 mins and text...

    "Is now a good time to chat?"

    No reply

    So I delete his # and go on with life


    Now he has super liked me on Tinder, I had previously likex him


    Short of attempting going to his house to see him I have exhausted and screwed up everything else ever which way. The hopeless romantic in me wants to think he is still unsure, insecure, scared and wants me to go after him.


    When in reality he may have me right wherd he wants me.

    So hypothetically if it were you do you

    A) no action
    B) escalate 1 notch and try visiting him to see if he's even still there
    C)remove all attention and unmatch him


    Unless you want to get hurt again, no! We have a saying here in the UK, the game is not worth the candle. Move on!
    Jonathan
  • mcbrion

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    May 02, 2016 2:51 AM GMT
    TO23 saidI'd say wait until you're out of high school before you start considering a serious relationship. I'm assuming that you're still in HS based on your post.


    You are SO Bad! icon_rolleyes.gif
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    May 12, 2016 6:40 PM GMT
    You broke up for a reason... So are you horny, or desperate?
    In other words, if watch a really bad movie, do you buy the dvd?
  • Corby

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    May 12, 2016 7:53 PM GMT
    Simply move beyond
  • Lunastar

    Posts: 328

    May 18, 2016 12:47 AM GMT
    Honestly just do you want want. I hooked up with an ex one last time after breaking up and it ended up giving me closure and allowed me to start dating again.
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    May 19, 2016 6:25 PM GMT
    Have sex with him and dump him .. icon_twisted.gif
  • oldfart

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    May 23, 2016 5:43 PM GMT
    mwolverine saidD) Message him saying you're glad he's doing well but want nothing further to do with him.

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    I agree. This is the classy way to handle him.

    But look, he's unreliable and flaky; that's not a friend. Would you put up with that if the physical part wasn't there? Put your time into real men you can at least be friends be real friends with.