Short top dating tall muscular bottom?

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    May 04, 2016 3:58 AM GMT
    6 months ago, a friend mentioned his hot new friend from school and showed me his pic, whom I saw was indeed very cute. Fast forward 4 months and he hangs out with our group for the first time - he was much taller than expected (6'1 or so, 180lb of muscle), so as a smaller guy I didn't see him as more than a friend. I also resemble nothing like a random blond surfer dude whom he pointed out on the street as his "type".

    He hung out with our group more frequently in the last 2 months, and eventually told my friend that he's into me. My friend assured him that I won't be interested in topping big guys, but told me about the convo anyway, revealing that the guy was attracted to my personality and doesn't mind being the bottom for me. Also reprimanded me for being shallow haha when I reminded him about the height issue. Around the same time, we randomly matched on tinder just for laughs, and talking about our mutual friend became his opportunity to ask me out. I pretended to have not checked tinder in 24 hours.

    How's dating a tall guy like (for you short tops out there)?
  • Allen

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    May 04, 2016 7:10 AM GMT
    I'm 5'10" and have dated taller guys. And I've never had a problem with it.

    My guess is that more bottoms will prefer their tops to be taller than them than tops preferring bottoms shorter than them. But I could be wrong. Interesting question.
  • BloodFlame

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    May 04, 2016 10:33 AM GMT
    I don't see the big deal really. He likes you and you seem to like him so that's all that matters.
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    May 04, 2016 10:36 AM GMT
    Height should be a complete irrelevance. If you like each other then go on a fucking date.

    No wonder so many guys are single with such bizarre strict dating rules!
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    May 04, 2016 11:35 AM GMT
    maybe you should take some time to grow up a bit before you start dating other people.. you can do it in the time you're pretending to ignore people who actually like you and are being nice to you. what a tool.
  • Relajado

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    May 04, 2016 11:35 AM GMT
    PulseFit saidHeight should be a complete irrelevance. If you like each other then go on a fucking date.

    No wonder so many guys are single with such bizarre strict dating rules!


    This!

    That group of friends sounds like shallow personified.
  • BuggEyedSprit...

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    May 04, 2016 11:58 AM GMT
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  • whytehot

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    May 04, 2016 2:33 PM GMT
    Easy for average height guys to say "height doesn't matter". Is it shallow for short men to not want to date tall women?
  • BuggEyedSprit...

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    May 04, 2016 2:47 PM GMT
    whytehot saidEasy for average height guys to say "height doesn't matter". Is it shallow for short men to not want to date tall women?


    Years, ago, even dancing with tall women made me uneasy, but now, with men...seems I've changed my tune.
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    May 04, 2016 3:24 PM GMT
    meh... it all depends. I personally am creeped out by guys who are 6'2 or taller, kind of flamey, and attracted to me. It's just a lot of contradictory primal energy...like I am more masculine than you, but you're bigger than me and I can't fully dominate you physically, yet I am still stronger and could probably win in a fight... I have to look up to see your face? Lol, also, a lot has to do with weight too. You can be shorter but physically thicker and stronger and it can still work I think. But for me I am a thin/athletic build, so guys that are submissive who are almost 200 lbs and taller than me, just doesn't make sense. 6'2 and 170 to 180... that is manageable. Everyone has different preferences and I think they are all valid.

    I am 5'10 so ideally I look for someone at most 3 inches taller. I think very tall people are attractive, it's just it makes me feel small and I don't like that feeling.
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    May 04, 2016 5:30 PM GMT
    Aqueerius said...He hung out with our group more frequently in the last 2 months, and eventually told my friend that he's into me. My friend assured him that I won't be interested in topping big guys, ...

    "With friends like that, ..."
    Sheesh! Go for it man!
  • Beeftastic

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    May 04, 2016 5:39 PM GMT
    I'm 5' 9" and my last boyfriend was 6' 2". I was a little scared of him at first as he seemed a bit too big and tough. But he was a real sweet heart and very much a bottom. Sex was fine! You forget about the size thing emotionally. There were a few positions that were a bit more challenging given the size difference, but so what? He remains possibly the best fuck of my life.
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    May 04, 2016 5:43 PM GMT
    marcintoronto saidmaybe you should take some time to grow up a bit before you start dating other people.. you can do it in the time you're pretending to ignore people who actually like you and are being nice to you. what a tool.

    Sounds like someone has a good memory for the OP's previous posts.
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    May 04, 2016 6:31 PM GMT
    Honestly if the chemistry is there the height difference won't matter.

    I am 6'5" and majority of the time I have dated people shorter than me.

    Sex wise you'll experiment with different positions in what is pleasurable for you both (that's part of the fun). Once you lie down height differences don't really affect things that much icon_lol.gif
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    May 04, 2016 7:20 PM GMT
    I've never been in a relationship with a bottom guy who's shorter than 5'10", and I'm not tall. My current bf is around 6'2" and hugely muscular; the one previous to that was 5'10" and an ex competitive bodybuilder. Why should height even matter in a relationship?
  • FRE0

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    May 04, 2016 9:28 PM GMT
    I wish guys would forget about this top vs bottom folderol. It wasn't always that way.

    The "Advocate" used to have a personals section in the 1970s. In it guys specified what they wanted, as follows:

    ga = Greek active, i.e., top
    gp = Greek passive, i.e., bottom
    fa = French active, i.e., performs fellatio
    fp = French passive, i.e., gets fellatated
    v = versatile, i.e., anything goes
    jo = you know what that is

    From the ads, it was easy to see that ga and gp, i.e., anal sex, while they existed, were not very popular. For reasons that I do not understand, it seems that now practically all gay men expect and demand anal sex. It is unclear what caused the change.
  • rnch

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    May 05, 2016 1:27 AM GMT
    I just don't see a problem here.

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    May 05, 2016 3:49 AM GMT
    dont see a problem.. actually sounds hot for a shorter height guy with a smaller build to mount a taller/bigger built guy hahaa...
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    May 05, 2016 4:34 AM GMT
    not an issue. tall, short all good to me.
  • 24hourguy

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    May 05, 2016 1:16 PM GMT
    whatever you do get it on video and make some $ off of it! icon_twisted.gif
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    May 06, 2016 3:30 PM GMT
    It is hot to reverse the stereotypical roles!
  • rnch

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    May 06, 2016 4:48 PM GMT
    uberick saidIt is hot to reverse the stereotypical roles!





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  • Destinharbor

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    May 06, 2016 6:09 PM GMT
    My last long term relationship before I met my partner was with a much shorter, tightly built exclusive top. Everyone we met assumed I was the top and it often led to some funny situations in sex-charged environments like a clothing optional pool. We both laughed a lot.
  • jaxsurfer

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    May 06, 2016 10:33 PM GMT
    I'm only 5'11" and I always top, and most of the guys I've dated are taller than me, 6' 7" being the tallest. The shortest guy I dated was 5'1".
  • Apparition

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    May 11, 2016 12:46 AM GMT
    I am 5'7 and sent a 6'7 guy home crying because i was too rough wrestling him. The little guy is always the top isnt he?