different experience coming out as gay

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    May 04, 2016 5:32 PM GMT
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    go figure its different for ethnic groups


    reference:
    http://www.eurekalert.org/pub_releases/2016-05/uok-rs050416.php
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    May 04, 2016 5:40 PM GMT
    I'm always a bit bemused (disappointed really) by this "one size fits all" mentality that a lot of the younger guys have. As the authors of the paper noted,

     Indeed, Villicana and his co-authors Kevin Delucio of the University of California, Santa Barbara, and Monica Biernat of KU, suggest that verbal disclosure is emphasized by National Coming Out Day as a kind of "cultural directive."
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    May 04, 2016 9:46 PM GMT
    I think that if you resonate positively with the word gay, you'll always have a higher well being status upon disclosing that information, regardless of race. Also, maybe the latin culture responds to homosexuality in a harsher way that would impede on happiness levels upon disclosure, which is likely as latin culture (or any non white culture for that matter), is usually more religiously tied on average. Many white people are religious, but there are many sanctions of white people who are not, which results in a more steadier support network being available for white people.

    I don't feel good upon disclosing that I am "gay" because I know that word doesn't reflect me very well, where as other terminology does and I feel great using those terms, though no one knows what they mean and I feel isolated regardless because of that. This means that as white male I have more in common with the latin community's statistics as I don't feel good disclosing my sexual status, as my avilable support networks respond in a neutral/less than positive way upon my expression of my sexual status, which is what I deduct happens when homosexual latins reveal themselves to their heterosexual family members/culture members.
  • MikeW

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    May 04, 2016 11:47 PM GMT
    TO23 said...I don't feel good upon disclosing that I am "gay" because I know that word doesn't reflect me very well, where as other terminology does and I feel great using those terms, though no one knows what they mean and I feel isolated regardless because of that. This means that as white male I have more in common with the latin community's statistics as I don't feel good disclosing my sexual status, as my avilable support networks respond in a neutral/less than positive way upon my expression of my sexual status, which is what I deduct happens when homosexual latins reveal themselves to their heterosexual family members/culture members.


    I've never liked "gay"... it's so trivializing. But, IDK, "fluid neo-mascuilne"? Why "neo"? What's new about wanting to fuck -- or get fucked by -- anything hot that walks?
  • rdberg1957

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    May 06, 2016 3:01 AM GMT
    The word gay has very different meanings to people based on where they grew up and what their experience has been. Gay identity is local and historical. There may come a time when gay doesn't describe same-sex oriented men. I came out in 1979. I was in San Francisco when Harvey Milk was supervisor in 1978 visiting my uncle. My first encounter with a large group of gay men was when I went to an open air Ella Fitzgerald concert with my uncle. There were hundreds of gay men sitting on a hillside grooving to Ella. This had a huge impact on me and played a part in my coming out the next summer. It was a different time and place.