Apparition saidwell for starters, at 23 realize that a good dating relationship will be 3-6months. That sounds depressing, but you have to do that 4 or 5 times to find out HOW to date. This is also how you will make your best friends. A couple of those guys will be friends with you forever even if not physically present. Be nice to them even if you break up. And you will break up but that is okay. These are LEARNING relationships, like straight kids go through at 15.
Second, on your dating profile, write a description that is like 3 pages long. Talk about some amusing things in your life rather than what you WANT..as the things in your life ARE what you want. Many will bitch at you that your profile is too much work (ie. they are shallow ), but there will be a lot of lurkers who read every word. they are the ones you want. hit on them.
That's funny…and true. Sounds somewhat like me, although my profile is only 5 paragraphs long, witty, flows easily and smoothly (not the one on here) and each paragraph leads into the next. Not a hard read, but not for superficial or emotionally stunted guys.
Once someone tells me my profile is "too long," I know they are not interested in knowing me- and I'm not interested in letting them get to know me. They'd get this much information in 3 dates, so why rail against it in a profile. It's like saying, 'I like your looks, but don't want to know you care about the world…' Yes, that's real attractive to me. Einstein shared a similar sentiment about people who weren't interested in discovering Life - in others and in the Universe. He said such people were 'already dead.'
A guy with an undamaged heart will like
reading about what "moves" your soul, that you actually love - and get along with - your mother, that you feel
things rather than list a group of activities you like to do. Buddhism believes, the 'doing' state is the corrupt state, as it is always in transition. The only pure state is being (feeling in the heart, staying in the present).
So, if I present an open heart in a profile, I'm sure not seeking a closed one in return. To me personally, that is a case of 'opposites repel.'