It's amazing to me how emotionally attracted you have to be to someone in order to be physically attracted to them.

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    Feb 09, 2009 11:00 PM GMT
    I guess it's kind of a matter of personal preference here...but I recently figured out just how important it is to feel connected with someone in order to feel something during sex.

    I thought it was just physical for me in every aspect...until I attempted to have sex with someone that I barely knew!!

    To put it more vulgarly (if that is a word), his dick tasted like dick...and nothing else.

    I didn't realize that in order to be 100 % into someone's body, you have to be into their personality as well! I had no idea!

    This is really going nowhere, but I just really wanted to share this! A lot's been changing this past year and I'm figuring myself out more and more everyday!
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    Feb 09, 2009 11:24 PM GMT
    "Vulgarly" is indeed a word, the adverbial form of "vulgar." As for how dick tastes, to taste like dick is more than fine by me.

    But just taste and nothing else... yeah, I think I understand. It's often said that the brain is our biggest sex organ, and if you can't stimulate that, the sex ain't gonna be much to brag about.

    Someone's personality can add to the experience, plus I think there are a lot of other ways we relate to guys, that contribute to or detract from the sexual encounter.

    In my shameless whoring days (how I miss them!) I had a simple test for compatibility. After the lustful sex was over, we'd usually go to sleep in bed. I either felt relaxed & comfortable with this naked guy next to me, or I didn't.

    I either was drawn to his warmth, or I scooted over to the mattress edge, as far away as possible. WHY wasn't the issue; I listened to my inner self, that told me what to do. I didn't debate, I didn't philosophize, I didn't spend more than a moment considering it. I just KNEW.

    How I knew I still haven't learned, nor do I care. I just know to trust things inside me regarding attraction to other guys. It's fine to analyze & dissect them here in a thread, but in my daily life I just go with the flow.

    So I agree that being connected with a guy is far better than not being connected. And how you know this... well, I seem to know it without thinking about it, and what works for you I wouldn't dare say.
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    Feb 10, 2009 3:34 AM GMT
    I agree with you 100%. To me, sex isn't that great if it's only physical. When I compare sex I've had with someone I genuinely admire, someone whose personality I enjoy and who I click with on an emotional level, then think of sex I've had with someone who is just physically hot, but devoid of personality or emotional connectedness, there is no comparison.

    I still get nostalgic thinking about the former, while I don't have any fondness thinking about the latter.

    It's true, the brain is the major sex organ.
  • metta

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    Feb 10, 2009 3:37 AM GMT
    great thread....nice too see other people that get it. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 10, 2009 3:44 AM GMT
    I think you should change the thread title's pronoun "you" to "I."

    Regardless, I sort of agree. The sex is better when your partner matters.
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    Feb 10, 2009 8:38 AM GMT
    This is going to sound stupid, but I have the exact opposite problem. The ones I truly care about, that intimate time is spent constantly thinking "is he enjoying it, am i hurting him, is everything ok"...... and the ones i tell myself "i care" but really dont, its like a piece of cake, and I just eat. Its like performance anxiety if you will.... But ill say a kiss, when it is with someone you're connected to and care about. That makes one hell of a difference.
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    Feb 10, 2009 8:42 AM GMT
    Sex is always better when you love the person, duh.
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    Feb 10, 2009 8:46 AM GMT
    sex and making love is different thing
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    Feb 10, 2009 7:00 PM GMT

    Haven't made love for a long time... that's fo sho from this dhirty-fwhore! icon_cool.gif
  • joeisme

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    Feb 10, 2009 7:32 PM GMT
    I agree though I think it's different for everyone - for me physical attraction and personality go hand in hand. Personality outweighs physical attraction however.