That Went Well...

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    May 08, 2016 8:32 PM GMT
    It really did. Specifically, our Mother's Day plans for a neighbor. As anticipated, and that part being not so well, her son who lives less than a mile away declined to see her. Or send a card or anything. He did answer her phone call this morning for once, though. He usually ignores her calls, and her voice mail.

    So we gave her a flowering potted plant, and treated her to lunch at a restaurant. The dear lady turns 91 in 3 weeks, lives alone and has very little activity in her life.

    But she wasn't foolin' around at the restaurant - she ordered a filet mignon! My husband had their Sunday brunch and I had a chef's salad. We both had mimosas, and she shocked us again by having a vodka sour. I'll bet in her day this lady knew how to par-tay. And then she topped it all off with a fancy cheesecake dessert.

    Well, good for her. That was our goal. To enable her to indulge and enjoy herself on Mother's Day. We were there for over 2 hours, seated on an outdoor covered patio, palm trees all around, the most cloudless blue sky I've seen in weeks, the temperature 80F and perfect, a live singer-guitarist for entertainment. I snagged a handicapped parking space not 40 feet from the patio entrance, the minimal distance she could have faced in that place, perfect for her walker.

    I considered it mission accomplished. icon_biggrin.gif
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    May 08, 2016 9:23 PM GMT
    SamJonesBro said
    That was an amazingly nice and sweet thing to do.

    Thanks, but not exceptional here. The first "here" being this condo (like your NYC co-ops). Mostly elderly, mostly gay (this lady's not, but her son is). We're not age-restricted, just the way it is. So we all kinda "circle the wagons" for one another. Our neighbors do us favors, too. It works both ways. This lady we took to lunch gets & holds our mail when we're away for a week or two.

    The second "here" is this gay community of Wilton Manors. As in previous gay communities in which I've lived, we look after each other. Oh, not everybody does, naturally, but enough do that few cases of genuine want or need are ignored if they're communicated to us.

    And the purpose of many of my personal stories on RJ is not to get a pat on the back. I'm more likely to get a kick in the ass for bragging. Rather, it's to encourage others to see if they might have similar opportunities in their own lives to do the same.

    It's a small accomplishment if only my husband & I help 1 old lady, or some of the other things we try. But if LOTS of guys are doing these things, then there's a real impact. Except it won't happen if I don't advertise it.
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    May 08, 2016 9:50 PM GMT
    The weather has been exceptionally nice all weekend. Like, perfect almost.
    If only it stayed like this. ..

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    May 08, 2016 10:14 PM GMT
    Import saidThe weather has been exceptionally nice all weekend. Like, perfect almost.
    If only it stayed like this...

    Ah, you had it, too. Not a cloud in the blue sky as I look outside from this office. Absolutely perfect for the Air Show over the Fort Lauderdale Beach today, which coincides with Navy Fleet Week. I'll bet a lot of people were happy.

    I don't attend the military air shows, saw plenty of 'em in uniform, maybe a little more dramatically than these staged demonstrations for civilians. A fighter breaking the sound barrier right on top you, dropping explosive ordnance including napalm, is not something you'll witness in a public air show.

    But the fighters were screaming overhead as we were having our Mother's Day lunch, making their turns for another beach flyover. We're a little more than a mile from the beach, so they were making their turnarounds right over us.
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    May 09, 2016 5:41 AM GMT
    That was an awesome thing you and your husband did. The world definitely needs more people like you two!
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    May 09, 2016 11:38 AM GMT
    Allen said
    That was an awesome thing you and your husband did. The world definitely needs more people like you two!

    Thanks! Then do a similar thing yourself, if I may suggest it. Or perhaps you already have. Good. And other guys do the same.

    And BTW, hardly "awesome". After all, we had a nice lunch ourselves! Plus it was actually a pleasure for us to try to entertain her. Pleasant lady, her mind still there at 91, we were smiling and laughing the whole time, not a difficult job for us to perform. And then she knocked down that vodka sour! We enjoyed the lunch as much as we hope she did.

    So not at all altruistic, just what people in close communities do for each other. Gawd knows others have done much more for me when I needed it, and for my husband.