Straight guys : What's the appeal ?

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    May 09, 2016 11:21 PM GMT
    One thing I never got is gay culture's fascination with straight guys. Why is it such a turn on ?

    I have to admit, bi guys do turn me on. I find it really hot for a guy who's into girls to be into guys too. I wouldn't know how to explain it.

    But straight guys, if anything, are a turn off to me. If they're straight and there's no chance they can be attracted to me, I don't see the appeal ?

    Is it about the thrill of chasing the unattainable ?
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    May 09, 2016 11:53 PM GMT
    Some of the appeal I'm sure is the unattainable. Guys who are hard to get in general are in demand, and straight men are the hardest to get. I understand the appeal their appeal. I don't understand chasing after straight men hoping they might get drunk and horny one night and let you blow them (only to pretend it didn't happen the next day). That being said, I do enjoy when straight guys get a little flirty.
  • AMoonHawk

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    May 10, 2016 12:05 AM GMT
    There are a lot of "straight" guys that do not possess any attractive quality (just like any subgroup), so I don't think it has anything to do with "straight", it has more to do with looks plus how they carry themselves.
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    May 10, 2016 12:57 PM GMT
    I have a friend that actively go to open bar parties or late night clubs to pick up the drunken straight guys and fuck them... I've asked him why he finds them so hot and apparently it's just a fetish.

    To me though, it's a turn off. I feel like even if they get on with you, it's just because you're available at the moment.
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    May 10, 2016 1:25 PM GMT
    Sexually, straight guys have all the attraction for me as women. Which is another way of saying: NONE.

    Although strangely, that was one of my early "warning signs" that something was building up inside me. I was sitting at a big conference table one day, for a meeting chaired by an Army General. All the participants were Colonels and Lt. Colonels.

    And a particularly handsome and young looking guy was seated to my right. Suddenly I involuntarily lunged toward him to kiss his cheek! To this day I'm not sure why, my best guess being that my suppressed (and still unknown to me) gayness was boiling over.

    Well, kissing another Colonel in front of the General and all the other Officers would have been not only a career ender, but a chargeable offense. I stopped myself inches from his face, and instead pivoted down to the floor, exclaiming I had dropped a pen. To disguise my lurch at him as a function of that movement. Nobody commented.

    There was yet another later meeting at that table where I was tempted to kiss another Colonel, but I felt the urge early enough to suppress it. Less than a year later I retired, and a few months after that I came out. All my interests since then being with other gay guys, no straights.

    BTW, almost all the Colonels and Lt. Colonels were in gorgeous shape. All in our 40s, as I was, you had to stay in great physical condition for retention and promotion purposes.

    There were mandatory weight tests and physical fitness tests we all had to pass (I would "MAX" my test, sometimes 2 tests back-to-back when I was training my college ROTC cadets). Only the General Officers got a pass on a lot of that, but even they were in pretty impressive shape. Forget the Hollywood movie portrayals.
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    May 10, 2016 2:17 PM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidThere are a lot of "straight" guys that do not possess any attractive quality (just like any subgroup), so I don't think it has anything to do with "straight", it has more to do with looks plus how they carry themselves.


    I agree with this more so than anything else.

    if you're attractive then you're attractive...period. (straight, bi, gay, whatever)

    for some it may be fetish (like someone else mentioned in this forum)

    for me the appeal comes from someone being so naturally comfortable and true with themselves (i view 'genuinely' effeminate guys the same as straight). the straight guys who know themselves, what/who they like, and how...and couldn't care less about another's opinion regarding them...those are the ones that gets me going.

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    May 10, 2016 2:41 PM GMT
    "Straight guys : What's the appeal?"

    Some men radiate a natural social virility. You hear it in the voice, you see it in the body-language and demeanor.

    So-called "gay" men can also possess this BUT they tend to be so caught up with "being gay" or in trying to "hide" it, that they come across as artificial.
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    May 10, 2016 2:47 PM GMT
    Lol, uh, straight guys have a normal life in society where their sexuality is encouraged and praised... what do gay men want most deeply... a normal life in society where their sexually can be accepted, and maybe even one day praised. We both have dicks, we're both still men despite our differences and connected, yet live entirely different lives in some ways. That's the appeal.
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    May 10, 2016 4:48 PM GMT
    Their cock and ass icon_twisted.gif
  • Wendigo9

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    May 10, 2016 7:11 PM GMT
    I'd say the latest style is the so called "metrosexual" era, seems alot of straight guys my age are letting their girlfriends dress them, no matter how gay they look.
  • davfit

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    May 10, 2016 8:55 PM GMT
    TO23 saidLol, uh, straight guys have a normal life in society where their sexuality is encouraged and praised... what do gay men want most deeply... a normal life in society where their sexually can be accepted, and maybe even one day praised. We both have dicks, we're both still men despite our differences and connected, yet live entirely different lives in some ways. That's the appeal.


    Wow ...A Great Comment ..and my two cents and they don't act like some gay men..
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    May 10, 2016 9:02 PM GMT
    Hmmm well I can only speak for myself, & I may not fall in the majority on this topic, but here's my thoughts. So as for the overall appearance of attractive straight guys I don't think there are many if any that I haven't seen just as attractive gay guys with bodies, & faces just as good or better. Now when it comes to perceived masculinity I think that's where the attraction lies for most towards straight men. Most seem to not be effeminate, where with gay men often you have to wait till they speak to know what you're going to get, lol.
    So on the same topic, but something that puts straight guys in the " ill pass " category is personal hygiene. Most of my male friends are straight, & while they may smell fine, there's one big issue I can't overlook. Skid marks!! WTF?!?! Cmon guys, what's the deal with that? I've never had this issue, before I came out, & after, because of a secret. Are you ready for it? It's because I WIPE MY DAMN ASS AFTER I GO UNTIL ITS CLEAN!! Lol. Seriously though if you have skid marks in your underwear then no way I'm ever going near your butt any other time.
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    May 10, 2016 9:04 PM GMT
    TO23 saidLol, uh, straight guys have a normal life in society where their sexuality is encouraged and praised... what do gay men want most deeply... a normal life in society where their sexually can be accepted, and maybe even one day praised. We both have dicks, we're both still men despite our differences and connected, yet live entirely different lives in some ways. That's the appeal.


    Wow ...A Great Comment ..and my two cents and they don't act like some gay men..
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    May 10, 2016 9:15 PM GMT
    TO23 saidLol, uh, straight guys have a normal life in society where their sexuality is encouraged and praised... what do gay men want most deeply... a normal life in society where their sexually can be accepted, and maybe even one day praised. We both have dicks, we're both still men despite our differences and connected, yet live entirely different lives in some ways. That's the appeal.


    This. Personally them being unattainable has nothing to do with the attraction for me. It's the fact that they're (for lack of a better word) 'normal' guys. When it comes down to it, straight guys and gay guys just act differently. Straight guys have a different air about them, the way they hold themselves. It's just so different from your average gay guy.
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    May 10, 2016 10:01 PM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidThere are a lot of "straight" guys that do not possess any attractive quality (just like any subgroup), so I don't think it has anything to do with "straight", it has more to do with looks plus how they carry themselves.

    This, and sort of what Brannon said about them being normal, which again, is about how they act. Guys who like straight guys or straight acting gay guys won't find an effeminate straight guy attractive.
  • Felony84

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    May 10, 2016 10:27 PM GMT
    I've found the straight guys I've been attracted to have been more attentive, conversational, and have less attitude. I hope they're gay or bi, but soon discover they're straight. The fact that they're attentive and seem interesting in wanting to talk should've been the dead giveaway for me since gay men tend to be more judgmental in whether or not they want to talk to you in my opinion. The straight ones have been cooler and more laid back. That's the turn on for me anyway. And not all gay men are like that, but it's like looking for a needle in a haystack.
  • mcbrion

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    May 11, 2016 3:49 AM GMT
    Sometimes the attraction for straight men is a distraction to keep some guys from recognizing that it might be hard to be close to other men, and if they pick unavailable men, they can fool themselves into not seeing themselves clearly.
    On the other hand, straight men have a sense of brotherhood that can be pretty cool - in the friendship sense. Once they are really buddies with each other, they stay in each other's lives. And that can be attractive to a guy, gay or not. Inclusion is pretty powerful, and some parts of gay culture have yet to mature into full inclusiveness and not putting each other down. So I could see why a guy'd fall for a straight guy. I never have, but I can see it happening in a gay man's life once or twice.
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    May 12, 2016 2:12 AM GMT
    Only straight men who could be or are good fathers of sons because they get the inner male child that need to be addressed in adult relationships


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    May 12, 2016 1:31 PM GMT
    Felony84 saidI've found the straight guys I've been attracted to have been more attentive, conversational, and have less attitude. I hope they're gay or bi, but soon discover they're straight. The fact that they're attentive and seem interesting in wanting to talk should've been the dead giveaway for me since gay men tend to be more judgmental in whether or not they want to talk to you in my opinion. The straight ones have been cooler and more laid back. That's the turn on for me anyway. And not all gay men are like that, but it's like looking for a needle in a haystack.
    That is the exact same thing I experienced when being around both straight and bisexual guys. They are cooler, more laid back, and appear to be much happier and in total control of their lives. It is also easier to say hello and strike up a conversation with them.
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    May 12, 2016 3:22 PM GMT
    mcbrion saidSometimes the attraction for straight men is a distraction to keep some guys from recognizing that it might be hard to be close to other men, and if they pick unavailable men, they can fool themselves into not seeing themselves clearly.
    On the other hand, straight men have a sense of brotherhood that can be pretty cool - in the friendship sense. Once they are really buddies with each other, they stay in each other's lives. And that can be attractive to a guy, gay or not. Inclusion is pretty powerful, and some parts of gay culture have yet to mature into full inclusiveness and not putting each other down. So I could see why a guy'd fall for a straight guy. I never have, but I can see it happening in a gay man's life once or twice.


    +100 Good post, bro.
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    May 12, 2016 7:00 PM GMT
    It's less a question of "fascination" and more a matter of statistics. Put simply, gay men are sexually attracted to other men and, given there are far more straight men than gay men in the world, "sexually attractive" straight men will always be preponderant.
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    May 13, 2016 7:35 PM GMT
    I think it has to do with straight men may have less attitude than gay men. Some not all and maybe that gay men like to *turn them?? lol we want what we can't have. And some straight guys act masc, straight and not femme like some gays? Just my observation. But I noticed that if gay men like straight guys, the straights tend to be all cute straight frat jocks, not beer bellies types. lol