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  • get2know

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    May 11, 2016 5:01 PM GMT
    My top friend kisses me and tries to have sex with me and I say no and push him slightly and he puts it in anyways?

    No screaming no beating no fighting
  • Destinharbor

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    May 11, 2016 5:17 PM GMT
    Stop acting like a girl.
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    May 11, 2016 5:45 PM GMT
    It could amount to rape, but that would depend on his state of mind, his actions, your actions and the surrounding circumstances.

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    May 11, 2016 5:56 PM GMT
    Sounds like a case where no means yes. Doesn't sound like rape to me. I agree with Destinharbor; stop acting like a girl.
  • FirestormDavi...

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    May 11, 2016 8:47 PM GMT
    these guys saying don't act like a girl what the FUCK does that mean

    yeah it's rape

    but how did he just put it in, were you both hanging out naked?


    no never means yes
  • mystery905

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    May 11, 2016 8:51 PM GMT
    No means No.
  • secondstartot...

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    May 11, 2016 9:00 PM GMT
  • jeep334

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    May 11, 2016 9:00 PM GMT
    get2know saidMy top friend kisses me and tries to have sex with me and I say no and push him slightly and he puts it in anyways?

    No screaming no beating no fighting


    I agree with the thoughts of the others in that it depends so much on the circumstances. I think the bottom line answer is if he simply over-powered you or controlled you physically is some manner, it's rape. No does mean No without a doubt. But did he really know you meant no? Did you fight him off? Did you even resist? Your actions speak to him in ways that can dictate his actions. Too many answered questions. I you really mean no, then stay away from him.
  • jeep334

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    May 11, 2016 9:14 PM GMT
    secondstartotheright said


    Excellent. Thanks for sharing.
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    May 11, 2016 9:24 PM GMT
    Rinse out your vagina and quit complaining.
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    May 11, 2016 10:55 PM GMT
    Rape is a serious problem that must be addressed, even if it the raped person is male.

    Everyone deserves respect even a naysayer bottom guy

    Btw a bit outrageous, some comments here. Even if what happened to you wasn't rape.
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    May 11, 2016 10:56 PM GMT
    The word "NO" is not subject to interpretation. "No" doesn't mean "yes" or "maybe".
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    May 12, 2016 12:23 AM GMT
    Please people, he makes no mention of fear. He "pushes him slightly." "No screaming, no beating, no fighting." Unless the OP's asshole is as loose as a drunk sorority girl, it's not that easy to just "put it in."

    OP is trolling you fools.
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    May 12, 2016 12:25 AM GMT
    rodo saidRape is a serious problem that must be addressed, even if it the raped person is male.

    Everyone deserves respect even a naysayer bottom guy

    Btw a bit outrageous, some comments here. Even if what happened to you wasn't rape.


    Which makes the OP's trivializing it reprehensible. And sorry I've no respect for the OP.
  • Apparition

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    May 12, 2016 12:46 AM GMT
    i can barely rape someone who wants it and is helping...how can it just slip in?
  • metta

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    May 12, 2016 12:48 AM GMT
    Yes, without it being mutual, it is rape. You might want to reconsider your friendship with this person. As for some of the comments here, that is very concerning and they don't seem to get that no means no. They may have legal problems in their future if they behave that it is ok to ignore it when someone says no. It does not matter what you were wearing or if you were not wearing anything. I'm not an attorney, but I did study this a little when working on my degree in MHR and the law is very clear on this.
  • Triggerman

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    May 12, 2016 12:49 AM GMT
    Why are you naked with your best friend? He pushes it in through your pants?
  • Triggerman

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    May 12, 2016 12:57 AM GMT
    I wear jeans, denim, or cargo shorts. No one could push it in unless they have awesome Viagra with a cutting edge. So you were naked? Naked with your "best Friend"? I don't buy it. I have plenty of best friends. We never sleep naked just as friends. Rape is rape? Yeah, it is. Don't devalue it by saying this is
  • Triggerman

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    May 12, 2016 1:03 AM GMT
    whole thing is ridiculous. I said no then he put it in? How would that even happen? You turn left or right it is not going in. Unless you where incapacitated by drugs or drink which you did not say.
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    May 12, 2016 7:06 AM GMT
    sounds like a trolling post
  • RainBow_Drago...

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    May 12, 2016 7:44 AM GMT
    OP: Repeat after me you need to go to back to school because you don't understand the basic mechanisms of your own asshole.
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    May 12, 2016 4:35 PM GMT
    If you say NO , and he still pushes his cock inside your arse , then it is RAPE !!
    There is no way around rape ...
  • secondstartot...

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    May 12, 2016 4:51 PM GMT
    Not4u saidPlease people, he makes no mention of fear. He "pushes him slightly." "No screaming, no beating, no fighting." Unless the OP's asshole is as loose as a drunk sorority girl, it's not that easy to just "put it in."

    OP is trolling you fools.


    let us use the tea analogy ... so I offer a person tea... " say would you like some tea ? "
    and unless they start screaming and beating and fighting ... they actually want tea ?
    sounds ridiculous... because it is ... a simple no is all that should suffice , anything else is non consent ... troll post or not
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    May 12, 2016 4:53 PM GMT
    DOMINUS saidThe word "NO" is not subject to interpretation. "No" doesn't mean "yes" or "maybe".


    That is why the surrounding circumstances are important. If, for example, prior to this occasion, the OP and his friend had regularly acted out a playful "rape fantasy" in which the OP put up a token resistance before penetration, the friend might justifiably claim he believed the OP was consenting to sex in this instance. There simply isn't sufficient information on which to base a legal opinion.
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    May 12, 2016 5:00 PM GMT
    The general legal standard is "penetration, however slight" defines rape, and distinguishes it from sexual harassment or sexual battery, which embraces non-consensual contact of a sexual nature, as well as violations of the "no word."
    That said, I think some manning-up is definitely in order here, or at least some improved discrimination in whom you allow to get near you - physically, emotionally, and otherwise.