I'm only fucking one person

  • Eli_jah

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    May 12, 2016 3:17 AM GMT
    I don't see how some guys can have four five six new guys a week plus three or four fuck buddies. It just seems exhausting. At the peak of my slut phase I had maybe 20 guys in a year.

    Maybe we all plateau at some point. Thoughts?
  • Destinharbor

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    May 12, 2016 3:28 AM GMT
    It's just boys' locker room talk. It is aspirational, not actual. Fun idea but never happens.
  • TombRaider

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    May 12, 2016 3:58 AM GMT
    ^ oh in that case I've been with 69 guys. Kidding I've inly been with one, who is now my husband.
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    May 12, 2016 4:05 AM GMT
    "Everyone else has had more sex than me!"

  • Destinharbor

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    May 12, 2016 4:32 AM GMT
    TombRaider said^ oh in that case I've been with 69 guys. Kidding I've inly been with one, who is now my husband.

    Bet you're a happy man. Lucky in love. Me, too.
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    May 12, 2016 5:08 AM GMT
    renegay saidI don't see how some guys can have four five six new guys a week plus three or four fuck buddies. It just seems exhausting. At the peak of my slut phase I had maybe 20 guys in a year.

    Maybe we all plateau at some point. Thoughts?


    I phased in and out of that crowd at the peak of my slut phase*. Those guys who went through three or four different "dates" on a Saturday night were clearly in it for The Game, more than for the Sex. Kind of an addictive thing.




    *Oh, who am I kidding. If I weren't getting old, I'd still be going for the peak. But really, I prefer to be fucking four or five different people. But, you know, mostly the same ones every month.
  • Twozera12

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    May 12, 2016 7:22 AM GMT
    How I see it, if you are satisfied with the sex & affection towards one guy, there is no need to fuck >1 guy a week or month or whatever. So, I don't see having a different guy to fuck frequently as a bragging point. It makes me feel sorry for them, but maybe because they have not found the perfect fuck buddy yet..


  • TombRaider

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    May 12, 2016 4:28 PM GMT
    Destinharbor said
    TombRaider said^ oh in that case I've been with 69 guys. Kidding I've inly been with one, who is now my husband.

    Bet you're a happy man. Lucky in love. Me, too.


    Yes I am icon_smile.gif
  • Apparition

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    May 14, 2016 12:28 AM GMT
    if it was not for diseases, i would have fucked everything that let me. but i am monogamous and not getting much. sigh.
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    May 28, 2016 5:47 AM GMT
    I also think it is a phase thing... In my twenties I had a phase of lots of guys (after a particularly bad break up), then none, then several monogamous relationships... so it all depends.
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    May 28, 2016 1:41 PM GMT
    urbangay said
    I also think it is a phase thing... In my twenties I had a phase of lots of guys (after a particularly bad break up), then none, then several monogamous relationships... so it all depends.

    Yes, phases, and also opportunity. I was single right after I came out late in life, and found myself in an incredibly horny phase. More than when I was a teenager. Plus I had opportunity, traveling a great deal on business. I might drive to 3 different cities in 3 days. No wonder traveling salesmen once had such a randy reputation.

    Using the Internet and one of those printed gay guides (I forget the name) I'd map out all the local gay clubs before my trip. Sometimes even adjust my hotel locations and travel route to better visit them. On one 3-day trip I tricked with 8 different guys, all strangers I'd never met before (one night was a bonus, included a 3-way). I was totally honest, made it clear I was just having sex, and they were doing the same thing.

    So it is possible to put a lot of notches in your belt very quickly. But these weren't dates, just bar tricks. And believe it or not I prefer being monogamous with 1 man, rather than going into "full hunt mode" as I used to call it. I'm monogamous now, plus far too old for those antics, anyway. But it was kinda fun while it lasted. icon_biggrin.gif
  • SilverRRCloud

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    May 28, 2016 2:50 PM GMT
    Eli_jah saidI don't see how some guys can have four five six new guys a week plus three or four fuck buddies. It just seems exhausting. At the peak of my slut phase I had maybe 20 guys in a year.

    Maybe we all plateau at some point. Thoughts?


    Yes, We Can!

    And, yes, it can be exhausting. And, yes, after a while it does get boring, though it sure is a lot of fun till you reach that point.icon_biggrin.gif

    I have observed that some guys simply have a very strong sexual drive. Some of them have an inclination towards being promiscuous, too. I imagine that this is something that is in your genes to one degree or the other.

    Some guys have grown up in a sexually positive environment. Going out there and playing the field is what every healthy young man is supposed to do. Sure, people may tease you over it, but everyone will agree that you are doing the right thing. The prevailing attitude of such cultures is that unless you get it out of your system in your late teens and throughout your 20's and early 30's, it'll come to haunt you once you have your own family and once you should be focusing on other issues.

    Yet another issue is that one of your actual work/lifestyle. A dude living in a small town tucked away in the middle of nowhere may be having loads of sex with one or both of his buddies but he is not very likely to win the promiscuity context by any stretch of imagination. On the other hand, a guy living in a major metro city, traveling extensively for both business and pleasure gets a lot more exposure, and usually benefits from being a 'new' face among your usual crowd. Living in various hotels as opposed to living in your well-known neighborhood is also conducive to NSA, totally casual hookups.

    As always, life circumstances are what they are. You can try to change them, too. You can be offered various choices, and since it is your life, you call the shots...

    SC