Is your job sexy?

  • theonewhoknoc...

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    May 14, 2016 5:43 PM GMT
    My day job (nothing to do with my drawings lol) is pretty lucrative but boring - not the kind of chick magnet jobs like pilots or architects haha.

    Was sitting at a restaurant patio with a couple gay friends the other day - we were commenting on the huge number of young couples surrounding our table and how the guys were generally much less attractive than their girlfriends. It must be their careers, we assumed. Unfortunately gays can't seem to leverage their bread-winning skills the same way straights can icon_lol.gif I have hugely successful friends who are lawyers, start-up owners, etc, who actually try to date gogo dancers and retail sales people, not just bang them as a sidepiece.

    Are we more looks-oriented, or is money simply less of an issue?
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    May 14, 2016 6:05 PM GMT
    theonewhoknocks saidMy day job (nothing to do with my drawings lol) is pretty lucrative but boring - not the kind of chick magnet jobs like pilots or architects haha.

    Was sitting at a restaurant patio with a couple gay friends the other days - we were commenting on the huge number of young couples surrounding our table and how the guys were generally much less attractive than their girlfriends. It must be their careers, we assumed. Unfortunately gays can't seem to leverage their bread-winning skills the same way straights can icon_lol.gif I have hugely successful friends who are lawyers, start-up owners, etc, who actually try to date gogo dancers and retail sales people, not just bang them as a sidepiece.

    Are we more looks-oriented, or is money simply less of an issue?

    I think so. Both can be right. Men are visual creature. The need for sex can be just simple, no need that they could be pregnant and need someone to provide for the children.
    And men, well most of them, have pride and want to be independent.
    And men, they chase, lots of them don't wait to be chased. if they find someone that they like, they go after them, and looks and physical attraction play big part in terms of first impression.
    Of course if we're not talking about personality and other qualities.
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    May 14, 2016 9:57 PM GMT
    Both... -hahahaicon_rolleyes.gif
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    May 15, 2016 10:57 AM GMT
    I think it's men, straight or gay. I have made the same observation about my friends. Most of them have pretty wife. These friends of mine have jobs which pay quite good. Their wives don't match up in terms of career or salary they earn. But they are better looking than their husbands.
    I make decent money, but most of the guys I meet have no clue about what exactly I do. I just say that I work with computers.
  • nice_chap

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    May 15, 2016 5:51 PM GMT
    I've turned down lots of men who were earning much more than me because they weren't hot enough.
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    May 15, 2016 5:57 PM GMT
    Any job that allows you to leave your parents' basement should be sexy.

  • David3K

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    May 16, 2016 2:10 PM GMT
    Im a construction worker
  • Fireworkz

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    May 16, 2016 2:23 PM GMT
    Do you need a sexy job if you are already sexy?
    Wouldn't that be too much sexiness for the world?
  • roadbikeRob

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    May 16, 2016 10:34 PM GMT
    My office/mailroom clerk job is definitely not sexy, it sucks and it is dead end. But in todays supply side trickle down economy, what can one doicon_question.gif
  • Fireworkz

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    May 16, 2016 10:45 PM GMT
    roadbikeRob saidMy office/mailroom clerk job is definitely not sexy, it sucks and it is dead end. But in todays supply side trickle down economy, what can one doicon_question.gif


    Start your own business perhaps?
  • slowprogress

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    May 17, 2016 12:48 AM GMT
    I definitely pull chicks with ease, though I'm not sure if my job (architect) is a factor. Getting gay guys tho, as an Asian, seems futile in comparison lol
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    May 17, 2016 2:54 AM GMT
    I've lived the sexy dream of owning my businesses.
    But I think a lot more about business than I think about sex
    and that's why I'm successful.
    You Can't Have It All.
  • Allen

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    May 17, 2016 6:50 AM GMT
    roadbikeRob saidMy office/mailroom clerk job is definitely not sexy, it sucks and it is dead end. But in todays supply side trickle down economy, what can one doicon_question.gif


    Quit your pathetic whining. If you're a mail room clerk (especially at your age), you have only yourself to blame. You obviously lack ambition.
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    May 17, 2016 2:03 PM GMT
    Allen said
    roadbikeRob saidMy office/mailroom clerk job is definitely not sexy, it sucks and it is dead end. But in todays supply side trickle down economy, what can one doicon_question.gif


    Quit your pathetic whining. If you're a mail room clerk (especially at your age), you have only yourself to blame. You obviously lack ambition.


    Not to pile on, but these words are true.
    The best moment in life is when we finally get angry at ourselves and we take responsibility for our own life.
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    May 17, 2016 2:05 PM GMT
    All I know is that I'm too sexy for my job.
  • David3K

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    May 17, 2016 8:05 PM GMT
    Fireworkz said
    roadbikeRob saidMy office/mailroom clerk job is definitely not sexy, it sucks and it is dead end. But in todays supply side trickle down economy, what can one doicon_question.gif


    Start your own business perhaps?

    I agree with this
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    May 18, 2016 4:42 AM GMT
    Yes, it can be.


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  • craycraydoesd...

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    May 23, 2016 5:32 AM GMT
    Kickstartering said
    Allen said
    roadbikeRob saidMy office/mailroom clerk job is definitely not sexy, it sucks and it is dead end. But in todays supply side trickle down economy, what can one doicon_question.gif


    Quit your pathetic whining. If you're a mail room clerk (especially at your age), you have only yourself to blame. You obviously lack ambition.


    Not to pile on, but these words are true.
    The best moment in life is when we finally get angry at ourselves and we take responsibility for our own life.


    LMAO!

    Yes, roadragerob is indeed bitter at the world!! icon_biggrin.gif
  • interesting

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    May 23, 2016 6:12 AM GMT
    My job is so not sexy, I work in retail, so assisting/arguing customers, but I am trying to work towards something else that hopefully will pay off.
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    May 23, 2016 1:44 PM GMT
    My 2 cents: Generally speaking, successful people tend to look for other successful people ("birds of the same feather flock together" type thing). The problem in the gay world is three-fold, however: they're either too successful that they have very little time for each other; they bore each other to death because every conversation is too intellectual or too serious, and there's hardly any levity or dumb talk; or, they're so attractive to other gay men that they're constantly on guard that the other will ultimately succumb to poaching. So, what inevitably occurs is that many, but not all, highly successful gay men sometimes gravitate towards gay men who are less successful than they are.
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    May 23, 2016 2:00 PM GMT
    Kickstartering saidI've lived the sexy dream of owning my businesses.
    But I think a lot more about business than I think about sex
    and that's why I'm successful.
    You Can't Have It All.


    Ha so true! I have very little free time right now making sure everything is running smoothly.
  • roadbikeRob

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    May 28, 2016 2:54 PM GMT
    Kickstartering said
    Allen said
    roadbikeRob saidMy office/mailroom clerk job is definitely not sexy, it sucks and it is dead end. But in todays supply side trickle down economy, what can one doicon_question.gif


    Quit your pathetic whining. If you're a mail room clerk (especially at your age), you have only yourself to blame. You obviously lack ambition.


    Not to pile on, but these words are true.
    The best moment in life is when we finally get angry at ourselves and we take responsibility for our own life.
    Much easier said than done. Ambition is something that you are born with and not something that is learned or developed like you falsely perceive. As for my job situation, in this supply side, trickle down world you take the jobs that are available. Most jobs today are low wage, service sector jobs. The US is sliding backwards into becoming a third world country. You are one ignorant, cold hearted motherfuckericon_mad.gif
  • SilverRRCloud

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    May 28, 2016 7:26 PM GMT
    Gay guys typically do not plan to raise children. The general plan is to live DINKy lives. This allows a high(er) income dude to look for a possibly much hotter guy than himself to date. One solid income, plus one which covers some of the expenses is an arrangement good enough for two guys even if they want to live in relative comfort. Despite popular stereotypes, many gay men are NOT into over accessorizing.

    I often hear heterosexual couples talking about their relationship as being an enterprise aimed at raising kids, sending them to college and paying off the mortgage, so that they may one day (possibly?) retire? If a male happens to be a good earner that usually matters more than his looks or many other characteristics. So, a good provider gets to date a possibly lesser but a better looking provider.

    A few str8 dudes have become cautious when it comes to any form of committed, long-term, possibly living-together arrangement. Some jurisdictions recognize such arrangements as practical marriages, and the division of assets may be due after a breakup.

    As a rule, asymmetrical, non-registered gay relationships rarely end up before law courts in an attempt to divide the assets... Hence, a number of successful gay men look beyond their social class for company...

    SC
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    May 28, 2016 7:41 PM GMT
    SilverRRCloud saidIf a male happens to be a good earner that usually matters more than his looks or many other characteristics.

    My observation has been that that's it 100% of the time with women. With women a fat ugly guy who makes big bucks will win out every time over a hot handsome guy who's a mail room clerk. Back before we were homo sapiens a woman's survival depended on a mate who could bring home the bacon, not being handsome, so from an evolutionary standpoint it makes sense for women to prefer a good provider.
  • nice_chap

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    May 28, 2016 8:12 PM GMT
    I told a guy recently about my retail job and his immediate response was "what went wrong there?" and it really disheartened me. I grew up wanting to be an artist, hearing people tell me I'm so talented and I'll get far. I got my art degree, spent 7 years struggling to make it as a freelance designer until I finally gave up and got a job in retail . Within a few months i was offered the position of deputy manager. So no, I'm not living the dream, and I'm well aware of my failures and disappointments, but I'm not ashamed of what I currently do for a living. Getting this job gave me back some of my self respect. I still draw and paint as a leisurely pastime and I'd like to get back into a creative role at some point, but I'm quite happy taking a break from pursuing my "dream" job and doing a "normal" job with reliable hours and a team of people I enjoy working with.