Is it considered fat shaming to not be attracted to fat people?

  • gkai

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    May 16, 2016 4:16 PM GMT
    It's just that I've heard people say it's discriminatory to think overweight people aren't physically attractive. I used to be sort of friends with a fat gay guy, and he complained a lot about people insulting the overweight and guys not liking his body, but then he regularly called people ugly, and insulted guys with small dicks and said he hates vaginas and referred to them as tuna tins. It's just that he said this stuff in front of my other two friends and they never seemed to care when he said that stuff. Isn't that "body shaming" too? :-/
  • Allen

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    May 17, 2016 6:23 AM GMT
    Nothing wrong with not being attracted to fat people. We find attractive what we find attractive. And I'll admit, I'm definitely not physically attracted to fat people either. But I don't make a person's weight a criteria for friendship.

    However, I believe it is wrong to express it in a hateful or hurtful way--such as "No fats." Something like that is totally not necessary.

    If you want to express you're not into over-weight people, just specify a preference for fit guys. Granted, an over-weight guy who is interested in you might be disappointed when reading your profile.

    "Seeking muscular" as opposed to "No skinny guys."
    "Seeking tall" as opposed to "No short guys."
    "Seeking 21-30" as opposed to "No old guys."
    "Seeking good-looking" as opposed to "No ugly guys."

    It's really not that hard.

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    May 17, 2016 10:39 AM GMT
    How you treat people is what is important. Treat people with respect regardless of whether you get a boner for them.
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    May 17, 2016 11:10 AM GMT
    woodfordr saidHow you treat people is what is important. Treat people with respect regardless of whether you get a boner for them.


    Agree 100%
  • tj85016

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    May 17, 2016 11:43 AM GMT
    "Attracted" in what way? Does that mean you want (or don't want) to date or sleep with fat people . . . or just be friends and share a box of Krispy Kreme's with them? icon_lol.gif
  • okaces91

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    May 17, 2016 11:49 AM GMT
    It definitely depends, for sure. A few years ago, I was definitely obese, and could understand why no one would want to date me. It's completely fine to have a "type" you're attracted to, but it certainly is not alright to belittle or overtly demean someone because they don't adhere to your preferences. If you don't have anything nice to say...

    You get it haha
  • maggass

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    May 17, 2016 10:06 PM GMT
    People who insult others' looks are most usually insecure about themselves. It's basic bullying 101 reasoning.
  • ANTiSociaLiNJ...

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    May 17, 2016 10:22 PM GMT
    "Is it considered fat shaming to not be attracted to fat people?"

    NO! You have every right to be attracted to whomever floats your boat. I'm in the process of losing weight myself. And to be painfully honest, I would not want to date someone who looks like me. But I'm working on losing the weight and am working hard in the gym. I've gone from a 38" waist t a 36" in five weeks! My goal is to get to a 32" or 31" waist which is what I had when I was in high school. I let myself go but I'm getting it back.

  • gkai

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    May 19, 2016 12:18 AM GMT
    maggass saidPeople who insult others' looks are most usually insecure about themselves. It's basic bullying 101 reasoning.


    What about good looking people who insult extremely ugly people? I don't think it's insecurity or envy in that case.
  • dreamcock

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    May 19, 2016 2:06 AM GMT
    You like what u like Im not sexually attracted to fat people but that doesnt mean theyre not good people I treat everyone respectful unless theyre disrespectful to me. Good looking people who are mean to ugly people are just asses!!
  • Scotticvs

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    May 19, 2016 8:24 AM GMT
    I don't agree that it's discrimination if you're not physically attracted to the aesthetic of higher body fat percentage. It sort of makes sense if you think about it from a sexual/biological point of view between masculine and feminine.

    Men generally have less body fat than women do. So to have a higher body fat percentage will consequently result in a bodily appearance that has a more "feminine" aspect as opposed to leaner "masculine" builds. And if you're more attracted to physical aspects that are more "masculine" (e.g. strong jaw line, prominent brow, thicker skin, tall height, lower body fat, increased muscle mass, etc.) then the higher body fat might not be attractive.

    Of course, it's all relative and that's just my best educated guess on why we may not be attracted to it, beyond the general cultural stereotypes of overweight people lacking moral control, being lazy, unhygienic, mean, easily tired, unmotivated, etc.
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    May 19, 2016 9:56 AM GMT
    I don't care if it is discriminatory or not. Fat is disgusting; however, mobidly obese is fascinating. I'm addicted to TLC's "My 600 Pound Life." How much food you have to consume to get that huge and the time, effort, and chewing involved!
  • JackNNJ

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    May 19, 2016 7:07 PM GMT
    Yes. You should long for their rolls of fat and disgusting body odor.
  • maggass

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    May 19, 2016 11:09 PM GMT
    gkai said
    maggass saidPeople who insult others' looks are most usually insecure about themselves. It's basic bullying 101 reasoning.


    What about good looking people who insult extremely ugly people? I don't think it's insecurity or envy in that case.


    Well good looking or bad looking is subjective. And even good looking people can be insecure.
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    May 20, 2016 12:31 AM GMT
    Unfortunately, yes, in today's idiotic social justice warrior climate if you point out that you're not sexually attracted to obese people, or even if you point out someone is anything other than fit (chubby, fat, obese, morbidly obese) you're a horrible terrible person and are involved in "fat shaming".

    It's dumb. I mean, I would never go out of my way to tell someone they were fat or obese, but when my good (straight) friend Casey points out that he's gained another ten pounds of fat this year and is definitely obese, I don't say "no you're not! You're just big boned!". I agree with him and ask if he needs any advice on nutrition. But I'm sure there are people out there who would say I'm "fat shaming" him by agreeing with him that he's a fat ass and that I should lie to him and tell him he's attractive no matter what. Or some shit.
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    May 20, 2016 12:49 AM GMT
    maggass said
    gkai said
    maggass saidPeople who insult others' looks are most usually insecure about themselves. It's basic bullying 101 reasoning.


    What about good looking people who insult extremely ugly people? I don't think it's insecurity or envy in that case.


    Well good looking or bad looking is subjective. And even good looking people can be insecure.


    I've known extremely good looking people who are terribly insecure and required a boatload of validation.
  • maggass

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    May 20, 2016 4:58 AM GMT
    PhoenixNYC said
    maggass said
    gkai said
    maggass saidPeople who insult others' looks are most usually insecure about themselves. It's basic bullying 101 reasoning.


    What about good looking people who insult extremely ugly people? I don't think it's insecurity or envy in that case.


    Well good looking or bad looking is subjective. And even good looking people can be insecure.


    I've known extremely good looking people who are terribly insecure and required a boatload of validation.


    It's true. Just look at Instagram. It's filled with hot people seeking attention and validation.
  • nice_chap

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    May 20, 2016 8:48 AM GMT
    gkai saidIt's just that I've heard people say it's discriminatory to think overweight people aren't physically attractive.


    So, does that make it homophobic if a straight man doesn't want to date a gay man? icon_confused.gif

    It's not just about looks, though. People who like to keep in shape also like to meet people who share their enthusiasm for fitness.

    It's only really fat shaming if someone says nasty things about a person's weight. Saying "you're not my type" is not discriminatory.
  • gkai

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    May 23, 2016 10:44 PM GMT
    maggass said
    PhoenixNYC said
    maggass said
    gkai said
    maggass saidPeople who insult others' looks are most usually insecure about themselves. It's basic bullying 101 reasoning.


    What about good looking people who insult extremely ugly people? I don't think it's insecurity or envy in that case.


    Well good looking or bad looking is subjective. And even good looking people can be insecure.


    I've known extremely good looking people who are terribly insecure and required a boatload of validation.


    It's true. Just look at Instagram. It's filled with hot people seeking attention and validation.


    They might be insecure but they definitely wouldn't envy people who are ugly.