May 25, 2016 9:58 AM GMT
I've been dating a guy for about eight months, and we get along perfectly. We both want to move forward and are talking now about moving in together.
One thing is a problem though. I'm thinking of breaking up with him.
He has several friends who he's had for over a decade and they totally HATE me. At first, things were fine, but after a few months they began ostracizing me and actually attempting to turn mutual friends against me.
Any involvement with this people makes me very uncomfortable and I dread the idea of having to interact with these people.
They are such a problem that I am wanting to break up with my boyfriend just to be done with the situation and forget these people existed.
Here's where I know readers will get pissed -
My boyfriend has said they don't have to be part of our lives. That we will be together and he won't have anything more to do with them.
This sounds like a solution, but I don't think that's fair to my boyfriend.
I think if these people have been his friends for 10+ years, it's wrong for him to cut them off for me.
I've told him this and gave him the option for us to have a mutual breakup and for him to find someone else who his friends like, but he doesn't want that.
Still, I feel like I just want to be done with this situation and move on.
My idea of a good relationship isn't one where my boyfriend's friends all hate me, and I don't like the negative energy around it.
Am I making a mistake if I breakup with him, or should I try to make the relationship work?
One thing is a problem though. I'm thinking of breaking up with him.
He has several friends who he's had for over a decade and they totally HATE me. At first, things were fine, but after a few months they began ostracizing me and actually attempting to turn mutual friends against me.
Any involvement with this people makes me very uncomfortable and I dread the idea of having to interact with these people.
They are such a problem that I am wanting to break up with my boyfriend just to be done with the situation and forget these people existed.
Here's where I know readers will get pissed -
My boyfriend has said they don't have to be part of our lives. That we will be together and he won't have anything more to do with them.
This sounds like a solution, but I don't think that's fair to my boyfriend.
I think if these people have been his friends for 10+ years, it's wrong for him to cut them off for me.
I've told him this and gave him the option for us to have a mutual breakup and for him to find someone else who his friends like, but he doesn't want that.
Still, I feel like I just want to be done with this situation and move on.
My idea of a good relationship isn't one where my boyfriend's friends all hate me, and I don't like the negative energy around it.
Am I making a mistake if I breakup with him, or should I try to make the relationship work?