Please be courteous and respectful towards other RJ members

  • gentlemanjock

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    Jun 02, 2016 4:45 PM GMT
    Hello. I'm writing with a simple request. Next time someone extends a sincere compliment, or sends a sensible, respectful message, please take a moment and return the compliment or comment with a thank you. It shows courtesy, decency and thoughtfulness towards others. You don't have to be interested in the person, nor wish to have a conversation with him, but to dismiss and ignore a compliment, is simply bad manners. I understand there are those on RJ who may feel that due to the anonymous nature of the forum, there is no obligation to return a compliment or a message that is written respectfully and considerately. But it all comes down to character and personal integrity....and that makes far more a lasting and positive impression than a nice body and handsome face. Looks fade, but character endures. So please give this consideration next time you receive a compliment or nice email from someone. thank you.
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    Jun 02, 2016 5:21 PM GMT
    realJock is only self moderated, appreciate your effort.
  • Destinharbor

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    Jun 02, 2016 6:02 PM GMT
    I agree with you but have also decided to just consider dis-courtesy another piece of information about the guy, so if I compliment and see they've looked but not responded, I just assume his profile was missing the information that he had no manners or was deluded in thinking of himself as a nice guy. So at that point, I'm glad he didn't respond.
  • nice_chap

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    Jun 02, 2016 6:38 PM GMT
    Write me a nice message and I'll be sure to reciprocate. icon_wink.gif
  • ThatSwimmerGu...

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    Jun 02, 2016 7:37 PM GMT
    Most of you deserve cancer if you're a smoker
  • gentlemanjock

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    Jun 02, 2016 8:57 PM GMT
    SwimmerGuy,
    I am profoundly shocked that you would even consider saying something so terrible like this. Why on earth would you make a comment that is so hurtful and destructive? How can you possible be so insensitive? I am sorry but I could not let your comment go without letting you know how utterly inappropriate, thoughtless and immature your words are. May I suggest respectfully that you think about the people you may hurt by making such incredulous comments that serve no purpose at all.
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    Jun 02, 2016 9:05 PM GMT
    gentlemanjock saidSwimmerGuy,
    I am profoundly shocked that you would even consider saying something so terrible like this. Why on earth would you make a comment that is so hurtful and destructive? How can you possible be so insensitive? I am sorry but I could not let your comment go without letting you know how utterly inappropriate, thoughtless and immature your words are. May I suggest respectfully that you think about the people you may hurt by making such incredulous comments that serve no purpose at all.


    I think it's just is way of saying I am tired, horny and need a good ass pounding! I also interpret it as perhaps he's not having a nice day?? lol

    HAVE A NICE DAY RJ BUDDIES!!icon_biggrin.gif

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    Jun 02, 2016 10:34 PM GMT
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    Interesting subject, that of responding to unsolicited online compliments.

    Common courtesy dictates that we act like Joan Crawford by answering every piece of fan mail.

    Joan asked for fame. Presumably, we're ALL on here for some kind of validation. Or are we?

    Are we talking thoughtful comments proving that the messenger reads our posts or read our profiles going unanswered?

    Or generic, casting-a-wide-net, phishing style compliments? Messaged comments, or photo comments?

    Because one man's thoughtful, sensible comment can be another's trolling.

    Not everyone can reply to every compliment. Particularly on other gay sites!

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    Which begs another question: Online, should one always have the expectation of a response?

    I wonder what Miss Manners and Emily Post have to say on the subject.
  • Allen

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    Jun 02, 2016 10:36 PM GMT
    ThatSwimmerGuy93 saidMost of you deserve cancer


    I don't know if you were trying to be cruel or funny. But have you stopped to consider that there are most likely several members of this board who are currently battling cancer? And not to mention members who have loved ones who have died from cancer or are currently battling with it for their lives.
  • ThatSwimmerGu...

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    Jun 02, 2016 10:51 PM GMT
    2Bnaked said
    gentlemanjock saidSwimmerGuy,
    I am profoundly shocked that you would even consider saying something so terrible like this. Why on earth would you make a comment that is so hurtful and destructive? How can you possible be so insensitive? I am sorry but I could not let your comment go without letting you know how utterly inappropriate, thoughtless and immature your words are. May I suggest respectfully that you think about the people you may hurt by making such incredulous comments that serve no purpose at all.


    I think it's just is way of saying I am tired, horny and need a good ass pounding! I also interpret it as perhaps he's not having a nice day?? lol

    HAVE A NICE DAY RJ BUDDIES!!icon_biggrin.gif

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    Yes fuck me daddy
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    Jun 02, 2016 11:04 PM GMT
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    I feel that I should formally and publicly apologize to the OP. I did receive your lovely email and I was so flattered that I was flustered. New to the internetz, I recall reading that I'm supposed to wait three days before responding so that I don't seem desperate to date.

    I wasn't being rude. I was afraid of coming on too strongly.

    I hope you can forgive me and that your offer to take me to Bimini for lunch is still on.

    Again, my apologies. I look forward to sex lunch. I meant lunch. Thank you.
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    Jun 03, 2016 12:37 AM GMT
    Mom! What the fuck are you doing here?! Delete your profile NOW!
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    Jun 03, 2016 12:39 AM GMT
    Allen said
    ThatSwimmerGuy93 saidMost of you deserve cancer


    I don't know if you were trying to be cruel or funny. But have you stopped to consider that there are most likely several members of this board who are currently battling cancer? And not to mention members who have loved ones who have died from cancer or are currently battling with it for their lives.


    My sibling died of cancer. His comment doesn't bother me in the least. Grow a tougher hide, petunia.
  • badbug

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    Jun 03, 2016 3:00 AM GMT
    My sibling died of cancer. His comment doesn't bother me in the least. Grow a tougher hide, petunia

    Well as long as it doesn't bother you. icon_rolleyes.gif

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    Jun 03, 2016 3:47 AM GMT
    Gentlemanjock, you are new here. Welcome. Hope you stay, and bring 100 friends of yours with. The site needs replacements for the thousand or so guys that have left. (Tonite, there were less than 700 men online, when at one time it would have been about 2,000).

    This is the internet, and a lot of guys here will ignore any email from anyone they don't find hot- that's just the way it is. Guys tend to be nicer on the forums, but don't expect a compliment for an interesting post. And thatswimmerguy is undoutedly bored and horny - He's in Kansas, after all, and most of the guys he would have interacted with on RJ in the past, are no longer here. He's a good guy - but he did get some attention with that post.
  • ANTiSociaLiNJ...

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    Jun 03, 2016 4:12 AM GMT
    If you can't give a compliment without demanding some type of reciprocation in return then it really wasn't a compliment was it? No one owes you anything just because you decided to reach out and pay someone an accolade. Now here you are attempting to train people on how to behave according to your standards. This is very telling of your controlling nature.

    If someone blows you off, consider yourself fortunate that you found out that the person wasn't in alignment with your personality and simply move on.
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    Jun 03, 2016 4:16 AM GMT
    The last time I said "thanks!" to a complimen - which was a long time ago - the geriatric goes on to send me an ass pic. It's never "just" a compliment
  • Allen

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    Jun 03, 2016 5:27 AM GMT
    Not4u said
    Allen said
    ThatSwimmerGuy93 saidMost of you deserve cancer


    I don't know if you were trying to be cruel or funny. But have you stopped to consider that there are most likely several members of this board who are currently battling cancer? And not to mention members who have loved ones who have died from cancer or are currently battling with it for their lives.


    My sibling died of cancer. His comment doesn't bother me in the least. Grow a tougher hide, petunia.


    Well that certainly says volumes about you.

    My mother died of cancer three years ago. She didn't deserve to get cancer. And she very much wanted to live. So fuck off you ingrate piece of shit!
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    Jun 03, 2016 5:41 AM GMT
    Who the fuck made you Mrs. Manners?
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    Jun 03, 2016 6:06 AM GMT
    >OP
    The "Ignore Posts" button is your friend. Learn to use it liberally, and you'll rarely have to see what hentailover, whitehot, bonapart, and a bunch of other obnoxious creeps on here write.
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    Jun 03, 2016 3:52 PM GMT
    I totally agree with the OP , the lack of respect and politeness have increased so much now-days , and it is so very sad !
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    Jun 03, 2016 4:28 PM GMT
    Allen said
    Not4u said
    Allen said
    ThatSwimmerGuy93 saidMost of you deserve cancer


    I don't know if you were trying to be cruel or funny. But have you stopped to consider that there are most likely several members of this board who are currently battling cancer? And not to mention members who have loved ones who have died from cancer or are currently battling with it for their lives.


    My sibling died of cancer. His comment doesn't bother me in the least. Grow a tougher hide, petunia.


    Well that certainly says volumes about you.

    My mother died of cancer three years ago. She didn't deserve to get cancer. And she very much wanted to live. So fuck off you ingrate piece of shit!


    So what does it say about me other than I don't let statements that are made by a person I do not know, will never meet, is just a cyber clown, and means nothing bother me. Remind me again how what ThatSwimmerGuy said had anything to do with your mommy? He didn't say anything about her.
  • nice_chap

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    Jun 03, 2016 6:18 PM GMT
    ANTiSociaLiNJUSTICeWarior saidIf you can't give a compliment without demanding some type of reciprocation in return then it really wasn't a compliment was it? No one owes you anything just because you decided to reach out and pay someone an accolade. Now here you are attempting to train people on how to behave according to your standards. This is very telling of your controlling nature.


    The OP was making a request, not a demand.
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    Jun 03, 2016 10:09 PM GMT
    ANTiSociaLiNJUSTICeWarior saidIf you can't give a compliment without demanding some type of reciprocation in return then it really wasn't a compliment was it? No one owes you anything just because you decided to reach out and pay someone an accolade. Now here you are attempting to train people on how to behave according to your standards. This is very telling of your controlling nature.

    If someone blows you off, consider yourself fortunate that you found out that the person wasn't in alignment with your personality and simply move on.


    None of this. He says "please give this a consideration" and "a simple request" and is just asking people to be considerate of others feelings when they reach out, regardless of interest.
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    Jun 03, 2016 11:47 PM GMT
    What are these feelings of which everyone is speaking?