Low self esteem/BDD

  • jman325

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    Jun 07, 2016 2:04 AM GMT
    I have horribly low self esteem from body dysmorphic disorder and I was just wondering if anyone else suffers from something similar or the same? I feel it's worse because I'm also gay. Currently I am on a cruise and I can't help but hate myself and feel that I am not good enough, and I am definitely not confident enough to take my shirt off. I can't help but see other men that are in at least decent shape and are walking around looking great and it makes me hate myself even more. I also have a huge crush on my sister-in-law's brother (he is gay too) and yet he has no interest. He is also on this trip and knowing he isn't interested crushes me even more and makes me feel worse...any tips or similar situations?
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    Jun 07, 2016 10:30 PM GMT
    get some happy pills or MJ ; )
  • Coast

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    Jun 08, 2016 3:27 AM GMT
    I think in general, most people have concerns with how their body looks and so on. I used to worry a lot (and still do) about how people viewed me and what they all thought of me. But at the end of the day, it's yourself that has to overcome that. I tell myself that everyone can just stuff it and I'll just be me. I'm by no means saying that I'm perfect but know that no one's opinions matter except those closest to you ... and importantly yourself icon_biggrin.gif
  • badbug

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    Jun 15, 2016 11:20 AM GMT

    Have you been diagnosed with BDD?

    I do suffer from something somewhat similar though not quite the same.

    Figuring out if you have normal self-esteem issues or something that is a little more deeply rooted can help with coping mechanisms and understanding. Figuring out what it is that you really want and feel that your looks are holding you back from, which is important to understand if your issues manifest themselves in other ways.

    I have a real problem with trust issues and am very controlling but am not obvious about it. Any of my past relationships would probably not categorize me as controlling at all, but it's a method of control. LOL

    Anyways, i digress, but i mention it because part of my issues with trust and control centre around my unhappiness with my looks. (which comes and goes to insane degrees) Part of dealing with that in my downtimes, is understanding what it is i am truly after and whether or not it is reasonable or likely.

    So the key here for you, is to figure out a lot of shit about yourself. Are you just upset you don't have abs? Or do you actually have BDD? Or are you somewhere in the middle?

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    Jun 26, 2016 8:06 PM GMT
    I've dealt with similar circumstances in the past two years since being involved in a life altering injury. Since then i've had self esteem issues not being up to train/keep up like I did prior to getting injured while becoming a total recluse. The only thing that has helped we was going to a healing retreat in central america where I stayed for 3 months with no outside interference which helped me to regain my confidence and fixed a lot of my physical issues that led to me low self esteem. Best advice i` can give is commune with yourself in private for an extended period of time to get to love and know yourself better........ hope this helps