Anxious?

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    Jun 07, 2016 7:06 PM GMT
    Hey all,

    Just a quick one to ask how many of you suffer with anxiety (to a degree that it disturbs your life fairly frequently).

    I've been diagnosed (if such a thing can be done with these illnesses) for a few years, and notice that it always revolves around people's perception of me, and my 'performance' as a human being generally. For example, I'm in a fairly new job (3 months) at the moment and I get panicky whenever I make mistakes. In my social life, I get very worried that I'm not perceived as a good friend, even though rationally I know that I try harder than most.

    However, I don't get worried about meeting people, going to interviews etc., which is strange. Also, when I do panic I normally can suppress it for long enough that people don't notice I'm worried - they normally just think I'm having a weird moment.

    I thought it'd be good to have a space here for discussing positive solutions, because whether we acknowledge it or not, a LOT of people seriously suffer with anxiety. Personally, I find keeping a log of each thing which panics me each day, then coming up with some solutions at the end of the day, allows me to organise it in my brain and avoid becoming depressed (fear of losing control is a large part of my problem). So, how do you guys deal with it?
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    Jun 08, 2016 12:44 AM GMT
    I suffer from Morbid Anxiety, and it is there everyday when I wake up. It's been a huge combination of things over a long period of time, that has manifested a strong and intense cycle of Anxiety in my life. I keep a Journal of things to vent my anger and frustrations, and to Record pretty much everything else, including my accomplishments, no matter how small; at overwhelming times when the Anxiety is at its worst. It helps. Healthy eating, lifestyle, exercise, and adequate sleep, minimise the intensity of the Anxiety for me at times too. I have Social Anxiety too, which stems from my lack of trust in people who have excessively interfered and caused problems in my life. Distancing myself from those people, alleviates my Anxiety.

    What helps me the the most, is not committing to a lot things that overwhelm me, but rather, keep things balanced out. Above all, I avoid berating myself when I haven't finished something, and pick up things the next day or whatever as best as I can. Lastly, I try hard to avoid and distance myself from unhelpful, toxic, and unreasonable people. By applying these things and following them as closely and consistently as I can, it prevents me from feeling Majorly Depressed also.
    Joet94 saidHey all,

    Just a quick one to ask how many of you suffer with anxiety (to a degree that it disturbs your life fairly frequently).

    I've been diagnosed (if such a thing can be done with these illnesses) for a few years, and notice that it always revolves around people's perception of me, and my 'performance' as a human being generally. For example, I'm in a fairly new job (3 months) at the moment and I get panicky whenever I make mistakes. In my social life, I get very worried that I'm not perceived as a good friend, even though rationally I know that I try harder than most.

    However, I don't get worried about meeting people, going to interviews etc., which is strange. Also, when I do panic I normally can suppress it for long enough that people don't notice I'm worried - they normally just think I'm having a weird moment.

    I thought it'd be good to have a space here for discussing positive solutions, because whether we acknowledge it or not, a LOT of people seriously suffer with anxiety. Personally, I find keeping a log of each thing which panics me each day, then coming up with some solutions at the end of the day, allows me to organise it in my brain and avoid becoming depressed (fear of losing control is a large part of my problem). So, how do you guys deal with it?
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    Jun 08, 2016 2:49 AM GMT
    Yup. Generalized Anxiety Disorder. I have found counseling has made a huge deal. Meds with counseling made an even HUGER deal. I'd say I've successfully managed much of my anxiety. Its important to get help and stay healthy.
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    Jun 08, 2016 11:40 PM GMT
    Nope. No anxiety. Never had it.
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    Jun 09, 2016 12:31 PM GMT
    Hey Joet94,

    I have generally been more prone to depression than anxiety, but I have had some interesting, if scary, experiences with panic attacks. Tightness and lifting of the chest, shortness/shallowness/shuddering of breath, loss of sense of the ground, a buzzing/whirring energy, hypersensitivity to sensations, etc. I describe physical sensations, because for me that is an important aspect of understanding emotional states. Maybe some of those descriptions are recognizable.

    I have also found, that with awareness of the physical sensations, also comes some ability to both recognise the early stages (and maybe to divert myself from the situation which is triggering it), and to use them to guide me back to a place in myself which is more manageable. Find the ground. Pressing the top of my head against a wall, and pushing my feet into the ground gives me a strong sense of my bones, and helps me to slow down and deepen my breathing.


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    Jun 09, 2016 11:44 PM GMT
    Anxiety isn't commonly a disorder as much as it is a reaction to a strong level of fear, or a reaction to trauma. Anxiety by definition is a feeling of uneasiness or uncertainty, which pertains to fear of the unknown or fear in general. The opposite of having fear is having faith, where you fully believe in the positive outcome of an uncertain experience to come. I think PTSD is usually strongly tied to someone's anxiety level. If you have had experiences where you were afraid and something painful actually did happen shortly after you were afraid, you will forever know that it is possible for it to happen again and feel a sense of anxiety until you strengthen your mind more. You can't have anxiety while simultaneous fully trusting yourself: it's just not possible in my books. In that case, I would suggest anyone having anxiety to learn how to trust themselves more.

    Personally I think medicating yourself is an extreme option, and it is commonly a pussy way out of an obstacle that you're putting zero effort into solving. If you do the work in understanding your emotions and feelings, and then teach yourself how to grow in weak areas of your inner development, the anxiety will almost always subside. The anxiety is there to teach you that you haven't strengthened a part of yourself, or that you are doing something you shouldn't be doing and you need to reform your choices in life. If you've been working as ab accountant for 3 years and you begin feeling anxiety or stress, maybe it's because it's time you left and did something more fulfilling. The key is learning how to adequately listen to your intuition and make a new change that will make you feel better about the life you're living.

    I have anxiety all of the time, and it is largely due to the fact that every job i've ever had has been absolutely meaningless to me. So for almost ten years I have worked in positions I don't enjoy, simply because I need to earn a buck to live. I deviate from what I really want in life because I come from a family of men that accept jobs given to them, rather than to go out and chase a job they actually truly want. This behavior was modeled for me and I do it because it's all I know and I felt safe doing it knowing I could ask them for help, but now that I am older I have to completely rearrange my life to suit what is right for me, and that is a very painful thing to do, as well as terrifying. I am trying to pursuit a career as a writer, or as something that speaks more to who I am, and I have shared this with my family and they don't care about anything I do unless it pertains to working in a shitty Grocery store like they've done their whole life. I'm exemplifying this about myself to explain why I have anxiety and what my constant anxiety is trying to tell me. If you have similar feelings, maybe examine your life and ask some hard questions; I can assure you most, if not all, people with anxiety feel as if their life is not on track, and that belief is not a ramification of the anxiety, the anxiety is the ramification of not expressing what you really want and following it.