zoltar said I've tried hooking up in the past but it normally leaves me feeling grossed out afterwards. Sure I have an orgasm but it isn't even that good. Does everyone else feel the same way? It's almost like drugs or alcohol the prowl, the hunt is exciting. The actual act is sorta revolting. The orgasm is mediocre at best.
I know it's not love. People are looking for sex. Am I the only one who craves that intimacy and affection that a relationship offers in order to have sex? I feel like some people can just easily separate the two. Maybe I'm a hopeless romantic with ideological views.
You may want to look at the infamous 'bigger picture' here. There are many guys out there who are not in a position to start any serious relationship for a myriad of reasons. They are just folks like everyone else and have their needs, too. They are hooking up for sex only, quite possibly because, at this time, this is the very best they can afford to do.
Many people are not relationship-minded for a host of reasons. They are neither good nor bad folks per se, but they do not feel well in any form of relationship. They also have the wisdom of recognizing this, and are not making false promises, etc., involving other people. They run their lives as they find fit, and are looking for available and willing guys.
So much about the others. If you want/need intimacy in order to enjoy sex, well, more power to you! Look for the guys who share your approach to sexuality, and try to find someone whom you share the vibe with. This is what you want to focus on.
Yup. Many men out there are perfectly capable of having sex (even very enjoyable sex) without having any emotional bonds at all. I guess that much of it has to do with their mental attitude. They see the necessity of emotional bonds as something that is very heteronormative and has been imported into the gay discourse during the process of developing general gay acceptance in society. When you come to look at evolutionary side of it, you can easily understand that evolution almost dictates emotional bonds between the heterosexual partners in order to secure the survival of the offspring in the best possible way.
Evolutionary cost of the m2m sexual intercourse is very close to naught. This is one possible explanation why so many men can have enjoyable sex without any emotional bonds between them.
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