I'm ashamed of my ho tendencies.lol

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    Jun 08, 2016 8:43 PM GMT
    I rarely post here, but recent events are making me feel like the biggest ho right now.

    I'm not sure it's because I pretty much have the world at my finger tips and it's so easy to hook up, but I've done it quite often over the past 4 years. After high school I pretty much have been with anyone who was willing. Parks, video stores, grindr.
    It's a phase I think I'm easing out of because recently I've been feeling guilt and shame lol.
    Basically the point of this post is... How often do you guys hook up? How many? And please tell me this is normal or atleast semi lol
  • mystery905

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    Jun 08, 2016 9:32 PM GMT
    First of all, if you don't charge for your services, you are not a 'ho, but maybe a slut.

    When I was younger I was more 'active' as you are now---now not as much, but probably due to age and lower sex drive.

    As long as you are safe, don't promise the other person more than what you're prepared to offer, and don't hurt anyone intentionally emotionally or physically I don't see the problem.

    Enjoy yourself!

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    Jun 08, 2016 10:07 PM GMT
    Expect the usual condemning responses from the tiresome puritanical prudes telling you that being promiscuous is psychologically damaging and such. But good luck trying to get anyone to provide any concrete evidence (i.e., valid research).

    Like mystery905 said, be safe. And don't knowingly pass on any sexually transmitted infections. It's your life to live as you see fit.
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    Jun 09, 2016 4:51 AM GMT
    Why would you care what anyone who doesn't know or care about you thinks? Why do you need validation from anyone here? We don't have to live in your skin. You do. If you're feeling ashamed, which I seriously doubt given the lol at the end of your post title, you need to ask yourself why.

    Fuck with every guy you meet for all I care. My life will go on unchanged whether you're promiscuous or not.
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    Jun 09, 2016 7:30 AM GMT
    I never thought of it as validation because I have no reason to seek that from anyone online....it was more like comparing. Sorry if that sounds messed up.

    What I meant this post to ask was...

    Do you hook up?

    How often?

    App? Club? Park?

  • Buddha

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    Jun 09, 2016 8:09 AM GMT
    You shouldn't feel ashamed for wanting sex, we're wired that way and honestly we just have a lot of shit trying to tell us otherwise. It's completely normal for people to have a sexual desires and act on them.

    Having that said, if you feel that your need to have sex is interfering with your life in the ways of keeping you from friends, family or jobs and you think that that is a problem, then maybe you could consider regulating your behaviour. But you shouldn't correct yourself solely based on what other people think.

    For me hook-ups vary, during summer I probably hook up a bit more often. Mostly through apps, but it happens that I meet someone in the club too.
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    Jun 09, 2016 5:21 PM GMT
    OK, so in the 3 months after I came out, and moved of my ex-wife's house, I hooked up with 13 guys I believe. For me hookups were always through an app, and at my apartment. I was just starting to gain confidence with going to bars when I met someone who I fell in love with, and we've been exclusive since.
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    Jun 09, 2016 6:10 PM GMT
    There was a period in my life when I would hook up with guys one after another whenever my work schedule permitted--roughly about 1 every hour--making sure that they didn't bump into each other on their way in/out of my house. I fully embraced my "slut phase," got through it intact, and I truly believe that I'm a better person for it.
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    Jun 11, 2016 3:42 AM GMT
    Iokepa saidI never thought of it as validation because I have no reason to seek that from anyone online....it was more like comparing. Sorry if that sounds messed up.

    What I meant this post to ask was...

    Do you hook up?

    How often?

    App? Club? Park?



    I used to hook up with guys on my way to work. I'd stop for a quickie on my way to the office and then go on my merry way. What a way to start the work day!