Hardest thing about growing up being gay

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    Jun 13, 2016 3:02 PM GMT
    What was the hardest thing for you about growing up being gay,,,,,

    For me , I was on my schools baseball team , wrestling team ,,, and at times while showering after practice or a game or after wrestling meets I'd see all them hard bodies wet and naked , man at times I just wanted to get doggie and let them guys do what they wanted , I was in the army also , and open dorm showers was hell.
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    Jun 13, 2016 10:44 PM GMT
    isolation, loneliness, fear, confusion, not trusting anyone, secretiveness, playing roles.


    Anyway, goodnight.
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    Jun 14, 2016 11:11 PM GMT
    Bonaparts saidisolation, loneliness, fear, confusion, not trusting anyone, secretiveness, playing roles.


    Anyway, goodnight.


    yep. That pretty much sums it up for me too.
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    Jun 14, 2016 11:30 PM GMT
    SmallTownGuy said
    Bonaparts saidisolation, loneliness, fear, confusion, not trusting anyone, secretiveness, playing roles.


    Anyway, goodnight.


    yep. That pretty much sums it up for me too.


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    Jun 15, 2016 12:55 AM GMT
    Not4u said
    SmallTownGuy said
    Bonaparts saidisolation, loneliness, fear, confusion, not trusting anyone, secretiveness, playing roles.


    Anyway, goodnight.


    yep. That pretty much sums it up for me too.


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    Jun 15, 2016 2:20 AM GMT
    NDmike said
    Not4u said
    SmallTownGuy said
    Bonaparts saidisolation, loneliness, fear, confusion, not trusting anyone, secretiveness, playing roles.


    Anyway, goodnight.


    yep. That pretty much sums it up for me too.


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    Falling for my straight friends is the most miserable experience for me. icon_cry.gif
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    Jun 15, 2016 10:21 AM GMT


    Falling for my straight friends is the most miserable experience for me. icon_cry.gif[/quote]

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    Jun 15, 2016 11:46 AM GMT
    polfsky said
    NDmike said
    Not4u said
    SmallTownGuy said
    Bonaparts saidisolation, loneliness, fear, confusion, not trusting anyone, secretiveness, playing roles.


    Anyway, goodnight.


    yep. That pretty much sums it up for me too.


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    Falling for my straight friends is the most miserable experience for me. icon_cry.gif


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    Jun 15, 2016 12:16 PM GMT
    I grew up in rural South Carolina and I didn't know anyone who was openly gay.
    Realizing my attraction to guys was no big deal even though I knew I couldn't talk about it.

    The crisis only came when I had my first sexual opportunities, during my first weeks of college.
    I fantasized but also thought I'd be so disgusted with myself that I'd commit suicide.

    Then I Had My First BLOWJOB.
    It was so fucking fantastic that I remember driving home laughing
    at how silly I had been in considering suicide
    over something that felt so good.

    From then on, I've trusted that my attractions are generally good things.
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    Jun 17, 2016 7:47 PM GMT
    "Thing"? There are so many...

    Being afraid of coming out/being outed
    Pretending to be someone you're not
    Constantly hiding who you are
    Not having the same dating life as other kids (ie being able to go out on dates with guys, like other guys did with girls)
    Being alone a lot
    Falling for guys who are straight/their sexuality is unknown, but because you are not out it's hard to determine
    Misreading signals from guys ie a guy can be extra friendly and you are inclined to think they might be into you, when they are just friendly

    That's off the top of my head.


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    Jun 17, 2016 10:15 PM GMT
    Working up all that courage to finally come out and begin a new chapter in my social life making new friends, only to find out that a lot of gay men are judgemental and shallow slags that I have sweet F.A. in common with. not that I'm bitter or anything icon_twisted.gif
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    Jun 17, 2016 11:49 PM GMT
    nice_chap said... only to find out that a lot of gay men are judgemental and shallow slags that I have sweet F.A. in common with. not that I'm bitter or anything icon_twisted.gif


    Oh Yeah, there is that.
    But you get a lot better at eliminating the idiots from your real life.
    Online they never go away but you learn to let them make you laugh.

    The Best Thing About Growing Old Gay is that many of us stop feeling any sense of self pity.
    Our hetero friends tell us that we're lucky and we start to realize that they are right.
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    Jun 18, 2016 3:25 AM GMT
    finding out that straight people are so incredibly dull.
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    Jun 18, 2016 3:45 AM GMT
    Not knowing I was gay