Jun 16, 2016 6:03 AM GMT
I see a lot on the news, and the photos are often showing people at the candlelight vigils.
Not to debate on what I feel anyone needs to do to grieve or cope, but what is the significance of these? Is it more prominent in some religions than others? Does it offer a necessary and spiritual release of grief through tears around others?
I personally would not and will not attend any sort of public mourning ceremony. I only feel comfortable sharing my emotions with people close to me. I also went thru 2 periods where I myself was in a situation 6 years ago just 90 miles away, where although not quite this magnitude...a friend was shot right next to me outside a gay bar in Tampa. And it was a harrowing experience because Despite being cleared as being a suspect, my friend's family and friends treated me like shit for somehow allowing this to happen and not being able to recall who it was who shot him.
So for me, it's better to remain factual about what happened, rather than to soak myself with tears and be around others who are also grieving. It just wouldn't make me feel better about anything. I know the 7 stages of grief, but I feel the time to write letters and protest, close these firing ranges down, demand mandatory Russian style mental health asylums to keep these crazy people...is now.
I find it hard to be sad because we've seen this over and over in the news. I lived in Colorado thru the entire movie theater trial. Now I'm in Orlando hearing the exact same thing. I'm not sad, I'm mad. America knows what it needs to do, but it Refuses to do it. Too much freedom. So I think the people deserve more than a vigil. A Million gay/bi/straight man March with the ferociousness of the Treyvon Martin protests (which, also happened in the gun-shaped state) to increase mental health asylums and shut down public firing ranges is in order.
Not to debate on what I feel anyone needs to do to grieve or cope, but what is the significance of these? Is it more prominent in some religions than others? Does it offer a necessary and spiritual release of grief through tears around others?
I personally would not and will not attend any sort of public mourning ceremony. I only feel comfortable sharing my emotions with people close to me. I also went thru 2 periods where I myself was in a situation 6 years ago just 90 miles away, where although not quite this magnitude...a friend was shot right next to me outside a gay bar in Tampa. And it was a harrowing experience because Despite being cleared as being a suspect, my friend's family and friends treated me like shit for somehow allowing this to happen and not being able to recall who it was who shot him.
So for me, it's better to remain factual about what happened, rather than to soak myself with tears and be around others who are also grieving. It just wouldn't make me feel better about anything. I know the 7 stages of grief, but I feel the time to write letters and protest, close these firing ranges down, demand mandatory Russian style mental health asylums to keep these crazy people...is now.
I find it hard to be sad because we've seen this over and over in the news. I lived in Colorado thru the entire movie theater trial. Now I'm in Orlando hearing the exact same thing. I'm not sad, I'm mad. America knows what it needs to do, but it Refuses to do it. Too much freedom. So I think the people deserve more than a vigil. A Million gay/bi/straight man March with the ferociousness of the Treyvon Martin protests (which, also happened in the gun-shaped state) to increase mental health asylums and shut down public firing ranges is in order.
