Oversexed

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    Jun 18, 2016 3:44 AM GMT
    Are gay men oversexed more so than their hetero counterparts? If so why? To me gay culture seems to be very sex focused. It's kind of annoying when you feel like nobody wants to go on dates, hold hands, kiss, cuddle. It's more I have an 8" thick penis you can suck and then fuck you with. That sounds incredible.....with a man I love. Now tear me apart because I know you're going to.
  • joxguy

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    Jun 18, 2016 2:00 PM GMT
    Men in general are just highly sexual beings. It is on our minds a lot, so put two makes together socially and their minds go to sexual thoughts. Enjoy
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    Jun 18, 2016 2:07 PM GMT
    ^^^^ This. Hetero guys are often told by their women to wait... not now... i have a headache... i'm on a rag... i just got my hair done... etc etc. Guys with guys are more like "you wanna?" "hell yeah!"...

    So i don't think that gay guys are oversexed, I think the straight guys are undersexed. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jun 18, 2016 2:11 PM GMT
    zoltar saidAre gay men oversexed more so than their hetero counterparts?


    Nope. They're just men.

  • Jun 18, 2016 2:13 PM GMT
    Im glad other men are oversexed, it means im not alone in this world with my constant hornyness
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    Jun 18, 2016 3:25 PM GMT
    zoltar saidAre gay men oversexed more so than their hetero counterparts? If so why?


    No, think it is all about equal. But think too many "gay" males have bought into defining masculinity as an EXTERNAL display of "psychical, physical and sexual conquest/dominance". The focus is on the potency of the OVERT manly appearance and how "manly" you look in turn. There generally isn't any effort toward INNER development, about focusing on creating a inner emotional bridge with another fellow.
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    Jun 18, 2016 3:41 PM GMT
    We men have to acknowledge our constant hornyness ..lol...
    I was married 22 years , and i agree with Jon , women are more likely to say know 60% of the time , 2 men are more likely to say , let's do it ..icon_redface.gif
    Now that said , i wish more men would cuddle ....icon_sad.gificon_sad.gificon_sad.gif
  • orome

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    Jun 18, 2016 4:24 PM GMT
    zoltar saidAre gay men oversexed more so than their hetero counterparts? If so why? To me gay culture seems to be very sex focused. It's kind of annoying when you feel like nobody wants to go on dates, hold hands, kiss, cuddle. It's more I have an 8" thick penis you can suck and then fuck you with. That sounds incredible.....with a man I love. Now tear me apart because I know you're going to.


    I'm not sure about the term, but I think part of the issue is what we've bought into which is that "all men ____" or even "all gay men ____". It's just not accurate on a small or a large scale. We're not all starving for sex and would like to cuddle and all of those things. You meet people, they want different things, and having to thread through that to find someone you're compatible with is just hard work because it is, but the hetero world is about the same.

    At least this is what I notice.

    Also: I hope no one here would think to come at you in a harsh way because you're expressing a real concern.
  • Destinharbor

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    Jun 18, 2016 5:22 PM GMT
    I think all guys like to cuddle, kiss, hold hands. Just not not the first need. Get enough sex to keep you happy and all the rest follows. Especially if you're in love.
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    Jun 18, 2016 6:16 PM GMT
    I was very oversexed as a young man, but now I can appreciate the b4 and after ; )
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    Jun 18, 2016 7:37 PM GMT
    I don't believe that gay men are more hypersexed than their heterosexual brothers. The real difference between the two, I believe, is that it's more convenient and easier for gay men to express their hypersexuality.
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    Jun 18, 2016 9:59 PM GMT
    It's the culture not biology. The modern gay culture spawned by Stonewall made a big point of dismissing "heteronormative" values such as monogamy, companionship, platonic affection, etc., as outmoded, and considered promiscuity and NSA sex to be a sign that they had thrown off the trappings of "hypocritcal" straight society. This "revolution" was justified with a set of beliefs that all gay men are supposed to adhere to, such as monogamy is unnatural or that if someone objects to two guys fucking a gym shower (for example) it must be because of "homophobia." A lot of fun was had and a lot of pain and suffering followed (e.g., AIDS and the continuing sense of loneliness that many gay men feel even today). Since the defenders of this belief system are usually the loudest and most belligerent it goes on to this day notwithstanding the legalization of gay marriage.

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    Jun 19, 2016 8:02 PM GMT
    It's biology...basically. Of course cultural influences may affect the expression of the sexuality, but basic sexuality comes hardwired with one's genetic and epigenetic factors. Biologically, the function of humans is to live and to reproduce. Biologically, a woman's function is to produce the kids, and thus, women's biology is geared toward choosing a good mate and raising the resulting child(ren). (Given the divorce rate, it appears modern women are not particularly adept at this choosing skill!) Biologically, a man's function is to inseminate as many women as he can, and thus men's biology is geared toward maximum horniness. Of course, there can and are going to be significant variations in any one individual—that is not the point when looking to determine the operative biological generalization.

    Of course there are cultural and social and religious factors involved, but these don't alter that which comes hard wired at the root level; they only may influence its expression. So, yes, two guys may see the efficacy of sex whenever and be able to act on it much more easily than can a heterosexual guy. It doesn't mean the urge is any different, just that its opportunity for expression may be less amongst heterosexual males.
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    Jun 19, 2016 8:06 PM GMT
    joxguy saidMen in general are just highly sexual beings. It is on our minds a lot, so put two makes together socially and their minds go to sexual thoughts. Enjoy


    The correct answer icon_smile.gif
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    Jun 19, 2016 8:07 PM GMT
    I hang out with mostly straight guys and can assure you that this is a MALE thing, not a gay male thing. Guys, in general, are very sexually motivated.
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    Jun 20, 2016 12:08 AM GMT
    I agree that it's more of a "male" issue -- a cultural pressure toward hypermasculinity and the idea that a larger number of "conquests" somehow amplifies your male-ness. The media-biased portrayal of men basically treats sex as a recreational sport. Plus, parents are training their daughters from a young age to value their bodies, to find the "right" mate, to say "no" if they're not ready for sexual activity, and educating them on the perils of rape culture. How many parents are talking to their sons about the same things? Very few. So you *could* look at it in one of two ways: either males (on average) don't associate as much "shame" or emotion with sexual acts as their female counterparts based on culture and upbringing, or males simply don't exercise as much self-control over their baser instincts. That's not the only way to look at it, of course, but I still think the truth is somewhere in the middle of those two concepts. So when you've got two males instead of one male and one female, there's a huge shift in mental and emotional dynamics, not just biology.
    ...But then again, I think *everyone* is a little "oversexed" these days, so what do I know. ; )
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    Jun 20, 2016 2:32 PM GMT
    JackTX said
    joxguy saidMen in general are just highly sexual beings. It is on our minds a lot, so put two makes together socially and their minds go to sexual thoughts. Enjoy


    The correct answer icon_smile.gif


    Is it? Then enjoy the increased likelihood of STDs...of HIV...the sexual rejection and sheer emotional loneliness.
  • jeep334

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    Jun 20, 2016 5:59 PM GMT
    FitBlackCuddler said
    JackTX said
    joxguy saidMen in general are just highly sexual beings. It is on our minds a lot, so put two makes together socially and their minds go to sexual thoughts. Enjoy


    The correct answer icon_smile.gif


    Is it? Then enjoy the increased likelihood of STDs...of HIV...the sexual rejection and sheer emotional loneliness.


    It is the correct answer. We don't always accept the answer we're given especially if we don't like it or if we disagree. With ALL sexual activity, as with most of life, there comes a responsibility on individual's part. Not getting into the moral issues, it's everyone's own responsibility to live in such a manner as to protect themselves, and in turn, their partner(s). It's an individual issue and yes, those who act in an irresponsible manner will have a host of issues to deal with in their lives. Be safe.