jayatl56 saidSo I used to be able to jack while being fucked and cum almost at the same time as my top but lately it's not happening. Maybe age related? Not sure. But my BF and I have found that after he cums he'll massage my prostate while I jack and I cum within a minute - shuddering as I shoot. It's amazing. Anyone else find that it's tougher to cum while bottoming but can right afterwards? Hopefully, it's not just me.
I'm a top but I have noticed more Btm's are not willing to let the natural build up to ejaculation occur because they are more heavily concentrating on lasting as long as possible which can lead to loss of errection making ' jacking' off till ejaculation' very difficult. It's possible it's age related as I have Rarely seen it occur in young guys but I think it's more to do with my afore mentioned reasoning. Everyone is different but if you concentrate too much on perifferal factors and push the notion of shooting a load to the back of your mind, age, being in a less comfortable position while bottoming and the many other possible contributing factors will take over so maybe try and relax and let it happen when it's ready to happen naturally.
Most tops can't go 'hammer and tong' at it for long periods anyone (anyway?) so prolonging your cumming in many cases is not really always the smartest move and only making sex into a marathon gym session instead of a pleasurable expressions of a connection between the two guys involved.
Gemmy mentions pain while getting fucked. If you experience pain, very few men are able to cum while that pain Being experienced unless you have a sado masicist streak of course. You may need to do more research
First Gemmy said "discomfort" not pain. Rolling around on the bed and falling off hitting your head is a discomfort.....but worth it LOL. I asked a bud if he was OK because he seemed like he was in pain, "should I stop?" I asked. "Oh hell no!!!" he said.
The line between pleasure and pain is a small one. Sometimes you have to get beyond discomfort to get to the ecstasy.
" prolonging your cumming in many cases is not really always the smartest move and only making sex into a marathon gym session instead of a pleasurable expression." So in other words, just get it over with? While sometimes a 15 minute quickie can be fun, it doesn't compare to a 2 hours of edging, some "hammer and tong", back to making out, a break and repeat. A marathon session can and should be a VERY pleasurable experience.
How did you put it awhile ago.......there's an "obsession with oversized cocks"????? I've been told a big cock is easier to take than a small dick jamming around. Every top is different, every bottom is different. I want to make my bottom happy, and fulfilled ;-) Cumming varies. One bottom I know shoots his load in 2 minutes. Another, the obedient boy he is, asks for permission after I cum. One doesn't want to cum until later. He's just into getting fucked and getting an anal orgasm. Simultaneous orgasms, as good as they are, isn't the goal...but I try!
OP there's nothing wrong with how you are cumming. Typical for many. But if you want to cum while he's in you, try straddling him where you are controlling the penetration. I didn't use to like that position, kind of hard for me to cum, but he's showing me what he wants, how deep and how hard.