Will You Call Your Dad today to say Happy Father's Day and tell him you love him?

  • mcbrion

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    Jun 19, 2016 3:30 PM GMT
    Mine is gone, but when I was young, he would - every single night - go into my baby sister's room and tickle her (I can still hear her giggling helplessly) and then come into my brother's (and my) room and we'd be hiding under the covers, just waiting for him to start tickling us. And he'd stand there silently, knowing the suspense was killing us. Then he'd strike! My older brother always got tickled first, and me last. And I would always wrap my arms around my father's neck, kiss him on the cheek, and say, 'I love you, daddy,' and he would respond, 'I love you, too. Now, did you kiss your mother goodnight?' And I'd say no daddy - if I'd forgotten that night - (most nights I didn't) and he'd always say go give your mother a goodnight kiss. And I did. I kissed my father and mother goodnight every night until I was 16. And then, one night, I just didn't do it anymore. I just stopped (no reason I can remember).
    He died 3 years later, the summer I came home after completing freshman year in college. And very suddenly. One day he was there, and 5 days later - he wasn't.
    If you've got issues with your dad, I got news for you: it won't go away when he dies. It'll feel worse you never healed the anger you have with him. Besides which, since he's a man, you'll transfer this issue onto every guy you date. You'll have 'daddy issues the rest of your life' and always resent men. Not a great situation if you're a gay man, since you're attracted to other men. So, find a way to tell him, someday, 'i love you, dad.' Not for his sake. For yours. I still wonder sometimes if mine felt hurt that I suddenly stopped kissing him goodnight, never mind telling him, 'I love you daddy.' I still remember that year when I went off to college for my freshman year and was 600 miles away, but I still called him on his birthday, and I realized he was thrilled. I found this out after he died and my mom told me how excited he was to get a phone call from me on his birthday. I was surprised: did he think I had forgotten him and didn't still love him? You don't think about this stuff - but sometimes, you know what? Your dad DOES.

    So, for those with good relationships with their dads, DON'T FORGET TO CALL. And if you can say it without going to pieces (awkwardness or whatever), tell him you love him. You NEVER know when it will be the last time you can say it.
  • Edward89

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    Jun 19, 2016 7:14 PM GMT
    I called him earlier and visiting with him right now...

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  • badbug

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    Jun 20, 2016 6:56 AM GMT

    Not without a Ouija board.
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    Jun 20, 2016 7:27 AM GMT
    Great write up!

    My dad is gone too. But we spent a lot of quality time in San Diego after mom died. Later we did a QE II trip to NZ to visit long lost relatives. It was only about then, and a lot of hindsight that dad and I became close.

    There was never a bad gay comment, he thought my ex was great.

    I told them both I loved them whenever I could....and we weren't the most demonstrative family.

    No regrets!
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    Jun 20, 2016 4:37 PM GMT
    Great memories and great sentiment, OP.

    My dad passed when i was young, so i celebrate Fathers Day the way i have for years, and that's re-watching the last movie he took me to see when I was a kid... Dolph Lundgren as He-Man in The Masters of the Universe. icon_biggrin.gif

    It's just as good now as it was in 1987. Don't judge me!

    My fiancee called his dad... They've had a strained relationship sine my guy came out, but they still have a relationship. They can say "I love you" to each other, and mean it, but his dad has had a hard time demonstrating it.
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    Jun 20, 2016 6:14 PM GMT
    I did.
  • mcbrion

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    Jun 20, 2016 8:52 PM GMT
    JonSpringon saidGreat memories and great sentiment, OP.

    My dad passed when i was young, so i celebrate Fathers Day the way i have for years, and that's re-watching the last movie he took me to see when I was a kid... Dolph Lundgren as He-Man in The Masters of the Universe. icon_biggrin.gif

    It's just as good now as it was in 1987. Don't judge me!

    My fiancee called his dad... They've had a strained relationship sine my guy came out, but they still have a relationship. They can say "I love you" to each other, and mean it, but his dad has had a hard time demonstrating it.


    Who'd ever judge anyone for liking a fun movie? It has resonance with you because it was the last one you ever saw with your dad. That's one of those "awww...that's so sweet" things that, if you were straight, women would be swarming all over you for doing that to remember your dad. What a charming way to remember your dad on Father's Day. You clearly have a kind heart.
  • mcbrion

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    Jun 20, 2016 8:55 PM GMT
    badbug said
    Not without a Ouija board.


    Yeah, I understand well that sentiment.
  • charlitos666

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    Jun 21, 2016 2:51 AM GMT
    badbug said
    Not without a Ouija board.


    LMAO. You are terrible.


    I called both my dad and my father in law.
  • Eli_jah

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    Jun 21, 2016 3:45 AM GMT
    My dad died at the tragically young age of 40, of a heart attack apparently, when I was 16. He had the hardest life I've ever heard of - molested by his own uncle, deserted by his own family, an endless struggle with mental illness. He met my mom at 24, and I was the first child born to the couple. I'm scarily a lot like my father, but I can see my own individuality as well. I don't want to say I'll be better than him, but I'll try to live the life he couldn't live, because he was never given the chance.
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    Jun 21, 2016 4:14 AM GMT
    I have never had any bond with my dad because he remarried even before I was born. We lost connection and I just found out a few months ago that he passed away last year. icon_sad.gif I wish I had a dad in my life. icon_cry.gif