Jun 21, 2016 8:23 PM GMT
pellaz saiddid he own an AR-15?
Destinharbor saidI don't think it is as simple as he just decided to move on. You were at his place, everything was good, he made breakfast, and you ran out for a bit to see a friend. He was unhappy when you returned. Was he fine over breakfast? I'd take the time to write him, probably email is best so he can look at it for a while before answering, and ask him what happened?
nugget2011 saidDestinharbor saidI don't think it is as simple as he just decided to move on. You were at his place, everything was good, he made breakfast, and you ran out for a bit to see a friend. He was unhappy when you returned. Was he fine over breakfast? I'd take the time to write him, probably email is best so he can look at it for a while before answering, and ask him what happened?
Thanks for your message, you've put a lot of things well. To clarify, he seemed a little distant over breakfast. My friend was pressuring me to go meet him so I left a little rushed. Still, there'd been smiles and kisses and waving goodbye from the door and all that. I drove home after meeting my friend.
Your suggestion to write to him has been what I'm really struggling with. I feel like I've been robbed of the opportunity to have my say or get a good answer. But then it comes down to his 'I think I've explained things adequately' comment. Not only had he turned cold and ignorant, it gave the impression that he thought there was no more to say, which given his action of the previous weeks is bizarre.
I see two options. 1. I did something to piss him off that I'm entirely unaware of and he's decided to angrily push me away or, 2. He was always rude and uncaring in the first place and I just didn't see it.
I do want to mail him but I'm torn on whether it's the right thing to do. I suppose getting my thoughts down and sent to him would help (it's half the reason I've written this post). I suppose at this point I have nothing to lose and possible closure to gain.
nugget2011 saidAlthough I appreciate the honesty, I don't think it was acting. There was too much contact, too much pushing from him, too much fascination for all the minor aspects of my life for it to be acted. I do accept that he thrived on the chase and the initial excitement and probably wasn't ready for anything more.
But to compare, I was seeing a guy for a few months late last year/early this year. We got on great but I never matched the enthusiasm he showed. I never texted as much, rarely initiated and delayed plans. I never lied to him and was honest that I wasn't sure what I wanted. In truth, I wanted to like him more than I did but the feelings never developed. So I met him in person, explained it all. The next day, I was worried that I hadn't explained myself well enough or given him enough insight into my reasoning so I sent him a very long text message, trying to articulate my feelings as best I could. He was very upset, but we ended on good terms.
In this case, the guy was often showing more interest than me, introducing me to his friends, telling family members about me, sending me photos of him listening to my favourite music and saying he wanted to 'get into my headspace.' And then after a period of intense contact he brushed me off with a short, blunt, rude text. So I guess I'm more angry that it had to end badly more than anything else. And I wish I could talk to him and tell him how badly he has handled this and try to get some sort of context for it, but I suppose that's never going to happen.