2Bnaked saidJust curious? Why did you wait so long?
Shame, 3 painful marriages, slave to belief systems, many factors.
It just is what it is.
To answer your original question: Yes, this is a good site to get into shape. It has many forums, and lots of general articles about exercise, training, plus diet & nutrition. This particular forum is our default when you post, "All Things Gay", where things can get kinda rough and free-for-all. Explore the entire RJ site, you may find exactly the info you want.
You & I are in a similar boat, so listen to a guy who's been where you are, closer than some others here. I came out late, as my second marriage was ending. I know firsthand many of the things you're experiencing.
At nearly 46 I was younger than you, but don't let some of the discouraging smug cubs here tell you it's ever really too late to start. From 46 to 58 I never had so much dating, socializing, and just plain sex in my entire life. I only slowed a bit to a more monogamous pace when I settled down with my second partner at 58 (my first having died), and then I developed cancer and other medical conditions that clipped my wings a little.
But at 67 today and older than you I'm still as active in our gay community as anyone has a right to be, regardless of age. And I've never been happier. Oh, and BTW, the gay sex is better than anything I ever did when trying to conform to the straight world. My excuse is confusion & ignorance, I was never closeted in the sense I knew but was pretending. But my miserable marriages kinda confirm that I was in the wrong "business" from the start, whether I realized it or not.
Part of my success, if I may call it that, was due to having come out in a big, gay-active city, Seattle. And I had a great gay mentor to advise me, be my wingman (but never my sex partner). So that when I moved to a much smaller, much less friendly city I had acquired some skills that kept me going on my own.
And now I'm here in Wilton Manors, presently Gay Central for South Florida, where you can be out & open like you've probably never experienced. If you can't find dates here around every corner, and at our ages, too, then you're not doing it right. Especially with all the single gay retirees here, who would give their arm to date, and found the best way to overcome the ageist prejudice that says old gays are undesirable (or are easy marks for young gold diggers) is to simply date their own age group. DUH!
But first you gotta live where you have that abundance. You aren't very far from Atlanta, which offers some options. But lots of closet cases there, protecting careers and reputations, sometimes difficult to break through those barriers they've erected for themselves. Because Georgia still is, well, Georgia.
As I've said, South Florida is very friendly (for now). Traditionally California and especially SF are, too, but ruinously expensive & pressured. So is NYC on all counts, plus I no longer like the winters there. Seattle remains friendly with a large, out population, but the demographic a bit skewed to the younger professionals & college crowd.
So if you have the opportunity and the means then explore these places on vacation for yourself. You've made some big changes in your life already, perhaps a change of scenery should also be considered. Because aside from driving into Atlanta, I'm not sure I see much potential where you are at present.