Jun 27, 2016 6:31 PM GMT
I have noticed with more and more of my new gay friends (and their friends) that they refer to each other as women... using "hey girl" and "she" to refer to each other and to other men in general. But they also are quick to also refer to women as "bitches" and "that cunt" too. It's like they have an inner female voice and also see females as better capturing their emotional identity and as being their rivals. Its both fascinating and lonely for me at times.
Its TOTALLY fine for guys to be themselves if that means being naturally effeminate. I just wonder why I am so different. Why do many guys take on personalities of divas on tv but also tend not to follow male icons or models on tv, at all? For example, I hear body image comments where these guys have described themselves as having "child bearing hips" instead of having "love handles". Another example would be the numbers of my friends who identify with the fierceness of Cersei or Dany from Game Of Thrones instead of the fierceness of Jon Snow or Tyrian or The Hound.
Do you think it is socialization where they've picked up cues from other mainstream gay guys? Or would you guess that these guys don't feel that they have anything in common when your average male guy? Can we try not to bash feminine guys NOR masculine guys please? This isn't about saying one is better or not, it is me asking why.
Appreciate your contributions on this.
Its TOTALLY fine for guys to be themselves if that means being naturally effeminate. I just wonder why I am so different. Why do many guys take on personalities of divas on tv but also tend not to follow male icons or models on tv, at all? For example, I hear body image comments where these guys have described themselves as having "child bearing hips" instead of having "love handles". Another example would be the numbers of my friends who identify with the fierceness of Cersei or Dany from Game Of Thrones instead of the fierceness of Jon Snow or Tyrian or The Hound.
Do you think it is socialization where they've picked up cues from other mainstream gay guys? Or would you guess that these guys don't feel that they have anything in common when your average male guy? Can we try not to bash feminine guys NOR masculine guys please? This isn't about saying one is better or not, it is me asking why.
Appreciate your contributions on this.