Is topping generally better than bottoming?

  • Mile

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    Jun 29, 2016 12:22 AM GMT
    Hello. Your attention is important for me and you'll understand it after reading the following.

    I have become very nervous since last year. But the reason of it is awkward. I'm an 18-year-old skinny twink, was in monogamous relationship with a top. During anal sex i didn't feel anything but initial pain and a heat while he pulls out... We tried not once, not twice... But maybe i would start to feel pleasure if we tried 10+ times? His penis was average i think, so maybe he just doesn't know how to use it? But why tops can feel a real physical pleasure independently from any circumstances while bottoms can't?

    This is NOT the most awful thing! I understood that unlike top bottom should spend quite much time to prepare, to be clean. The bottom has to feel some pain if the top does something wrong. The bottom can have problems with health because of frequent enema use. The bottom will not have much physical pleasure if his top doesn't hit the prostate. Unlike the bottom, the top feels physical pleasure ALWAYS because the head of a penis is always stimulated during an anal action. If the sex is bareback, the bottoming dude also should worry after sex about the sperm in his butt. Moreover, it can lead to an upset stomach!!!

    So, it is a hundred times easier AND HEALTHIER to top and the physical pleasure is guaranteed. The top even doesn't necessarily "works" during the anal intercourse, so the bottoming man not only takes all the risks, preparation, pain BUT ALSO the whole work. It blows me up!!!

    On youtube i watched some videos where people say that everyone can top but not everyone can bottom. Isn't it the truth?

    I think that among gay community there are much more total tops than total bottoms. Bisexuals are often total bottoms with men, while gays are versatile (~80%, i think), only tops (15%) and only bottoms (5% - those who have never tried topping and think that the sensation they feel while bottoming is better than the top's, or they are just masochists).

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    Are you shocked? Whether i'm mistaken? You CAN change it! But don't say "it's all about preference". No, just psychological part is about preference. For example, i psychologically prefer giving a blowjob, but physically - receiving. That means that if i psychologically preferred receiving the blowjob as much as giving, i would be more satisfied. So, if a bottom prefers bottoming just because of the psychology, he has less pleasure than a top who ADORES topping both physically and mentally. Plus the top doesn't risk, doesn't prepare etc...
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    My current boyfriend (he is 22 y.o.) is also a total top, he has never bottomed and feels disgusted if thinks about the situation when he is a bottom. I've not bottomed for him still. He tries to persuade me that there are more bottoms and vers-bottoms than tops and vers-tops. Also he says that he as a top has a more widely pool of people to have sex or relationship with. Moreover, he says that there are quite many total bottoms. But when i asked him "did they tried topping?" he answered "no...". What a shame! I truly love this guy, that's why i'm currently trying to figure out the truth of topping and bottoming.

    I can't imagine myself bottoming not in a monogamous relationship. I've never tried hookups and can't understand guys who only or mostly bottom for the strangers. Obviously that the top in this situation has a super great sex without thinking about preparation and what will be tomorrow with the person he fucks... while bottom takes lots of risks, should prepare and do damage to his health coz of douching, can feel pain AND can be NOT physically SATISFIED, JUST USED!!! I don't count psychological satisfaction because both top and bottom have it (while top's PHYSICAL pleasure outweighs bottom's physical pleasure).

    I have never topped but I'm sure that it's extremely pleasurable because receiving a blowjob is gorgeous. Anal sex is more pleasurable for the topping dude than receiving blowjob because of asshole tightness. Currently, according to my experience, even receiving a blowjob is better than bottoming anal sex because the receiving blowjob makes me physically satisfied (i'm hardly interested in domination, so i don't receive a considerable amount of psychological pleasure receiving a blowjob). The receiving blowjob is better than the giving one because physical pleasure is guaranteed while psychological isn't.

    I can't be a total top or a vers-top not only because i'm an 18-year-old twink, but also because i'm PSYCHOLOGICALLY more submissive (not a slave, not into humiliation, just want to be with athletic/muscular guy, to be much weaker than he, want him to take care of me - and that's almost all that i have right now, but i understand that bottoming is bad for my health (not bottoming but douching, so if i knew how to be quite clean without douching and desirable with possibility to have bareback sex it wouldn't worry me).

    My darling even says that he can try to not have anal sex, but i want anal, i just don't want to douche because it does harm to my health.

    When i was younger (12-16) i didn't think about sex positions but now i see that there's no one benefit of bottoming. Anal orgasm? This is so rare a thing. What's about the cases where there isn't this kind of orgasm? Jerking off while bottoming doesn't bring such a great orgasm in comparison with cumming in an ass without a condom, does it? It costs too much for being a bottom. The disadvantages don't outweigh the benefits.

    As you can see, this twink has an awkward worry. Write below your opinion and advice, so you can influence on the destiny of a lucky twink who is sincerely loved by a careful total tot. You can overpersuade me.
  • Edepic

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    Jun 29, 2016 1:17 AM GMT
    In spite of my age I am very inexperienced since I have been straight essentially all of my adult life.
    However I have some thoughts on the subject
    You should research the topic of fasting to cleanse the colon, there are many medical and holistic recipes
    Check out my forum here "the bottom experience", you will read that the intimacy is perhaps even superior than orgasm
    In time, since having a penile orgasm is important to you, {as it is for all males, sub or Dom) practice topping after you bottom
    If your boyfriend refuses try inter-crural or oil up his butt cheeks and cum there
    If he refuses, he is too Procrustean and you should drop him and get a new boyfriend because any man who really cares for you would want you to have a penile orgasm
    Also eliminate the anxiety by starting on iPrep.
    Every bottom should be on it
    Mostly enjoy the journey!
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  • Mile

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    Jun 29, 2016 3:21 AM GMT
    Edepic saidIn spite of my age I am very inexperienced since I have been straight essentially all of my adult life.
    However I have some thoughts on the subject
    You should research the topic of fasting to cleanse the colon, there are many medical and holistic recipes
    Check out my forum here "the bottom experience", you will read that the intimacy is perhaps even superior than orgasm
    In time, since having a penile orgasm is important to you, {as it is for all males, sub or Dom) practice topping after you bottom
    If your boyfriend refuses try inter-crural or oil up his butt cheeks and cum there
    If he refuses, he is too Procrustean and you should drop him and get a new boyfriend because any man who really cares for you would want you to have a penile orgasm
    Also eliminate the anxiety by starting on iPrep.
    Every bottom should be on it
    Mostly enjoy the journey!
    Expand!

    Why every bottom should be on iPrep? It is more logical not to bottom then...

    But i can still have a penile orgasm... If i'm jaking off while i bottom... Also my boyfriend can do a blowjob. But these orgasms are obviously less intense then "to cum in an ass without a condom", aren't they? The intimacy is not only for me, but also for him, but he cums and i don't. Moreover, i can experience the intimacy without taking his dick and preparing for it (and additionally being on a diet). Just the same sexual poses but without penetration in me. So, i don't consider the intimacy, it's psychological. It would be ok if you said something like "the sensations people get from stimulating the prostate are far intense than from the head of cock stimulated in the ass, so you should feel more sensations from the process itself in comparison with the top's sensations". What were your physical sensations when you bottomed? It seems that you are bi. Generally speaking, I need more answers. And of course, i need more practice. Anyway, thanks for the answer.
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    Jun 29, 2016 5:19 AM GMT
    Bottoms are at greater risk for some STDs. It just means that in addition to preparing yourself, you need to be the condom nazi, and if it is reasonably available, and you remain active, PrEP is probably a good idea.

    As far as the pleasure aspect, it's a matter of practice. Get yourself some toys and learn your way around your own anatomy. If the top is doing it wrong, you'll need be prepared to take control.

    With all that, I still prefer topping to bottoming about 60:40, but most of the guys I meet seem to be total bottoms. I usually stay away from the self-proclaimed "total tops," because those guys never know what they're doing, and really, they're just cowards.
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    Jun 29, 2016 1:17 PM GMT
    I think you are overthinking things a tad bit. Throw away all your supposed statistics, all your preconceptions, all the 2nd hand observations.

    If you don't enjoy doing something, don't do it.

    If the guy you are with doesn't enjoy doing something with you that you want to do, find a new guy.

    Your age or twinkiness has nothing to do with what role you ought to play in the bedroom. There is no "ought" to in what you should do. You should explore your sexuality to your own satisfaction. My partner is far younger than I, smaller in all dimensions, and we both have a blast when he takes charge.

    Oh, and there is not better between topping and bottoming. Everyone is different, so what is better for one person may be horrible experience for another.
  • Mile

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    Jun 29, 2016 2:58 PM GMT
    kzen64 saidMy partner is far younger than I, smaller in all dimensions, and we both have a blast when he takes charge.

    Oh, and there is not better between topping and bottoming. Everyone is different, so what is better for one person may be horrible experience for another.

    Doesn't it bother you to prepare for bottoming? Or your preparation is like "eating a healthy amount of fiber and taking a shower"? If not, then it should damage health.

    How you both can have a blast if his penis is stimulated but your's isn't? If you are jacking off, the stimulation is still less "bright" and intense because a hand is not an asshole... But if you don't jack off, you don't feel anything or the prostate is stimulated and it is very good itself? And prostate stimulation + jacking off = more intense orgasm than topping anal or bjob?

    There is not better between topping or bottoming if we consider satysfaction and people's preferences, but if to consider the amount of effort needed to bottom or to top - there topping outweighs bottoming, doesn't it? So, topping is generaly better (preferences are individual, but preparation isn't). Moreover, a top can top everyday and all will be ok, but if a bottom bottoms daily, it will be bad for his health if he uses enema.

    I won't drop my top because of unrealised sex desires, period. Anyway, your answer is fine. Thank you.
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    Jun 29, 2016 3:33 PM GMT
    Mile saidDoesn't it bother you to prepare for bottoming? Or your preparation is like "eating a healthy amount of fiber and taking a shower"? If not, then it should damage health.

    How you both can have a blast if his penis is stimulated but your's isn't? If you are jacking off, the stimulation is still less "bright" and intense because a hand is not an asshole... But if you don't jack off, you don't feel anything or the prostate is stimulated and it is very good itself? And prostate stimulation + jacking off = more intense orgasm than topping anal or bjob?

    There is not better between topping or bottoming if we consider satysfaction and people's preferences, but if to consider the amount of effort needed to bottom or to top - there topping outweighs bottoming, doesn't it? So, topping is generaly better (preferences are individual, but preparation isn't). Moreover, a top can top everyday and all will be ok, but if a bottom bottoms daily, it will be bad for his health if he uses enema.

    I won't drop my top because of unrealised sex desires, period. Anyway, your answer is fine. Thank you.


    All needs do not have to be satisfied 100% of the time in order to have a blast... We go where the mood and action takes us. Both versatile, but it's not like we plan shit out. When he's in the mood to bottom, condom and lube goes on, and he goes to town... on me. No prep, usually go to bed cleaned up and after a shit anyway.

    stop being so anal about anal, shit happens
  • Mile

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    Jun 29, 2016 3:44 PM GMT
    But a blast can be more or less intense and it depends on the type of intercourse, i believe.

    If no prep, there'll be unpleasant smells, won't they? Bottoming without prep is not so hard, i agree. But smells should be, i think.

    The last question: have you ever had an anal orgasm or it's not for the majority and is a very rare "gift"?
  • Destinharbor

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    Jun 29, 2016 4:43 PM GMT
    You're completely wrong on most everything you assert. I'm not saying that's not your experience but you're wrong. The top/bottom ratios vary by culture but in the US, I'd say there are more bottoms than tops. By far. Most guys know if they crave being a top or a bottom before they try either. They just know from where they place themselves in the porn they watch. And they bottom because they love the feel of a dick sliding in them whether or not the prostate is hit. It satisfies them emotionally and yes, the anus has tons of pleasure receptors that can give orgasm. But that's not usually necessary. It is the connection and a warm feeling of intense intimacy. The pain is part of it but if you, the bottom, know what you're doing, that goes away pretty quickly. You need to read some books. Try the Joy of Gay Sex. And as to your preoccupation with poo, a quick douche followed by a couple of rinsing douches is usually enough. Some don't need to do anything and there's no problem. And if there is occasionally, no big deal. All sex is nasty but we love it. Straight sex, too. Love stinks. You need to stop obsessing.
  • Mile

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    Jun 29, 2016 4:59 PM GMT
    Destinharbor saidYou're completely wrong on most everything you assert. I'm not saying that's not your experience but you're wrong. The top/bottom ratios vary by culture but in the US, I'd say there are more bottoms than tops. By far. Most guys know if they crave being a top or a bottom before they try either. They just know from where they place themselves in the porn they watch. And they bottom because they love the feel of a dick sliding in them whether or not the prostate is hit. It satisfies them emotionally and yes, the anus has tons of pleasure receptors that can give orgasm. But that's not usually necessary. It is the connection and a warm feeling of intense intimacy. The pain is part of it but if you, the bottom, know what you're doing, that goes away pretty quickly. You need to read some books. Try the Joy of Gay Sex. And as to your preoccupation with poo, a quick douche followed by a couple of rinsing douches is usually enough. Some don't need to do anything and there's no problem. And if there is occasionally, no big deal. All sex is nasty but we love it. Straight sex, too. Love stinks. You need to stop obsessing.

    Why in the US there are more and BY FAR more bottoms? Maybe these bottoms are bi? There are many bisexuals who bottom with men and top with women. The gay majority is versatile. Are there more vers-bottoms than vers-tops AMONG GAYS only? Don't know. But it's easier to top than to bottom and douching is bad for health. Feeling of intense intimacy and connection - doesn't the top feel the same? I don't consider this psychological stuff, it's individual while physical pleasure is guaranteed. So, the total bottoms feel pleasure receiving a blowjob and could top if they wanted to but find bottoming more satisfying because topping doesn't bring enough psychological satisfaction? I can't stop obsessing :/
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    Jun 30, 2016 1:09 PM GMT
    Here's some statistics for you...

    http://www.nickyee.com/ponder/topbottom.html
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  • Mile

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    Jun 30, 2016 6:12 PM GMT
    kzen64 saidHere's some statistics for you...

    http://www.nickyee.com/ponder/topbottom.html
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    I have already known about these statistics. Is it possible to turn a top into a vers-top? He has never had a bottoming experience and says "i won't be able to top a guy who fucked me". That means, if he lets me to top him one day, he will never top me further because of some psychological issues. He even adds "are you ready to be always on top?" - however, it doesn't mean that he will like bottoming more than topping (or even like bottoming at all). And of course, i'm not ready to "only top" the guy who is much bigger and sporty than i. Any advice?
  • Destinharbor

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    Jun 30, 2016 8:25 PM GMT
    Mile said
    kzen64 saidHere's some statistics for you...

    http://www.nickyee.com/ponder/topbottom.html
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    I have already known about these statistics. Is it possible to turn a top into a vers-top? He has never had a bottoming experience and says "i won't be able to top a guy who fucked me". That means, if he lets me to top him one day, he will never top me further because of some psychological issues. He even adds "are you ready to be always on top?" - however, it doesn't mean that he will like bottoming more than topping (or even like bottoming at all). And of course, i'm not ready to "only top" the guy who is much bigger and sporty than i. Any advice?

    There's no health issue with douching. Just keep the cleaning agent something neutral. If you can't find it online, buy a woman's pre-packaged disposable douche, something like Summer's Eve with vinegar and water. Use it, give it a few minutes, use the toilet, fill with warm water, toilet, repeat.

    In my experience, most guys have a strong preference for top or bottom. Some are truly vers but few don't have a strong preference. And (unfortunately) there's still a stigma that the bottom is the feminine role so a lot of bottoms just list themselves as vers because they're nervous about disclosing in a public profile that they're bottoms. Or they check some category like "Ask me later." Stop worrying about douche and poo and all that. You probably need to work with a smallish dildo to learn how to relax you arse to get a better handle on the pain. That is a skill you learn. It isn't something you can just "do." But once you do, the pain is for just a moment followed by lots of pleasure and the knowledge of that sequence actually heightens anticipation.

    Your problem is you want to try topping and your boyfriend has a thing that he wouldn't be able to top after being a bottom with a guy. He may be right -- for him. We all have weird sexual hangups and preferences and sometimes they are negotiable and sometimes non-negotiable. That's OK. Part of finding the right partner is to find a guy whose sexual needs and desires MOSTLY match our own. There are a few things my partner does that I wish he did differently but a ton of stuff he does just right. And I'm sure the reverse is true. My partner had a kink he was interested in that I wouldn't even consider. But I rolled it around in my head for about a year and one day wanted to give it a try. And loved it. So things change. There's an old saying that no one can be a truly good top if he hasn't first experienced being a bottom. That's one of the truly great things about being gay. We can truly know what different sexual things feel like to our partner. Hetero's never can. If you need to experiment with being a top and your guy won't have it, you'll have some decisions. Frankly, at your age, you should be experimenting. Your body did not come with an instruction manual. You have to experiment to know what you like. Talk to your guy.
  • Mile

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    Jun 30, 2016 10:01 PM GMT
    Frequent douching is bad for health! And i mean using an enema bulb and usual water, not different chemicals even!

    If i clean myself out daily or just once a week i will end up... You should, MUST know...
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    Jun 30, 2016 10:24 PM GMT
    Some Good points made here. Many total tops are pretty shit at it coz they have no concept of where to and how to provide you pleasure. I am Mainly top and only flip for mainly Btm guys who are willing to try because it's not just about their own pleasure which is the key mistake many top make. Douching regular reduces the protective lining and increases the risk of Getting STIs that a fact.
  • Mile

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    Jun 30, 2016 11:18 PM GMT
    Sydneyrugbyjock73 saidbecause it's not just about their own pleasure which is the key mistake many top make.

    Whose "their own pleasure? Top's? But... As i understood, you flip because bottoms don't have so much pleasure as you and you try to balance it? But why they mostly bottom if they get more pleasure by topping?

    And if you say "tops usually don't know how to provide pleasure" why you flip instead of just fucking in the right way?

    And i can't understand why bottoms say they are vers because homophobic society thinks that every gay bottoms, so why we are ashamed of our own community? I'm frustrating not because i bottom only but because i'm not satisfied!!!
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    Jul 02, 2016 12:31 PM GMT
    I like chocolate chip ice cream, and I like raspberry sherbert.

    Vastly different tastes and pleasures. I might prefer one to the other based on what pleasure I want at the moment. Is one of those better than the other?

    Pleasure ought to be going both ways during the act. That doesn't mean you will be satisfied the same way, or at the same time. Sometimes it's an emotional pleasure of giving someone else satisfaction.
  • Mile

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    Jul 02, 2016 2:05 PM GMT
    kzen64 saidSometimes it's an emotional pleasure of giving someone else satisfaction.

    That's just about bottoming? I.e. topping is always physical?
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    Jul 02, 2016 2:52 PM GMT
    Mile said
    kzen64 saidSometimes it's an emotional pleasure of giving someone else satisfaction.

    That's just about bottoming? I.e. topping is always physical?


    No, a top does not always have an orgasm, he can give pleasure to a bottom without his own release. Giving my boyfriend pleasure whether he is top or bottom is as important to me as getting my own rocks off.

    In a mutual relationship it's not always about your own needs.
  • rrazvy

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    Jul 24, 2016 7:48 PM GMT
    Mile,

    I feel your pain. Sex and relationships are more complicated than top, bottom, versatile. For total bottoms and total tops there's a lot of psychology and power play involved, which you allude to. I'm submissive too, and like you I want an older, muscular man who's bigger than me. That doesn't mean I find bottoming easy. But that is partly because I don't sleep around so much, so I'm still very tight. Unless I feel there's potential with a man to have a LTR with, I will dread sex because I am afraid he will mock me for being tight.

    As for douching, I have never done it. If you're about to have sex, you can slip into the bathroom and slip a little buttplug or dildo up your ass to see how clean you are. A watered, slightly soapy finger up your ass and a twirl about will clean it so at least for rimming and fingering you will be clean. And, generally speaking, a few hours after a number 2 your rectum will clean itself. Try not to worry so much about that. If your Top loves you he will be patient.

    Likewise, I haven't yet had my prostate hit by cock; it must be quite small. But the sensation of being slammed while you're on your elbows and knees, or lying on your front, can be amazing, especially if it's from a dominant man who wants to own you. It's part of the thrill.

    If ever your top threatens you with the 'there are more bottoms than tops so I can choose', then chuck him immediately. That's emotional blackmail, and he's a slimy little toad. In any case, if you're submissive, you're already on a different playing field. It's no longer about who is top and who is bottom, because psychology and body shape and age and everything else has entered into the dynamic. So it's about being self-conscious about who you are and what you really want in a man, and not letting anyone else get to you.
  • stravagl

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    Aug 06, 2016 10:58 AM GMT
    I can't believe how much thought you've put into this! In my opinion you are totally over thinking everything. The answer to your question is: Topping is better than bottoming if that's what you prefer. Likewise, bottoming is better than topping if that's what you prefer.

    It's your sex life you have the right to do whatever you want!

    Now I'll share my experience. I am basically a bottom, although every now and again I get in a dominant mood and feel like flipping. But, when it comes down to it, being submissive and being, "taken" is what really gets my rocks off so that's what I tend to do much more.

    Even before I ever had sex, when I would watch porn I found myself always looking at the top. I had already figured out that submission/bottoming was what I preferred even though I hadn't even tried it yet. So you might say, I don't think I so much chose to be a bottom as much as bottoming chose me ;-).

    And as for the discomfort I will say the sphincter in your bum is a muscle. A yoga enthusiast can stretch and contort his body in a way that I cannot- because he has practiced stretching the muscles of his body gradually over many years. If I tried to do advanced yoga poses right now, chances are I would probably hurt myself because I do not practice yoga and my body is not used to it. The same applies to your bum!

    In my opinion, butt sex should NEVER hurt, if it does you're doing something wrong. That is not to say, however, that the first time you put something in your butt, it won't be a little uncomfortable. If you're brand new to bottoming, chances are it might be uncomfortable for a while, but that's just because you're getting your bum used to relaxing and stretching just like the yoga expert when he first started training!

    There are downsides to bottoming. Like you said, if you're the clean type (like me) bottoming unfortunately cannot be quite as spontaneous as topping. As was always mentioned in this forum, bottoming is much risker than topping as far as HIV and other STDs are concerned. I personally recommend PrEP for everyone, but ESPECIALLY if you bottom a lot.

    Even with the downsides, I still bottom because as I said before that's what turns me on more. YOU SHOULD ALSO do whatever turns you on more! You're 18, and you're just now discovering what you like and what you don't like. Life is a learning process enjoy it!

    -Steve
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    Aug 06, 2016 4:11 PM GMT
    bottoming is bad for your health, your pride and your masculinity. you have surrendered your power and play as a man to another man and he is the sexy one, the sexual object. He is the insertion, you are the hole. the bottom is a walking fleshlight with a penis that acts more like a woman's clit then a cock.

    In the ancient world gay dudes who started as bottoms were expected to become tops later in life and it only seems natural for a young guy to like dick more than ass at first because he's gay & he likes dudes and wants to have experience messing around with a guys cock.

    don't become so wrapped up in that, that you forget about your own cock and what it is used for. make sure you get off to ass. Topping is fun, you just need to make the mind game align with the sex game and think about the other dude being a bitch.

    you mentioned a lot about psychology of being submissive or dominant but I feel anyone can train their body using pornography and by only getting off to a fantasy you are comfortable with it will eventually set in stone.

    In the ancient world gay dudes did not have anal sex. if they did it was very rare and it was considered immoral. They instead penetrated eachothers thighs, and while that seems weird af that's what they did.

  • Breeman

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    Aug 06, 2016 4:47 PM GMT
    Great post!! Finally, we get to the bottom of things! Sorry but I got a little tired of the, 'what do I eat to build biceps?' topics.
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    Aug 06, 2016 5:21 PM GMT
    StravaglEven before I ever had sex, when I would watch porn I found myself always looking at the top. I had already figured out that submission/bottoming was what I preferred even though I hadn't even tried it yet


    EkhoI feel anyone can train their body using pornography and by only getting off to a fantasy you are comfortable with it will eventually set in stone.


    this is what I was referring to, not that anyone should feel the need to change themselves, but doing so would just be as simple as switching their focus to always looking at the bottom the bottoms ass, and the fantasy of making the other guy the bitch.

    Also not everyone is only a top or only a bottom; some gay dudes roll around with eachother, and like flip or whatever. that seems pretty equal.
  • BambiBoy98

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    Aug 07, 2016 4:02 AM GMT
    Hmm. Interesting post. I do agree there seems to be more pros to topping than there are to bottoming from my observations. Personally i've neither topped or bottomed, but with experiences of topping and of bottoming that friends have told me about the tops generally have better things to say about their sexual experience. On the other hand, my friends that bottom do have good things to say but also I hear of quite a few negative things. And honestly your post has been a question of mine somewhat for a while now. Being relatively submissive in a sexual aspect (I just don't have it in me to get turned on by topping). But yeah, that about concludes my thoughts on this post!