Catching a guy staring at you when working out

  • Dreamboi300

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    Jun 29, 2016 5:54 PM GMT
    This may happen to most of us here and there but how would you react if you keep catching a guy stare at you at your gym but your not certain he is gay or just admiring your body I'm not sure to be annoyed that he keeps staring or should I stare back ???
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    Jun 29, 2016 6:21 PM GMT
    You should look back and smile... Maybe start a conversation.
    Happened to me, and the guy became one of my best friends, so much that I was best man when he married his wife...
    And we only sucked and fucked with each other a half dozen times before her got married... icon_cool.gif
  • monstapex

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    Jun 29, 2016 8:20 PM GMT
    What's the big deal .If you are not into guys then it might be a problem. If he's not touching you ,it shouldn't matter.Is he giving you a death stare?

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  • Dreamboi300

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    Jun 29, 2016 8:23 PM GMT
    monstapex saidWhat's the big deal .If you are not into guys then it might be a problem. If he's not touching you ,it shouldn't matter.Is he giving you a death stare?
    Bro it's a stare like I took something of his better seen then what I'm explaining on here it's a more serious stare than you think
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    Jun 29, 2016 8:24 PM GMT
    It's a compliment! Give them a little more and you might have a date. ALL GUYS love to compare and stare
  • monstapex

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    Jun 29, 2016 9:04 PM GMT
    Maybe he was hungry .You do look good enough to eaticon_razz.gif

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    Jun 29, 2016 9:56 PM GMT
    neighbor's dog has issues if you pretend stare at it.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jun 29, 2016 10:16 PM GMT
    I'm really not offended. I get noticed and I'm comfortable with it. Sometimes I just smile or ignore it depending on my mood and whats up.
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    Jun 29, 2016 10:36 PM GMT
    Ha, ha I wish!!!'
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    Jun 29, 2016 11:06 PM GMT
    Look back for a portion of the time he spends staring, and then use a piece of equipment in shorter distance to him and then keep tabs on him with your peripheries. Find a good conversation starter if you can too that is relevant, such as asking when the gym closes, or ask him if he is still using the machine after he does a couple of sets. Then next time you see him again you can say hello and it will feel more natural as you've already made contact previously. Don't waste your time caring if he is gay or not, just look forward to potentially meeting a new friend. This is how you make friends and dates in a way that is much more human than via online/apps.
  • Destinharbor

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    Jun 30, 2016 12:28 AM GMT
    Lean back and enjoy it.
  • TheGoodGuy

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    Jun 30, 2016 11:10 AM GMT
    At times I also do it at gym. 90% of the times I do it to see how the guy workout and get tips. Only 10% of times I will look at a guy due to his good looks. Please don't think that all guys that look at you are into you.
  • rnch

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    Jun 30, 2016 1:43 PM GMT
    As long as he is not pointing and shaking with laughter & mirth; I'll take it as a compliment.




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    Jun 30, 2016 1:57 PM GMT
    a) Take it as a compliment
    b) Stare back
    c) Acknowledge his presence with a nod or wave
    d) Approach and speak
    e) Any combination of the above

    I wouldn't be concerned about any ill intent. If there is, he obviously doesn't have the gonads to make a move. I'd remain aware, but only just.
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    Jun 30, 2016 3:18 PM GMT
    I am not too often at the gymn , i rather run outside to keep fit , but when it happens while i am working out , i usually smile back and strike a convo ....
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    Jun 30, 2016 6:56 PM GMT
    My friend took me to his gym in Hells Kitchen, aka a gay ass gym, and while there I caught some hunk's eye while going to the stairs. I tripped over the last step. It was bad. I went home soon after.
  • TheGoodGuy

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    Jun 30, 2016 7:22 PM GMT
    BP201 saidMy friend took me to his gym in Hells Kitchen, aka a gay ass gym, and while there I caught some hunk's eye while going to the stairs. I tripped over the last step. It was bad. I went home soon after.


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    Jun 30, 2016 8:43 PM GMT
    Total non-issue: an ur-first world "problem". Get a life!!!
  • socalfriend1

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    Jun 30, 2016 11:50 PM GMT
    JonSpringon saidYou should look back and smile... Maybe start a conversation.
    Happened to me, and the guy became one of my best friends, so much that I was best man when he married his wife...
    And we only sucked and fucked with each other a half dozen times before her got married... icon_cool.gif


    I want to workout where you do, stare at you, become your best friend, and ..... icon_smile.gif
  • Apparition

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    Jul 01, 2016 5:26 PM GMT
    My opinion of this hasn't changed since i came out what 25 years ago. Let everyone stare even when you are naked, let the old guys at the bar grope, because one day you will be old and undesirable and you will have memories of that happening. And it costs you nothing to make people happy. With all the tragedy in the world, you should give that little bit just to make the world a better place. It costs you nothing.
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    Jul 02, 2016 9:25 AM GMT
    Dreamboi300 saidThis may happen to most of us here and there but how would you react if you keep catching a guy stare at you at your gym but your not certain he is gay or just admiring your body I'm not sure to be annoyed that he keeps staring or should I stare back ???

    Just log in to Grindr. I'm sure he's looking at your profile. Which is why he's staring at you.

    HE WANTS THE D!
  • mybud

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    Jul 04, 2016 4:40 AM GMT
    It's happened to me...Give him the death stare until he looks away. This will work..trust me.
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    Jul 04, 2016 8:48 AM GMT
    Apparition saidMy opinion of this hasn't changed since i came out what 25 years ago. Let everyone stare even when you are naked, let the old guys at the bar grope, because one day you will be old and undesirable and you will have memories of that happening. And it costs you nothing to make people happy. With all the tragedy in the world, you should give that little bit just to make the world a better place. It costs you nothing.


    Kind of leaning this way now. I was so uptight when I was younger because I looked very young and had this idea that older guys would prey on me. I think I just hurt myself with it and wound up with less friends.

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  • FRE0

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    Jul 08, 2016 12:42 AM GMT
    monstapex saidWhat's the big deal .If you are not into guys then it might be a problem. If he's not touching you ,it shouldn't matter.Is he giving you a death stare?

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    No; the evil eye.
  • Apparition

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    Jul 09, 2016 4:08 AM GMT
    UMayNeverKnow said

    There was an old retired guy that used to hang out at our neighborhood corner gay bar and get drunk at happy hour. He and I and others at the bar would get into conversation. One night I met him on the street. He was leaning against a wall and very drunk. He would have been an easy target for a mugger so I took him by the arm and walked him back to his apartment. We stayed outside chatting for the longest and he then started to get touch freely with me. I figured what the fuck and let him hug me and steal some kisses. Lol. After that whenever I'd see him in the bars I joke with him about out romantic evening together, which of course he remembered nothing. You're right; it cost me nothing.


    I also correctly surmised that those old guys who sat in the bar hit on everyone, and "knew" everyone, and who and what they liked and if they were single, who they fucked etc (this was pre internet 90's), they were like having GRINDR lol.