Scared of being raped?

  • get2know

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    Jul 03, 2016 9:46 PM GMT
    Hey guys. Anyone having anxiety disorder?
    I've been in quite a few relationships I had sex with even more while being on my own but recently I've had a fear of being raped. Not about rape but about being raped. It gets even more complicated cos I like being dominated but I fear that I'll consider something rape when it's not. Or me and my partner won't understand each other. Has anyone here had the same? BTW im bottom
  • Apparition

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    Jul 03, 2016 10:05 PM GMT
    get references, and only date someone you think you would like to take his cock up the ass. then if it happens, well...what difference does it make.
  • get2know

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    Jul 04, 2016 9:44 AM GMT
    Well I get your point but still I'd be a rape victim even though my partner would be like * i'ma put it in and see what he says * against my will it would still be considered rape according to law. Would u guys really care that much that what happened was rape ?
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    Jul 05, 2016 9:35 AM GMT
    get2know saidWell I get your point but still I'd be a rape victim even though my partner would be like * i'ma put it in and see what he says * against my will it would still be considered rape according to law. Would u guys really care that much that what happened was rape ?


    If your this scared then don't be a rape victim , get away from being gay ,,, I'm a rape victim cause I lead a guy into thinking I wanted him to f ___ me ,, it happens more then what people think , but it doesn't get reported , cause what guy really wants to report being raped by another guy ,,, sorry , you either want cock in you or you don't you have to figure out what to tell the guy.
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    Jul 05, 2016 12:46 PM GMT
    get2know saidHey guys. Anyone having anxiety disorder?
    I've been in quite a few relationships I had sex with even more while being on my own but recently I've had a fear of being raped. Not about rape but about being raped. It gets even more complicated cos I like being dominated but I fear that I'll consider something rape when it's not. Or me and my partner won't understand each other. Has anyone here had the same? BTW im bottom


    If you like to be dominated, you need to discuss this with your potential partner. Safe words, and all that.

    If you don't want to have sex with a partner, no still means no, unless you've defined some other way of saying you want it to stop now. Even married people can rape each other if consent is not there at the time of the sex act.
  • Destinharbor

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    Jul 05, 2016 3:19 PM GMT
    If you like to be dominated but fear rape, don't allow restraints. Surely you can handle yourself well enough that you can keep a guy from sticking his dick in your ass if you don't want him to. My guess is you want to pretend you're being raped, but not actually raped. Your partner can't read your mind. Set up a safe word (I remember a safe word used for other purposes on QAF was buttplug! which I thought was funny). If restraints is your thing, then you really do want to be raped, sort of. I have no problem with kinky sexual needs but at some point you do have to own it.