Gay Dating Timeline

  • thisismynow1

    Posts: 6

    Jul 06, 2016 12:25 AM GMT
    I've read up a lot about timelines in relationships online (when the first kiss should be, first time having sex, first time inviting to sleep over, make the relationship official) and it seems like a lot of the articles are based on heterosexual relationships. I know every person is different and there shouldn't necessarily be a specific time frame for things, but I'm interested to know your guys' opinion on when the "firsts" should happen when dating a new guy.

    Again, I know specific timeframes are no good, but was just really wondering the "typical" timeframe for these kinds of things. I've been on 4 dates within a couple weeks with this guy. He's a great guy but still a little hard to read. I'm trying to figure out if it's okay or too soon to invite him over to spend the night this weekend. The last thing I want to do is scare him off.

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    Jul 06, 2016 2:22 AM GMT
    I think you already know what to do and how to proceed; you are just looking for some reassurance! the fact you have dated this guy four times for just a couple of weeks, is in my opinion, very little time to really get to know someone, then again I don't know what your real intentions are? if you are just looking for a summer fling, hookup, or for some fun timing should not be an issue. If you want something more serious from this guy, then you MUST let the friendship phase between you two kick in first.

    The fact that this guy is very hard to read is a red flag! or maybe is either you or him lack of understanding/acceptance of the person that you both are!?
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    Jul 06, 2016 2:41 AM GMT
    communication is totally important in a relationship
  • Apparition

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    Jul 06, 2016 4:11 AM GMT
    THE "typical" timeline is that all of those things happen either by the second date, or after 3 months.
  • SilverRRCloud

    Posts: 901

    Jul 08, 2016 1:55 PM GMT
    The typical timeline is actually a sheer nonsense.

    You want to communicate openly, freely and truthfully or just leave it there and move on.

    If both of you are sexually positive guys, and know what you want, there is no need to wait for any specific period of time, and pose around as if you were not interested in sex, if, say, you ARE.

    Typical is usually no good, because it sorts of averages everyone and everything, never getting it right... So, you really do not want to go there.

    The less you pose and pretend and the more honesty you put on the table the better it is.