SilverRRCloud saidYou want to draw a very clear line between the facts of m2m attraction and objectification/instrumentalization of other people. For many people, this is a serious challenge.
It's not just m2m attraction, think of the many men out there who are "breast men" or "ass men."
I've loved hookups where a guy just wanted to worship and give my cock all the attention in the world. I don't know that any of them would have been relationship material for me. They wanted to take a big cock for whatever reasons they had, and my pleasure was secondary to their purposes.
Relationships though, are much more complicated. I've always said "I love the person, not the parts." Granted, my fiance is drop dead sexy gorgeous, but what I love about him most is his caring nature, and his spirit.
I think what you all are saying is you want to be seen as a man first and foremost. Not a black man, or in my case a tall guy with a big cock. We are more than just our genetic traits or "gifts."