Non white men would you ever go with a white man that is fetishising you

  • Matthew56

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    Jul 07, 2016 6:26 PM GMT
    In terms of race obviously

    I would never ever and when a white men who shows any signs of interest in me and fetishises black men I refuse out of principle
  • FitBlackCuddl...

    Posts: 802

    Jul 07, 2016 6:45 PM GMT
    "Non white men would you ever go with a white man that is fetishing you"

    No. I am never an actual person to them, they let their fantasies dominate their consciousness. Every other comment they make is a shameless expectation of what I can do for them. I am no one's "African King/Prince".
  • SilverRRCloud

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    Jul 07, 2016 7:12 PM GMT
    FitBlackCuddler said"Non white men would you ever go with a white man that is fetishing you"

    No. I am never an actual person to them, they let their fantasies dominate their consciousness. Every other comment they make is a shameless expectation of what I can do for them. I am no one's "African King/Prince".


    Whoever believes that this other guy out there is purely there to fulfill any expectations with nothing in return does not deserve your time and energy. That bit is absolutely clear. Hardly anyone wishes to be objectified to the point of being nothing but an instrumental in achieving other people's goals.

    The real problem here is that relatively few people have the ability to see the gray zone. The bit where most of us are attracted to whomever we happen to be attracted to simply because this guy has the attributes that we as individuals find to be attractive.

    I very much enjoyed a great LTR with a guy who openly admitted that he would never date smaller and shorter guys than himself. I doubt that he fetishisized the fact that I was bigger and taller than he was. But if he did, it did not adversely affect our relationship.

    You want to draw a very clear line between the facts of m2m attraction and objectification/instrumentalization of other people. For many people, this is a serious challenge.

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    Jul 08, 2016 12:35 PM GMT
    SilverRRCloud saidYou want to draw a very clear line between the facts of m2m attraction and objectification/instrumentalization of other people. For many people, this is a serious challenge.

    SC


    It's not just m2m attraction, think of the many men out there who are "breast men" or "ass men."

    I've loved hookups where a guy just wanted to worship and give my cock all the attention in the world. I don't know that any of them would have been relationship material for me. They wanted to take a big cock for whatever reasons they had, and my pleasure was secondary to their purposes.

    Relationships though, are much more complicated. I've always said "I love the person, not the parts." Granted, my fiance is drop dead sexy gorgeous, but what I love about him most is his caring nature, and his spirit.

    I think what you all are saying is you want to be seen as a man first and foremost. Not a black man, or in my case a tall guy with a big cock. We are more than just our genetic traits or "gifts."
  • Fireworkz

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    Jul 11, 2016 9:24 PM GMT
    Only if he is hot.
  • TroyAthlete

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    Jul 12, 2016 7:48 PM GMT
    Fireworkz saidOnly if he is hot.


    Finally someone tells the truth. It's like my girls say, "It's not sexual harrassment if I'm attracted to him."
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    Jul 12, 2016 9:28 PM GMT
    Matthew56 saidI would never ever and when a white men who shows any signs of interest in me and fetishises black men I refuse out of principle


    LIES!

    The question doesn't really even make any sense. When fetishizing is all it is, it's nothing more than sex. When you say you "go with someone", it means you're dating. You wouldn't say you "go with someone" if it's just casual sex/fetishizing.