[After 30] Does your opportunity in having LTRs decrease?? will guys be less interested in you for Ltr? short term relationships&even just dating and having fun??
Is it late or harder to acheive what u failed to acheive in the 20s ,in our careers??
This may sound stupid
But did you feel a decline in your intelligence,mental skills&learning abilities??
And physically how it feels?the same or worse??
All just the opposite for me. I hit my physical peak in my late 20s and stayed there through my 30s. Could totally smoke guys in their late teens and early 20s. Only started to decline as I past into my 40s. I had the Army tests to prove it, not my imagination. But yah gotta stay with it. Otherwise, yes, your physical condition will start to naturally diminish with age.
For a time I was a university academic counselor, later the assistant registrar, focusing on non-traditional (essentially older) and returning students. One of my regular challenges was to reassure them that their age wouldn't disadvantage them in college. On the contrary, they had acquired life skills that could be great advantages in an academic setting.
The older brain is smarter overall, in my estimation, than the younger brain. Its principle potential shortcomings might be loss of quickness, and acquiring rigid thinking patterns. The former is usually not important in most situations, and the latter can be overcome with self-awareness, and a deliberate goal of thinking out of the box. It's usually the sedentary, under-active mind that falls victim to this problem. Like with your muscles, an exercise regimen of a mental sort is helpful.
Attaining your career goals by a certain age depends upon what they are. And when you start. Sports tend to be more narrowly defined by age. Some professions, due to long education periods, and the school competitive entry process, will require that you start young. Others, like much of the arts, can be very broad. With some very successful people having started surprisingly late in their lives. Entrepreneurial endeavors are also known for older successes.
As for gay LTRs, and other "fun", my own best years were between 45 and 55. Granted, I was a gay late bloomer, but even if I had come out younger I was a geek in those earlier years, and likely would have failed at trying to date. Age brought me a degree of bearing & confidence I'd been lacking. Not better looks, I merely presented myself better.
And using the tactic of only dating within my own age group also helped. True, many were already in relationships, but enough were single to keep me busy. I used to joke that I hardly had a weekend that I didn't spend in some guy's bed.
As Benjamin Franklin wrote to a friend, listing the advantages of having liaisons with older women: "They're so very grateful". Or to put it more bluntly, they practically race you to the bed. So that I had more sex after 40, never mind after 30, than I ever did in my entire life until then.
Therefore, don't abandon hope yet. You may find your best days are awaiting you, right after you blow out your 30 birthday candles.