Who into dating older men?


  • Jul 16, 2016 3:39 PM GMT
    I have had several relationships that I have learned from and grown over the years as a person. Those relationships were all initiated by younger men. I really didn't have to make an effort to start them. So I ask question. What is it that attracts younger men to older men and most important why??? Confused!
  • Corby

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    Jul 16, 2016 7:54 PM GMT
    I'm one who can say that Yes, I prefer men older than I (of course there are limits as well)! Even if I have no big experience on plying around and blah, blah, blah icon_smile.gif Why? Simply: In most cases they are already (really) down to earh and they know what they want!
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    Jul 16, 2016 8:24 PM GMT
    voicefulmarlin said... What is it that attracts younger men to older men and most important why??? Confused!
    money + frequent gift giving works
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    Jul 16, 2016 8:56 PM GMT
    Because fathers do a shit job of raising sons on average
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    Jul 16, 2016 9:23 PM GMT
    voicefulmarlin saidI have had several relationships that I have learned from and grown over the years as a person. Those relationships were all initiated by younger men. I really didn't have to make an effort to start them. So I ask question. What is it that attracts younger men to older men and most important why??? Confused!

    I can give you 20+ reasons. The cynical one is that some younger guys can be gold diggers. Whether you've got "gold" or not, it's a matter of them suspecting you might. Or having anything that will support them for the time being.

    But nicer reasons include that some older guys are simply more interesting & intriguing. And often a lot more knowledgable about the world, which can appeal to some younger guys. They may also have a lot of answers to things, that the young guy is still struggling to find.

    Although admittedly there are plenty of younger guys who are dense as stump posts, who wouldn't know or appreciate they were dating a Nobel Prize winner. On the other hand, the abilities of some younger guys are breathtaking.

    I'm reminded of a line that Sir Arthur Conan Doyle's detective Sherlock Holmes speaks to Dr. Watson (I hope I have this right, quoted from memory): "Mediocrity knows nothing higher than itself. But talent instantly recognizes true genius."

    Therefore date nothing less than a talented guy. Anyone's else's motives, and permanence when you're an older guy, are questionable.
  • prototype

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    Jul 16, 2016 11:27 PM GMT
    Well I'm currently dating a guy 8 years older than me. When we met I thought he was handsome and well dressed/put together. As we started dating certain attributes like confidence honesty intelligence and experience really made me more interested. But the two attributes I really like about him being older are his drive and independence. I'm an accountant studying for grad school and he's a lawyer who never stops working. We have a lot of independent time away from each other but we both understand that life is crazy and it's okay not to be around each other all the time. But he's a good partner to have in my corner because it's nice to have someone know about the hardship and effort of trying to succeeded without any guilt of missed time together.
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    Jul 17, 2016 2:13 AM GMT
    There are all sorts of reasons for this. Could just be they were attracted to you. I have been just attracted to someone older, for no particular reason. It can be a little of a turn off though when they act like they have something and suspect they don't when it wasn't your motivation for being with them in the first place.
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    Jul 17, 2016 4:03 AM GMT
    I wonder myself, as I am often persued by much younger guys - I'm talkin' 20s here... and I'm gonna be 50 this year.

    I am often told that I "act younger" than I am - hopefully not in a bad way. I'm curious, stay in reasonable shape, politically minded, into science, art, video games (and it's related technologies), produce electronic music, go to social events, parties, etc. I've had a lot of good/interesting experiences with various long-term relationships...

    But I honestly don't really know. I say: enjoy the 'complement' and if it feels right, just go with it... icon_wink.gif
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    Jul 17, 2016 5:02 AM GMT
    voicefulmarlin saidI have had several relationships that I have learned from and grown over the years as a person. Those relationships were all initiated by younger men. I really didn't have to make an effort to start them. So I ask question. What is it that attracts younger men to older men and most important why??? Confused!

    I think most of the young guys chasing after older guys have a daddy fetish. Some are just plain gold diggers. And the rest are attracted to the maturity and masculinity of an older guy. Qualities they can't find in guys their own age.

  • Jul 17, 2016 6:42 AM GMT
    Great thread. I've been looking for younger guys and want to know the kinds of things they look for and how I can accommodate it.
  • jayatl56

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    Jul 17, 2016 2:11 PM GMT
    I wonder about this and it confuses me as well. My ex, it came out after we broke up, was a gold digger. Five years later he's doing very well for himself with everything he learned while we were together (he worked with me). I've since moved back to the US and my current BF is 24 (I'm 59) but he's more talented than I and will definitely go places. His computer/web/IT talents have attracted the attention of companies locally and as far away as London and even his part time work earns him more than what I make working full time. All the power to him. Now if I can teach him to dust.

  • Jul 17, 2016 10:05 PM GMT
    Corby saidI'm one who can say that Yes, I prefer men older than I (of course there are limits as well)! Even if I have no big experience on plying around and blah, blah, blah icon_smile.gif Why? Simply: In most cases they are already (really) down to earh and they know what they want!
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    Very valuable insight Corey.....for one so young as yourself your very mature and positive....well said

  • Jul 17, 2016 10:06 PM GMT
    pellaz said
    voicefulmarlin said... What is it that attracts younger men to older men and most important why??? Confused!
    money + frequent gift giving works



    Lol now that's an interesting answer

  • Jul 17, 2016 10:07 PM GMT
    TO23 saidBecause fathers do a shit job of raising sons on average


    Perhaps but remember mate everyone's got a choice in life

  • Jul 17, 2016 10:10 PM GMT
    Art_Deco said
    voicefulmarlin saidI have had several relationships that I have learned from and grown over the years as a person. Those relationships were all initiated by younger men. I really didn't have to make an effort to start them. So I ask question. What is it that attracts younger men to older men and most important why??? Confused!

    I can give you 20+ reasons. The cynical one is that some younger guys can be gold diggers. Whether you've got "gold" or not, it's a matter of them suspecting you might. Or having anything that will support them for the time being.

    But nicer reasons include that some older guys are simply more interesting & intriguing. And often a lot more knowledgable about the world, which can appeal to some younger guys. They may also have a lot of answers to things, that the young guy is still struggling to find.

    Although admittedly there are plenty of younger guys who are dense as stump posts, who wouldn't know or appreciate they were dating a Nobel Prize winner. On the other hand, the abilities of some younger guys are breathtaking.

    I'm reminded of a line that Sir Arthur Conan Doyle's detective Sherlock Holmes speaks to Dr. Watson (I hope I have this right, quoted from memory): "Mediocrity knows nothing higher than itself. But talent instantly recognizes true genius."

    Therefore date nothing less than a talented guy. Anyone's else's motives, and permanence when you're an older guy, are questionable.




    Very impressive answer you are incredible! I like the quote

  • Jul 17, 2016 10:12 PM GMT
    prototype saidWell I'm currently dating a guy 8 years older than me. When we met I thought he was handsome and well dressed/put together. As we started dating certain attributes like confidence honesty intelligence and experience really made me more interested. But the two attributes I really like about him being older are his drive and independence. I'm an accountant studying for grad school and he's a lawyer who never stops working. We have a lot of independent time away from each other but we both understand that life is crazy and it's okay not to be around each other all the time. But he's a good partner to have in my corner because it's nice to have someone know about the hardship and effort of trying to succeeded without any guilt of missed time together.



    What a wonderful story. I'm pleased to hear you are both fine with he independence matter in your relationship.....i agree on it 100%

  • Jul 17, 2016 10:15 PM GMT
    buddycat saidThere are all sorts of reasons for this. Could just be they were attracted to you. I have been just attracted to someone older, for no particular reason. It can be a little of a turn off though when they act like they have something and suspect they don't when it wasn't your motivation for being with them in the first place.



    Valid point. Thanks for the share! ‚úč

  • Jul 17, 2016 10:19 PM GMT
    manboynyc saidI wonder myself, as I am often persued by much younger guys - I'm talkin' 20s here... and I'm gonna be 50 this year.

    I am often told that I "act younger" than I am - hopefully not in a bad way. I'm curious, stay in reasonable shape, politically minded, into science, art, video games (and it's related technologies), produce electronic music, go to social events, parties, etc. I've had a lot of good/interesting experiences with various long-term relationships...

    But I honestly don't really know. I say: enjoy the 'complement' and if it feels right, just go with it... icon_wink.gif



    Well said mate.....in visiting your profile you don even look your age.....that may men the younger crowd seems to find such people appealing especially with ye interests you expressed in your message....well said!

  • Jul 17, 2016 10:22 PM GMT
    xrichx said
    voicefulmarlin saidI have had several relationships that I have learned from and grown over the years as a person. Those relationships were all initiated by younger men. I really didn't have to make an effort to start them. So I ask question. What is it that attracts younger men to older men and most important why??? Confused!

    I think most of the young guys chasing after older guys have a daddy fetish. Some are just plain gold diggers. And the rest are attracted to the maturity and masculinity of an older guy. Qualities they can't find in guys their own age.



    I really like your answer....it shows honesty. Your loyal as well in staying on this site for the topics

  • Jul 17, 2016 10:23 PM GMT
    seekingyounger saidGreat thread. I've been looking for younger guys and want to know the kinds of things they look for and how I can accommodate it.


    Hopefully his thread can address a few of those things for you

  • Jul 17, 2016 10:26 PM GMT
    jayatl56 saidI wonder about this and it confuses me as well. My ex, it came out after we broke up, was a gold digger. Five years later he's doing very well for himself with everything he learned while we were together (he worked with me). I've since moved back to the US and my current BF is 24 (I'm 59) but he's more talented than I and will definitely go places. His computer/web/IT talents have attracted the attention of companies locally and as far away as London and even his part time work earns him more than what I make working full time. All the power to him. Now if I can teach him to dust.



    What a great answer.....and you seem to have found a great bf... good for you
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    Jul 17, 2016 10:50 PM GMT
    My guy's 8 years younger than me...

    He tells me that he was first drawn to me because of my wit, intelligence, common interests, dedication to fitness, and the rumors about the size of my penis.

    He later told me that while he was nonetheless impressed, the rumors were exaggerated. icon_biggrin.gif

    He assures me that it wasn't a money thing, as he makes a good living. All about attraction for all the right kinds of reasons.

    He married me, so I think it's all worked out for the best.
  • you_know_Its_...

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    Jul 18, 2016 12:13 AM GMT
    ^^Wait... if you're married, then why are you always on the guy-above-you threads offering to fuck/rim/etc the guy above lol

  • Jul 18, 2016 12:14 AM GMT
    JonSpringon saidMy guy's 8 years younger than me...

    He tells me that he was first drawn to me because of my wit, intelligence, common interests, dedication to fitness, and the rumors about the size of my penis.

    He later told me that while he was nonetheless impressed, the rumors were exaggerated. icon_biggrin.gif

    He assures me that it wasn't a money thing, as he makes a good living. All about attraction for all the right kinds of reasons

    He married me, so I think it's all worked out for the best.


    Wonderful.....too nice to see it all has a happy ending for sure a few couples

  • Jul 18, 2016 12:16 AM GMT
    you_know_its_true saidWait... if you're married, then why are you always on the guy-above-you threads offering to fuck/rim/etc the guy above lol



    You don't say lol