Is He Curious/Interested in Me Or Not???

  • mdclark91

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    Jul 17, 2016 9:15 PM GMT
    I'm a grad student and recently ran into a professor on campus who invited me to grab drinks and chat. The meeting was a bit awkward--I felt as if he wanted to say something to me or ask something, and he would hold his gaze for long periods of time before snapping back to reality and looking down at his drink, sometimes even chuckling awkwardly. He seems to really like me personally though, and he's invited me to hang out with him again this week. I'm just not sure if the interest is also romantic/sexual. If I'm right about him, I've struck gold, but if I'm wrong, I want to find out in least awkward way possible. Anybody have any suggestions on a smooth way of doing it?
  • Destinharbor

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    Jul 17, 2016 11:03 PM GMT
    Just find some opportunities to touch. Lean into him lightly while standing in line for something. Give him a surprise trap massage for two seconds from behind when returning to your table. Lean forward and give him lots of eye contact from across the table. Of course all this assumes you're willing to be out (at least to him) and he's not violating a school policy of prof/student interaction. And he isn't married. I assume you've done your homework. Or take the direct approach. When he says something funny in conversation, just smile and look straight at him, pause, and say "You're really cute." And nothing else until he responds.
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    Jul 17, 2016 11:24 PM GMT
    Are you even allowed to have that kind of relationship with a professor at your university?
    Even though he's not your teacher, most universities prohibit that kind of fraternizing between professor and students.
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    Jul 18, 2016 4:19 PM GMT
    mdclark91 said... want to find out in least awkward way possible. Anybody have any suggestions on a smooth way of doing it?
    look up his face book page
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    Jul 18, 2016 5:57 PM GMT
    What's wrong with asking him directly--for example, "What are we doing here?"
  • mybud

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    Jul 18, 2016 6:34 PM GMT
    First...Explain what you mean by your statement "struck gold".
  • TallAsian

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    Jul 19, 2016 1:11 AM GMT
    Well much like not fishing off the company pier, if this prof is connected in any way to your program it may prove tricky regardless of which way this goes, not to mention if word gets out his academic career may be over. You must also think of your own academic future as well. Should this go public with negative results, it could end up following you for the rest of your life and you may find that your colleagues may not take you seriously in your field. Whether you decide to pursue this is up to you, but just think of the consequences and if you are prepared to live with them should things go badly.
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    Jul 19, 2016 4:22 AM GMT
    Ronar2 saidAre you even allowed to have that kind of relationship with a professor at your university?
    Even though he's not your teacher, most universities prohibit that kind of fraternizing between professor and students.

    Professor/student romancing has been going on forever. It's not about to stop.
  • mcbrion

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    Jul 19, 2016 4:47 AM GMT
    mybud saidFirst...Explain what you mean by your statement "struck gold".


    Yes, how did you mean that? Do you mean he's good-looking and exactly your type or older, something along those lines?