Friendships, shyness advice

  • Countryboyev

    Posts: 9

    Jul 25, 2016 7:09 AM GMT
    Hi what any of you guys have any advice on making friends? I know it sounds kind of corny but I'm really having difficulty finding lasting friendships. I seem to only attract users and theifs.

    Also I find my self avoiding crowds amd people. Having no self esteeme or confidence may play a role into that aswell.

    Any advice on the blog or in a private message would help alot.

    Thank you
  • Tawrich

    Posts: 56

    Jul 25, 2016 7:57 PM GMT
    Get off the net and into a social activity for friends. Sports like ultimate frisbee have an awesome culture but you could do just about anything including LAN parties
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    Jul 25, 2016 11:23 PM GMT
    hang out in/with organizations with a number of people (of an interest of yours - like a gay sports club, if any). Meet people the natural way -
    Join some orgaization, and participate, and you will get known, shy or not. (No guarantee you will meet eligible gay men, though.)
  • Looking9

    Posts: 29

    Jul 26, 2016 3:12 AM GMT
    Sports is not for everyone..... May I suggest being kind, considerate and become a good listener. Once again, be kind, be considerate and force yourself to be a good listener.....

    Regarding the friends that use and abuse you, choose wisely, after all when you're in the supermarket buying produce or fruit don't you always choose the most beautiful, the one that's blemish free, there you go, bring that level of selection into your personal life.
  • Dynamo_spark

    Posts: 216

    Jul 26, 2016 8:32 AM GMT
    I was stuck in a 'user' friendship, when I stopped supplying, the friendship ran dry. It is difficult being lonely and trying to find friends. Sadly the users and swindlers take note of one's vulneribility. Be on the lookout for people who make idle promises, like, 'Oh! I must invite you for a BBQ, you have been so kind', or, 'You must come for a few drinks' (which you end up paying). At that point, it is time to move on. Look for someone with similar interests. Someone who is not 'over the top', if you know what I mean. Look for someone who takes interest in the things you like doing. I have ended up sometimes making friends with more older people than myself. When making a friend, does age matter?
  • Woody516

    Posts: 1

    Jul 28, 2016 4:26 AM GMT
    And try not to have looks be the determining factor in who you want to be friends with. That oftentimes becomes a trap. You think a person would make a good friend, and what you're really looking at him for is boyfriend potential. The friendship is already doomed because in the back of your head, you always have other things in mind.