Has you're "racial preferences" changed

  • Matthew56

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    Jul 27, 2016 7:35 AM GMT
    To all those who were sexual racists did you're sexual racism changed when you get older and if so why was it because if you are white you found yourself getting older and no longer desire able pretty much in the shoes of black and East Asian men. So you turned to them as a last resort or did you just genuinely rid yourself of you're racial prejudices
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    Jul 27, 2016 2:50 PM GMT
    Stop trying to make "sexual racist" happen. It's so passive-aggressive. No one likes passive-aggressive.

    I never really saw it for Asian guys (East Asian), but there was a really hot Asian at my previous gym. He was all of 5'5, but he was pretty muscular, probably about 160. He used to make squatting 315 look effortless. I was always amazed at what he could lift and how manly he came off (even though I'm totally sure it was all driven by a Napoleon complex). As skilled and aesthetically pleasing as he was, no sexual desire ever registered.
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    Jul 28, 2016 1:14 AM GMT
    I don't think that's a thing. If someone says "I'm only into white guys" that's their right. Everyone has a preference. I don't really care if someone doesn't like me sexually. There's plenty of fish in the sea.
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    Jul 28, 2016 1:38 AM GMT
    My tastes are broad, really broad.
    But you can't "convert" someone who only finds one race to be sexually attractive.
    If someone gives you a clue about their tastes, pay attention and move on when you need to.
  • dreamcock

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    Jul 28, 2016 1:38 AM GMT
    If I'm attracted to a man its not because of his race it's because I find him hot! A beautiful man is a beautiful man no matter what race.
  • Apparition

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    Jul 28, 2016 1:46 AM GMT
    for the most part, race is about culture, not appearance.
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    Jul 28, 2016 2:33 AM GMT
    Apparition saidfor the most part, race is about culture, not appearance.


    This is true though it's easy to forget about.

    Yet cultural background doesn't fully inform an individual either.

    No matter our cultural background some of us grow.
    I think we develop our preferences in all things as we grow.
    Some of us grow more open.
  • buddycat

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    Jul 28, 2016 3:53 AM GMT
    I make exceptions regardless except those that turn it into a racist thing. I have a black cousin, with a white mother(obviously or he wouldn't be my cousin). He married a white woman. I had a black friend who had a white mother, he only been with white women and a couple white guys including me. Often time it is just how you were raised. Since I grew up with black relatives and a black uncle from a black and interracial family, perhaps I don't have the racial hang-ups you have even though I primarily like white guys.
  • christastic

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    Jul 28, 2016 5:12 AM GMT
    I used to be open to all races, but back then I was in the suburbs and all my friends were straight. Half the couples in our circle were interracial.

    Having lived near the gay village for the past year, I really felt my currency rise as a result of being white, and realized I can probably date minorities that are a lot hotter than I am haha. So my standards went up for non-whites.
  • Tawrich

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    Jul 28, 2016 6:25 AM GMT
    to the op plz learn english
  • Dynamo_spark

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    Jul 28, 2016 7:01 AM GMT
    dreamcock saidIf I'm attracted to a man its not because of his race it's because I find him hot! A beautiful man is a beautiful man no matter what race.
    I wanted to reply something along these lines, but 'dreamcock' sort of says it best.
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    Jul 28, 2016 3:20 PM GMT
    dreamcock saidIf I'm attracted to a man its not because of his race it's because I find him hot! A beautiful man is a beautiful man no matter what race.



    That's for sure, (Shemar Moore)

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  • Apparition

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    Jul 28, 2016 3:52 PM GMT
    UMayNeverKnow said
    Apparition saidfor the most part, race is about culture, not appearance.


    WRONG! Why are forensic scientists able to accurately identify a person's "race" based on bones and skull features?

    I am of the same "race" as Italians and Swedes yet our cultures are vastly different.


    I meant as far as preferences not, that there isn't such a thing (although genetically, we are one species). A lot of guys who say they only like say ...their own race... is because they dont want to open the whole can of worms of dealing with a culture that is alien to them, they want something that they can deal with without effort. It is just easier. If you are looking to date someone they dont want to be thinking every second...is that politically correct...did I say the right thing...
    or will they get that pop reference? Do I have to explain every damn thing I say because they just didnt grow up the same. It can be exhausting having to explain everything all the time, or having to exert EFFORT just to be with someone....or particularly their family especially if immigration is an issue in recent generations. Like it or not most races have different cultures and not being from that culture and dealing with it is a hassle that some people just dont have the inclination to deal with especially if you are the majority race in a place and there are so many more choices in that place than dealing with one that is more difficult. yes that is a bit lazy, but such is life.
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    Jul 28, 2016 4:16 PM GMT
    It is not about the colour of the skin , it all about the personality of the person !!
  • dreamcock

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    Jul 28, 2016 4:26 PM GMT
    ELNathB said
    dreamcock saidIf I'm attracted to a man its not because of his race it's because I find him hot! A beautiful man is a beautiful man no matter what race.



    That's for sure, (Shemar Moore)

    tumblr_mtq2rvwHbK1sigz3oo1_500h.jpg
    yes he's smokin hot!
  • Fireworkz

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    Jul 28, 2016 10:50 PM GMT
    Surely a sexual racist is someone who sexually harasses and oppresses someone based on their race. That's the only way that term makes sense. I'm also sure it's against the law.
  • Matthew56

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    Jul 29, 2016 8:02 AM GMT
    Apparition said
    UMayNeverKnow said
    Apparition saidfor the most part, race is about culture, not appearance.


    WRONG! Why are forensic scientists able to accurately identify a person's "race" based on bones and skull features?

    I am of the same "race" as Italians and Swedes yet our cultures are vastly different.


    I meant as far as preferences not, that there isn't such a thing (although genetically, we are one species). A lot of guys who say they only like say ...their own race... is because they dont want to open the whole can of worms of dealing with a culture that is alien to them, they want something that they can deal with without effort. It is just easier. If you are looking to date someone they dont want to be thinking every second...is that politically correct...did I say the right thing...
    or will they get that pop reference? Do I have to explain every damn thing I say because they just didnt grow up the same. It can be exhausting having to explain everything all the time, or having to exert EFFORT just to be with someone....or particularly their family especially if immigration is an issue in recent generations. Like it or not most races have different cultures and not being from that culture and dealing with it is a hassle that some people just dont have the inclination to deal with especially if you are the majority race in a place and there are so many more choices in that place than dealing with one that is more difficult. yes that is a bit lazy, but such is life.


    It's f all to do with culture. You really think a white man who is American/westernised who is a sexual racist would pass over a White Russian or an white Israeli who he considered as gorgeous due to cultural/nationality differences. If he had to pick between a Black American and a White polish person. The white polish person would be picked over the Black American even though culturally he would have more in common with the Black American

    It's all about race in the gay world
  • Tawrich

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    Jul 29, 2016 11:09 AM GMT
    Matthew56 said
    Apparition said
    UMayNeverKnow said
    Apparition saidfor the most part, race is about culture, not appearance.


    WRONG! Why are forensic scientists able to accurately identify a person's "race" based on bones and skull features?

    I am of the same "race" as Italians and Swedes yet our cultures are vastly different.


    I meant as far as preferences not, that there isn't such a thing (although genetically, we are one species). A lot of guys who say they only like say ...their own race... is because they dont want to open the whole can of worms of dealing with a culture that is alien to them, they want something that they can deal with without effort. It is just easier. If you are looking to date someone they dont want to be thinking every second...is that politically correct...did I say the right thing...
    or will they get that pop reference? Do I have to explain every damn thing I say because they just didnt grow up the same. It can be exhausting having to explain everything all the time, or having to exert EFFORT just to be with someone....or particularly their family especially if immigration is an issue in recent generations. Like it or not most races have different cultures and not being from that culture and dealing with it is a hassle that some people just dont have the inclination to deal with especially if you are the majority race in a place and there are so many more choices in that place than dealing with one that is more difficult. yes that is a bit lazy, but such is life.


    It's f all to do with culture. You really think a white man who is American/westernised who is a sexual racist would pass over a White Russian or an white Israeli who he considered as gorgeous due to cultural/nationality differences. If he had to pick between a Black American and a White polish person. The white polish person would be picked over the Black American even though culturally he would have more in common with the Black American

    It's all about race in the gay world


    It should be pretty clear now that you're the only racist here.
  • Matthew56

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    Jul 29, 2016 12:33 PM GMT
    Tawrich said
    Matthew56 said
    Apparition said
    UMayNeverKnow said
    Apparition saidfor the most part, race is about culture, not appearance.


    WRONG! Why are forensic scientists able to accurately identify a person's "race" based on bones and skull features?

    I am of the same "race" as Italians and Swedes yet our cultures are vastly different.


    I meant as far as preferences not, that there isn't such a thing (although genetically, we are one species). A lot of guys who say they only like say ...their own race... is because they dont want to open the whole can of worms of dealing with a culture that is alien to them, they want something that they can deal with without effort. It is just easier. If you are looking to date someone they dont want to be thinking every second...is that politically correct...did I say the right thing...
    or will they get that pop reference? Do I have to explain every damn thing I say because they just didnt grow up the same. It can be exhausting having to explain everything all the time, or having to exert EFFORT just to be with someone....or particularly their family especially if immigration is an issue in recent generations. Like it or not most races have different cultures and not being from that culture and dealing with it is a hassle that some people just dont have the inclination to deal with especially if you are the majority race in a place and there are so many more choices in that place than dealing with one that is more difficult. yes that is a bit lazy, but such is life.


    It's f all to do with culture. You really think a white man who is American/westernised who is a sexual racist would pass over a White Russian or an white Israeli who he considered as gorgeous due to cultural/nationality differences. If he had to pick between a Black American and a White polish person. The white polish person would be picked over the Black American even though culturally he would have more in common with the Black American

    It's all about race in the gay world


    It should be pretty clear now that you're the only racist here.


    Nope just stating the facts
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    Jul 30, 2016 3:05 AM GMT
    dreamcock said
    ELNathB said
    dreamcock saidIf I'm attracted to a man its not because of his race it's because I find him hot! A beautiful man is a beautiful man no matter what race.



    That's for sure, (Shemar Moore)

    tumblr_mtq2rvwHbK1sigz3oo1_500h.jpg
    yes he's smokin hot!



    What you are posting and co-signing to, many black men consider that to be fetizising based on a sexual and physical aspect. I am sure sex would be your main catalyst for seeking out a black man, and nothing else would matter. Educations, background, goals, would be secondary to you, as long as he was sexy, right?
  • mattyrec

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    Jul 30, 2016 3:15 AM GMT
    When I was younger, I was pretty much only attracted to white guys... moved on to hispanics, and now nothing turns me on like a hot black man!
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    BeautyGuyRu said
    What you are posting and co-signing to, many black men consider that to be fetizising based on a sexual and physical aspect. I am sure sex would be your main catalyst for seeking out a black man, and nothing else would matter. Educations, background, goals, would be secondary to you, as long as he was sexy, right?

    I think there is a large truth in that, but given how the gay scene is, it could be much worse, like the treatment Asians get or the feminine guys.
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    Jul 30, 2016 5:21 PM GMT
    BeautyGuyRu said
    dreamcock said
    ELNathB said
    dreamcock saidIf I'm attracted to a man its not because of his race it's because I find him hot! A beautiful man is a beautiful man no matter what race.



    That's for sure, (Shemar Moore)

    tumblr_mtq2rvwHbK1sigz3oo1_500h.jpg
    yes he's smokin hot!



    What you are posting and co-signing to, many black men consider that to be fetizising based on a sexual and physical aspect. I am sure sex would be your main catalyst for seeking out a black man, and nothing else would matter. Educations, background, goals, would be secondary to you, as long as he was sexy, right?

    You don't get it. There is no fetishizing here. Of course his background, education, and goals have no bearing on his attractiveness in a photograph. This guy - a fuckin former fashion model - is universally considered hot in his appearance (well, maybe not universally - would not be by chubby chasers, or those who want only twinks or bears). He could equally be Asian, white, or Indian, if he had that build and similar facial features. ElNath and dreamcock said he was hot - a sexual turn on - not that they wanted to marry and raise a family with him. It would be a fetish for a white or Asian man to be attracted only to black men just because they are black.
  • xBEHEMOTHx

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    Jul 31, 2016 4:56 PM GMT
    * grabs popcorn *

  • Jul 31, 2016 6:06 PM GMT
    I'm Eastern European, so it's more homogeneous than other parts of Europe, so I'm always going to prefer Slavic or other European guys( White guys, not immigrants), over other races. But in America, I do like American White, and Hispanic boys. But their are a lot of European guys who like Black, Asian, and Latino guys as well.