Moving to San Diego

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    Jul 30, 2016 9:40 AM GMT
    Hi everyone

    I was born and raised in small town Oklahoma and have been living in Tulsa for the past year. Well, around June of next year, I plan to move to San Diego. A friend and I took a trip to California recently and spent a few days in SD and I fell in love. I'm a registered nurse and have been speaking with contract agencies regarding opportunities there. More than likely, I'll be working at UCSD Medical Center in Hillcrest. I'm aware that Hillcrest is the 'gayborhood' of San Diego, but would y'all recommend it as a place to live? Some friends have recommended North Park and University Heights as well. I obviously have quite some time to figure out my living situation before I move, but I'd like to research all my options. It's just me, no animals, and my contract agency is offering a $3k/mo tax free housing stipend. Any suggestions are welcome!

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    Michael
  • roadbikeRob

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    Jul 30, 2016 1:07 PM GMT
    I would have never thought that you would leave your native Oklahoma because you impressed me as the well informed, young gay guy who would tough it out and join forces to change Oklahoma for the better especially for its gay and lesbian citizens. However, I have been told that San Diego is a very beautiful and energetic modern city however at the same token it is very expensive just like the rest of the west coast. Best of luck to you. Given Oklahoma's stubborn refusal to get out of its 50s mindset, I really don't blame you for throwing in the towel and leaving.
  • jeepguySD

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    Jul 30, 2016 2:47 PM GMT
    You're right, Hillcrest is a predominantly gay neighborhood, but not as much as it used to be. More and more straight couples have moved into the area. Hillcrest is an expensive neighborhood in which to live, especially if you're looking to own property, but even though there are more straight people around, Hillcrest is still where most gay bars/clubs and gay-friendly business are found. If you pick the right spot in Hillcrest you can pretty much get by day to day without driving -- walking to work, to stores, and to restaurants and bars/clubs.

    North Park and University Heights both have growing gay populations. They are both adjacent to Hillcrest and they have nice neighborhood vibes with bars (some of them gay), restaurants, and shops within walking distance. As LGBT people migrate from Hillcrest to North Park and University Heights they are transforming, gentrifying, the neighborhoods, much as they did for Hillcrest many years ago. Another nice neighborhood, also near Hillcrest and with quite a few restaurants and shops is South Park -- as the name suggests, it is immediately south of North Park. South Park does not have as high of a gay population as Hillcrest, North Park, or University Heights, but there are quite a few gay couples living there and it seems to be gay friendly.
  • bro4bro

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    Jul 31, 2016 6:05 PM GMT
    $3k per month for housing would get you a very nice place at the beach. Ocean Beach is a bit more "alternative", while Pacific Beach is a big frat party with tons of smokin hot guys (who mostly identify as "str8" but there's a lot of hooking up on the sly).

    Living at the beach is much more comfortable than living inland - 80 degrees is a very hot day, and 50 is a very cold day. Your windows are always open, there's always a nice cool breeze, people are friendly, and there's all those shirtless guys around...

    It is not the place to be if you want to be immersed in the gay scene, however.
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    Jul 31, 2016 8:21 PM GMT
    I lived in North Clairemont, Normal Heights, North Park, and Ocean Beach. And out in Mira Mesa, when I was in the Navy and stationed at Miramar. I liked Ocean Beach the best, although my place was under the flight path of the airport and that really sucked.
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    Jul 31, 2016 8:38 PM GMT
    When I lived there San Diego was a great place to get around on a motorcycle instead of a car. Unlike up here where it rains a lot more and is colder in the winter. I had a Honda Nighthawk which was fast and a lot of fun to ride.
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    Aug 01, 2016 4:34 AM GMT
    WestCoastJock saidThis topic reminds me to go visit San Diego again one of these weekends. Has anyone tried the train from LA to San Diego? It seems like a much better alternative than the 5.

    How would you get around after you got down there? You could make it a road trip and go down highway 1, then take 5 through Camp Pendleton, then get back on 1 in Oceanside. There are plenty of smoothie places along highway 1.

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    Aug 01, 2016 11:27 PM GMT
    bro4bro said$3k per month for housing would get you a very nice place at the beach. Ocean Beach is a bit more "alternative", while Pacific Beach is a big frat party with tons of smokin hot guys (who mostly identify as "str8" but there's a lot of hooking up on the sly).

    Living at the beach is much more comfortable than living inland - 80 degrees is a very hot day, and 50 is a very cold day. Your windows are always open, there's always a nice cool breeze, people are friendly, and there's all those shirtless guys around...

    It is not the place to be if you want to be immersed in the gay scene, however.


    I imagine living on/near the beach would be enjoyable and comfortable. I'm definitely not against the idea! I'm just trying to strike a nice balance between the enjoyability of the neighborhood in which I live with the commute/ease of getting to work in Hillcrest. It's difficult to make this decision when I'm 1500 miles away, but I plan to visit the city again before I relocate. I'm finding the suggestions here and elsewhere on the Internet useful in narrowing down my choices, though.

    jeepguySD saidYou're right, Hillcrest is a predominantly gay neighborhood, but not as much as it used to be. More and more straight couples have moved into the area. Hillcrest is an expensive neighborhood in which to live, especially if you're looking to own property, but even though there are more straight people around, Hillcrest is still where most gay bars/clubs and gay-friendly business are found. If you pick the right spot in Hillcrest you can pretty much get by day to day without driving -- walking to work, to stores, and to restaurants and bars/clubs.

    North Park and University Heights both have growing gay populations. They are both adjacent to Hillcrest and they have nice neighborhood vibes with bars (some of them gay), restaurants, and shops within walking distance. As LGBT people migrate from Hillcrest to North Park and University Heights they are transforming, gentrifying, the neighborhoods, much as they did for Hillcrest many years ago. Another nice neighborhood, also near Hillcrest and with quite a few restaurants and shops is South Park -- as the name suggests, it is immediately south of North Park. South Park does not have as high of a gay population as Hillcrest, North Park, or University Heights, but there are quite a few gay couples living there and it seems to be gay friendly.


    Thank you for the insight. I actually visited South Park accidentally while I was in SD and it seemed like such a quaint but trendy neighborhood. I don't *need* to be in the middle of all the gay action. I really particularly asked about Hillcrest since I'll be working at UCSD and it seemed like the obvious choice. Can you tell me more about where you have lived in SD and what your experience has been? Thank you!
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    Aug 02, 2016 1:51 AM GMT
    Love Carlsbad and its proximity to classic California beaches!
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    Oct 30, 2016 4:17 AM GMT
    I'm bumping this topic because I plan to visit SD with a friend for about 6 days in February. I'm thinking we'll stay either in Little Italy, Hillcrest, or University Heights but would like some more insight about making the move itself. I still plan to do so in May.
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    Oct 30, 2016 6:45 AM GMT
    IsigVinter saidI'm bumping this topic because I plan to visit SD with a friend for about 6 days in February. I'm thinking we'll stay either in Little Italy, Hillcrest, or University Heights but would like some more insight about making the move itself. I still plan to do so in May.


    All three are great places.

    University Heights is up and out of the way and not as busy as Little Italy or Hillcrest. So less noise and has a real
    neighborhood vibe. I love all 3 places for the differences they offer. The farmers Market in Little Italy is amazing and the
    shops and boutiques equally hip. University Heights is above them all and good classic area/men too. Hillcrest is a party place with
    plenty of boys, clubs and all things gay!!
    I will be going there soon. I always shop for my eye ware in Hilcrest!!
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    Oct 30, 2016 7:10 PM GMT


    Balboa Park, runs along 6th, just south of Hillcrest is where San Diego gay pride festival is held every year, I think the parade either ends in the park or begins there. Downtown, gas lamp quarter is quite gentrified and is full of restaurants and small shops.

    Make your way down to Old Town San Diego State Historic Park, https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Old_Town_San_Diego_State_Historic_Park, authentic Mexican flair and ive had some of the largest strawberry margaritas made anywhere.

    Black's Beach, [url]https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Black%27s_Beach[/url], the sometimes, on again, off again nude beach.

    You must take in the San Diego Zoo, ive been there a couple times


    Of course the famous gay pride Zoo Party held in July (if you are into dancing to circuit music, many LA natives make the trip)

  • bro4bro

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    Oct 31, 2016 3:07 AM GMT
    IsigVinter saidI really particularly asked about Hillcrest since I'll be working at UCSD and it seemed like the obvious choice.


    Umm... UCSD is nowhere near Hillcrest. It's at the north end of La Jolla.
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    Oct 31, 2016 3:54 AM GMT
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    IsigVinter saidI really particularly asked about Hillcrest since I'll be working at UCSD and it seemed like the obvious choice.


    Umm... UCSD is nowhere near Hillcrest. It's at the north end of La Jolla.


    There is UCSD Medical Center in Hillcrest, and the cardiovascular center (Sulpizio Cardiovascular Center) in La Jolla.
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    Oct 31, 2016 10:34 PM GMT
    IsigVinter saidI'm bumping this topic because I plan to visit SD with a friend for about 6 days in February. I'm thinking we'll stay either in Little Italy, Hillcrest, or University Heights but would like some more insight about making the move itself. I still plan to do so in May.


    I live in the Mission Hills neighborhood, which borders Hillcrest and Old Town, and is close to downtown and the airport. I've lived all over SD over the past 8 years, and this is definitely my favorite neighborhood so far. Close to everything, easy access to the freeway, yet quieter than downtown or Hillcrest when you want to get away from the rush. I have a lot of friends that work at that UCSD hospital, and go there for work every now and then. It's pretty central, and easily accessible from a bunch of different neighborhoods. Hillcrest, North Park, University Heights, and Mission Hills are all great places to look for a place, and your budget will get you something really nice. Let me know if you have any other questions.

    If you're just coming down to visit in February and are looking for recommendations for places to stay then, I would look at the places by the water like in Mission Bay or Harbor/Shelter Island. There aren't many hotels in Hillcrest or University Heights, and the ones that are there aren't very nice. But there are always AirBnB options.
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    Nov 01, 2016 5:23 AM GMT
    IsigVinter said
    bro4bro said
    IsigVinter saidI really particularly asked about Hillcrest since I'll be working at UCSD and it seemed like the obvious choice.


    Umm... UCSD is nowhere near Hillcrest. It's at the north end of La Jolla.


    There is UCSD Medical Center in Hillcrest, and the cardiovascular center (Sulpizio Cardiovascular Center) in La Jolla.


    The UCSD is off Washington street and 4th? Very centrally located.
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    Nov 01, 2016 5:50 AM GMT
    If you're going to work at UCSD, then maybe think about moving to La Jolla. It's a nice neighborhood too. It's not gay but it's basically
    very close to your work. I've been to Hillcrest a couple times, it's a nice little gay neighborhood. If you want the gay nightlife
    and be close to the gay action, then It's the place to move. Having 3k for housing, I'm sure you can find a nice decent big comfortable
    option for that. But yeah, it's still a long way to go, maybe you can come out to SD a couple times more to actually check out
    the neighborhood and places that you want to rent. icon_smile.gif
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    Nov 01, 2016 6:58 AM GMT
    laxwill10 saidIf you're going to work at UCSD, then maybe think about moving to La Jolla. It's a nice neighborhood too. It's not gay but it's basically
    very close to your work. I've been to Hillcrest a couple times, it's a nice little gay neighborhood. If you want the gay nightlife
    and be close to the gay action, then It's the place to move. Having 3k for housing, I'm sure you can find a nice decent big comfortable
    option for that. But yeah, it's still a long way to go, maybe you can come out to SD a couple times more to actually check out
    the neighborhood and places that you want to rent. icon_smile.gif


    I'm perplexed. La Jolla is 10+ miles from UCSD Hillcrest. Is this medical center known as something else? I only ask because several people seem to think I'm talking about Thornton Hospital (UCSD La Jolla) though I did specify Hillcrest in my OP.
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    Nov 18, 2016 1:28 PM GMT
    From reading your original post, it sounds like you'll be taking a travel nursing assignment in SD. You should talk with other travel nurses who have taken assignments there. They are the ones who'll be able to tell you the best places to live close to UCSD....reasonably priced and have enough of your stipend left to pocket.

    There are several travel nursing groups on Facebook. Lots of them are helpful. Good luck!