why are some guys obsessed wiht sex?

  • chainsaber

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    Jul 31, 2016 10:48 PM GMT
    don't get me wrong folks i can understand how sex is a goodthing in its way and that its great and awesome and all that but come on already these got to be more to day to day life then just sex sex sex.

    i cool wiht sex as a guy i got a healthy sex drive much like any gay man does but i don't obsess over the matter endlessly like some gusy do in that way

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    Jul 31, 2016 11:00 PM GMT
    Why?
    INSECURITY!
    Every sex crazed guy I know is desperate to prove that he's desirable.
    He's never confident and thus has to continue his pursuit.

    The full on sex addicts are different.
    They don't care what they look like and they don't care what their partners look like.
    They are so needy that they can't be picky.
  • nice_chap

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    Jul 31, 2016 11:09 PM GMT
    Yeah, insecurity. That, and the fact that a lot of gay men think that if you're not being a total slut, then you haven't fully embraced your sexuality, so they feel the need to fuck a different guy every couple of days to prove they weren't joking when they came out of the closet.
  • Eleven

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    Jul 31, 2016 11:10 PM GMT
    Lonliness
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    Jul 31, 2016 11:20 PM GMT
    I'd have to agree with the insecurity comments. I always wanted to be loved and feel loved. I think sex can be confused for love. For me I came out at a 34 and sex finally felt right so Ive had a period of hypersexuality. I'm somewhat obsessed with it because it's new, exciting, I'm single, so why not
  • chainsaber

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    Jul 31, 2016 11:46 PM GMT
    as self confidence goes I've never had problems wiht felling insecure or lack of self confidence as a guy over the years when it comes to my day to day life as a man.

    you really want to know the secret to self confidence

    don't

    fear

    anything

    don't fear life

    don't fear living

    don't fear death

    don't fear dying

    but instead fear the life not lived jsut stay relaxed in living each moment for the moment as it comes

    accept each moment for what it brings into your life.

    learn to be a bttter person from the bad experiences search for and find the good in everything in each moment in day to day life but allow each moment to pass naturally from the present moment to the next moment after that

    don't just be aware of your fears learn to master those fears over time . to rise above them . to be a better person for the experience

    me i live my life without fear as one who is already among the dead .

    i don't fear death and i certainly don't fear dying if i fear anything its the life not lived

    i got enough common sense to avoid being stupid like some folks are in their way when it comes to taking chances wiht the rsky behavior and risk taking lifestyle
    if i fear anything though it is the life not lived

    always look forward never back and don't allow yourself to be ttripped up and held back by the past dontlet the could ofs wouldofs should haves andand if only bog you down in the past always keep moving forward that's how you make progress in day to day life
  • Joshthegaymer

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    Aug 01, 2016 4:38 AM GMT
    It's because some human beings are very sex crazed :/
  • buddycat

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    Aug 01, 2016 5:46 AM GMT
    Joshthegaymer saidIt's because some human beings are very sex crazed :/

    I am sure there are tons of reasons. They are unable to form a healthy relationships.
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    Aug 01, 2016 1:49 PM GMT
    I don't see anything wrong with it. If they like sex, then be it. Sex is good as long as no one is being hurt by it. There are more important things in life to worry about, such as where this beautiful country is going in light of the incivility that is manifest in the present socio-political environment. (aka the "dumbing" of America).
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    Aug 01, 2016 7:00 PM GMT
    DOMINUS saidI don't see anything wrong with it. If they like sex, then be it. Sex is good as long as no one is being hurt by it. There are more important things in life to worry about, such as where this beautiful country is going in light of the incivility that is manifest in the present socio-political environment. (aka the "dumbing" of America).

    The world is full of busybodies. We've got the young guys who are bent out of shape over guys in a long term relationship who have an open relationship, or upset about older guys chasing after young guys. I'm sure there are other things I haven't thought of that people like to get bent about, but as you say, there are more important things in life to worry about rather than worrying about how other people live their lives when it doesn't affect you.

    In my mind it's no different than Christians being upset about gays "living in sin."
  • nice_chap

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    Aug 01, 2016 9:54 PM GMT
    Lumpyoatmeal saidI'm sure there are other things I haven't thought of that people like to get bent about, but as you say, there are more important things in life to worry about rather than worrying about how other people live their lives when it doesn't affect you.

    In my mind it's no different than Christians being upset about gays "living in sin."


    It kind of does affect you if you're looking for a date or trying to make new friends and end up meeting people that aren't interested in anything about you beyond your bedroom activity. Yes, there are more important things to think about and talk about, but it's kind of difficult to strike up a meaningful conversation with someone who only wants to know your cock size and if you're a top or bottom. That's probably why the OP started this topic in the first place.
  • ANTiSociaLiNJ...

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    Aug 02, 2016 12:29 AM GMT
    nice_chap said
    Lumpyoatmeal saidI'm sure there are other things I haven't thought of that people like to get bent about, but as you say, there are more important things in life to worry about rather than worrying about how other people live their lives when it doesn't affect you.

    In my mind it's no different than Christians being upset about gays "living in sin."


    It kind of does affect you if you're looking for a date or trying to make new friends and end up meeting people that aren't interested in anything about you beyond your bedroom activity. Yes, there are more important things to think about and talk about, but it's kind of difficult to strike up a meaningful conversation with someone who only wants to know your cock size and if you're a top or bottom. That's probably why the OP started this topic in the first place.


    What is wrong with you? You sound like you need a therapist. You have this laundry list of complaints about being gay and you're running to every thread to moan about it. It seems rather hypocritical on your part to suggest that all men want is sex when nearly every picture you have on your profile is of you nude or nude and in a horizontal position. Put some clothes on so people will not get the wrong impression about you.
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    Aug 02, 2016 1:42 AM GMT
    Two reasons. A chemical called testosterone. And our genitals hang from the center of our bodies.
  • Dynamo_spark

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    Aug 03, 2016 7:58 AM GMT
    Guys who are overly flirtatious and constantly go out in search of fresh meat, to overcome their sexual frustrations and needs. Often are the one's who never end up in relationships. If they do they opt for an open relationship. They always have skeletons in the closet as they get embarressed when in an intimate situation and can never answer the question, "So when last were you in a relationship, or, when did you have sex, etc. etc?" Imagine falling in love with a guy and one fine day he let's out his dirty laundry, "I have a confession to make...before I met you, there was Frank, Johnny, Curtis, Kyle, Mark, Alex...."
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    Aug 05, 2016 1:21 AM GMT
    DOMINUS saidI don't see anything wrong with it. If they like sex, then be it. Sex is good as long as no one is being hurt by it. There are more important things in life to worry about, such as where this beautiful country is going in light of the incivility that is manifest in the present socio-political environment. (aka the "dumbing" of America).


    Must be a mental issue!

    lol
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    Aug 05, 2016 3:30 AM GMT
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    Lumpyoatmeal saidI'm sure there are other things I haven't thought of that people like to get bent about, but as you say, there are more important things in life to worry about rather than worrying about how other people live their lives when it doesn't affect you.

    In my mind it's no different than Christians being upset about gays "living in sin."


    It kind of does affect you if you're looking for a date or trying to make new friends and end up meeting people that aren't interested in anything about you beyond your bedroom activity. Yes, there are more important things to think about and talk about, but it's kind of difficult to strike up a meaningful conversation with someone who only wants to know your cock size and if you're a top or bottom. That's probably why the OP started this topic in the first place.


    Since I have been in a relationship for a long time, it has been years since I dated. But when I was your age and single, although open to possible relationships, I was meeting and having sex with a lot of men. Not "sex-crazed" , and not as many encounters as Lumpy, but it was fun. I can't imagine what it would be like to try to start a relationship with someone when you are still a virgin. Experience counts. I think most men today your age or younger, have not been really ready for relationships/marriage. (There is a hell of a lot of divorce among young marrieds.) Maybe there is a slight difference in time - my experience was pre-Grindr, and one had to actually meet someone before coming to their house for sex. But probably the same percentage of guys hooking up on Grindr are avaialable for something longer lasting, as tjere were in the pre-Grindr days.
  • mwolverine

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    Aug 05, 2016 4:56 AM GMT
    What's the definition of being obsessed with sex?


    ... Anyone who has more sex than you do.

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  • chainsaber

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    Aug 20, 2016 7:18 AM GMT
    Lumpyoatmeal said
    DOMINUS saidI don't see anything wrong with it. If they like sex, then be it. Sex is good as long as no one is being hurt by it. There are more important things in life to worry about, such as where this beautiful country is going in light of the incivility that is manifest in the present socio-political environment. (aka the "dumbing" of America).

    The world is full of busybodies. We've got the young guys who are bent out of shape over guys in a long term relationship who have an open relationship, or upset about older guys chasing after young guys. I'm sure there are other things I haven't thought of that people like to get bent about, but as you say, there are more important things in life to worry about rather than worrying about how other people live their lives when it doesn't affect you.

    In my mind it's no different than Christians being upset about gays "living in sin."



    oh like its our fault they be so full of hate and condemnation and such zealots to their sheep minded religion they expereinc nothing but negative emotins towards those of us who actually enjoy not being shackled down strictly to thier way of life thier view point thier religion their belief system

    maybe if they weren't so full of hate and such toxic negative emotions towards the rest of us they would not have such problems wiht erectile dysfunctions

    maybe the real reason they have such hate and contempt for us other folks is that we be so busy in enjoying healthy exual relationships while they cant get it up lmfao
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    Aug 20, 2016 7:55 AM GMT
    Well I LOVE new ways to get off,gay sex is more elborate than just banging a snatch and hetero sex that to me is so boring haha. Humans are sexual beings gay or whatever your preference. I still gym every day enjoy nature our pets,reading and lots of other stuff not just sex although I think of it often. I am a man you see. Last thought do not let it consume all your time thats unnattural.
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    Aug 20, 2016 8:16 PM GMT
    Animals. That's what we are. Some more civilized than others regarding monogamy and marriage, this topic isn't news. Men throughout out history have been spreading their seed and multiplying, you exist because sex.
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    Aug 20, 2016 8:20 PM GMT
    It is a gift. Enjoy it, truly!
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    Aug 20, 2016 9:35 PM GMT
    BP201 saidMen throughout out history have been spreading their seed and multiplying, you exist because sex.

    A guy I once worked with quipped, "Men are just looking for a place to squirt."