TV Shows that helped you come out of the closet

  • Joshthegaymer

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    Aug 01, 2016 5:12 PM GMT
    What are some of the TV shows that helped y'all come out of the closet? For me personally, shows like the Golden Girls, Degrassi, and Noah's Arc helped me build up the courage to come out of the closet.
  • Destinharbor

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    Aug 01, 2016 8:31 PM GMT
    Probably QAF. It was the first show that felt with a lot of issues in the gay world and also suggested the wide variety of lifestyles in the community. And one quote from Brian that especially spoke to me was "If it isn't you that I'm fucking, I don't know why who I'm fucking is any of your business" spoken to a new boss. And if was fun! Had flaws but didn't dwell on flaming queens and drag queens and the exaggerated mannerisms and bitchy-ness that so many NY plays had before.
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    Aug 02, 2016 2:56 AM GMT
    Thank you, @Joshthegamer, for bringing this topic up.
    (For me), I don't rely on TV to give me (practical) information. To date, the only American mainstream soap, "One Day to Live," has showed the general public a functional gay couple, that most gay men of my generation will be proud to have them represent us. (Of course, if you disagree, we'd be happy to hear your reasons).
  • Joshthegaymer

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    Aug 02, 2016 6:42 AM GMT
    Homerk saidThank you, @Joshthegamer, for bringing this topic up.
    (For me), I don't rely on TV to give me (practical) information. To date, the only American mainstream soap, "One Day to Live," has showed the general public a functional gay couple, that most gay men of my generation will be proud to have them represent us. (Of course, if you disagree, we'd be happy to hear your reasons).


    You are most welcome @Homerk and I admire your generation a lot as your generation fought very hard to bring the LGBT community where we are today. icon_smile.gif I personally am more familiar with the Golden Girls, Degrassi, and Noah's Arc because of the kind of TV that I watched growing up. For example, I felt like a male version of Dorothy Zbornak and Rose Nylund mainly because I was naive, but witty at times. From Noah's Arc, I felt the most connected to Ricky because he was a tough guy on the outside and soft on the inside. He also reminded me of Blanche Devereaux. And finally, Degrassi has always been a coming of age TV show for me that I absolutely love being that it deals with a lot of teenage issues and hot button topics. One of my favorite characters from Degrassi, Marco (who was played by openly gay Canadian actor Adamo Ruggiero) helped me start the process of coming out, though I came out in a slower pace to be honest. Heck, I just came out to the whole world over YouTube and Facebook last April 19th to be honest. By the way, my mom still loves me. icon_biggrin.gif
  • Eleven

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    Aug 02, 2016 6:46 PM GMT
    In order

    My little pony
    The nanny
    And then when I got older QAF was like my porn and got me ready for life in the big city, I was 16 when it aired on SBS so it was the perfect educational program.
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    Aug 03, 2016 2:52 AM GMT
    Joshthegaymer said
    Homerk said For example, I felt like a male version of Dorothy Zbornak and Rose Nylund mainly because I was naive, but witty at times.. icon_biggrin.gif

    Thanks @Joshthegaymer for explaining that! You're the second gay man whom I come across who likes "The Golden Girls." I don't understand why gay men would like "The Golden Girls." Your explanation helps. I'd think gay men like "Will & Grace," "Partners," and "The McCarthys."
  • Joshthegaymer

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    Aug 03, 2016 4:28 AM GMT
    Homerk said
    Joshthegaymer said
    Homerk said For example, I felt like a male version of Dorothy Zbornak and Rose Nylund mainly because I was naive, but witty at times.. icon_biggrin.gif

    Thanks @Joshthegaymer for explaining that! You're the second gay man whom I come across who likes "The Golden Girls." I don't understand why gay men would like "The Golden Girls." Your explanation helps. I'd think gay men like "Will & Grace," "Partners," and "The McCarthys."


    You are most welcome @Homerk icon_biggrin.gif I think one reason why the Golden Girls is so popular among gay men is that it teaches a lot of life lessons and hits some pretty serious topics. icon_smile.gif

    https://www.quora.com/Why-is-the-Golden-Girls-so-popular-among-gay-men
    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/domenick-scudera/10-gay-lessons-from-the-g_b_3353053.html
    http://www.commondreams.org/views/2015/09/09/30-years-later-golden-girls-still-most-progressive-show-television
    http://www.slate.com/articles/arts/television/2009/04/four_old_women_share_an_apartment.html
    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2015/09/14/the-golden-girls-_n_5512554.html
    http://www.towleroad.com/2014/03/gay-iconography-thank-you-golden-girls-for-being-a-friend-1/
    http://www.advocate.com/commentary/2015/09/08/op-ed-why-golden-girls-never-lost-its-luster
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    Aug 03, 2016 8:30 AM GMT
    I'd watch the golden girls with my grandma as a young kid, I never identified it as anything gay though.. First TV show that fascinated me as a kid was OZ. I'd sneak stay up late to watch it because of the Chris/Beecher gay love storyline.

    High school years I'd watch six feet under. Enjoyed Degrassi and the gay Marco character as well. I liked watching Rescue Me, it eventually had a lot of gay storylines but I lost interest after awhile.
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    Aug 03, 2016 8:38 AM GMT
    The black cop Keith character from six feet under was probably my favorite character besides Nate. I thought Noah's Ark was ok.
  • carew28

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    Aug 03, 2016 8:13 PM GMT
    Yes, Six Feet Under was an interesting and quirky show. The final, concluding episode was great.
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    Aug 04, 2016 3:27 AM GMT
    I came out in the 70s. I 'd have to look up what shows were on. I don't know that TV was my encouragement. I was fairly politically involved as a teen, involved with local environmental groups before high school. And by college I was involved with Bucky Fuller's world wide organization. So I was pretty aware of myself and my surroundings from when I was pretty young. Came out first to new friends in a new high school, that was a complete failure. And then again in my 2nd year college.

    The TV shows with gay characters or that touched on gay themes then were ::::googling:::: oh wow, yeah, I came out before that stuff. The major one was probably Soap in 1977 and I'd come out for the first time in 1974/75 and then again in 77. So I don't know if Billie Crystal had anything to do with my coming out in college, possible, I just don't recall it like that. Two years earlier when I first came out, I don't recall a regular gay character on TV but maybe just jokes make by All in the Family, was Maude then? That stuff. Googling. yeah. The Bunkers was 71-79 and Maude was 72-78. So they probably made it easier for us to broach the subject but nothing like what came later. QAF, Noah and the rest, great shows, I would have loved to have had those playing for my debutante ball. Mostly the balls we had were our own.
  • nice_chap

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    Aug 04, 2016 9:48 AM GMT
    I wasn't really watching any TV shows around the time I came out. I was a big fan of Xena Warrior Princess growing up, but fantasy and sci-fi shows around that time (Buffy, Dark Angel) were more focused on girl power and would touch on lesbian themes, while there wasn't much encouragement for gay men. If anything, shows like that helped me stay in the closet because my family assumed I was watching them for the skimpy clad actresses (Ares was my crush on Xena, especially that episode where he was topless all the way throughicon_redface.gif). I also watched sitcoms like The Nanny and Cybill but they had ended by the time I was ready to come out. TV shows provided me with escapism, but it was the people I was socializing with at the time that helped me come out.
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    Aug 04, 2016 10:42 AM GMT
    Joshthegaymer saidWhat are some of the TV shows that helped y'all come out of the closet? For me personally, shows like the Golden Girls, Degrassi, and Noah's Arc helped me build up the courage to come out of the closet.


    Okay, I understand that a certain book or an artist or a footballer can inspire you and you might look up to someone, but a TV show, really ? I think all of us can discern between fiction and reality and coming out isn't like drawing a picture or doing parkour after you've seen a movie. Get real ...

    This can't 'help' you in any way. Maybe the topic should be something like "with which tv shows you identified with" (I know how ridiculous that sounds ... ), although I am against the whole 'gay' things idea - the only gay thing in 'gay' is that you sleep with the same sex, nothing else 'gay' exists. Which just game an idea for a topic ... hmmm ...
  • Joshthegaymer

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    Aug 04, 2016 3:02 PM GMT
    JustMe01 said
    Joshthegaymer saidWhat are some of the TV shows that helped y'all come out of the closet? For me personally, shows like the Golden Girls, Degrassi, and Noah's Arc helped me build up the courage to come out of the closet.


    Okay, I understand that a certain book or an artist or a footballer can inspire you and you might look up to someone, but a TV show, really ? I think all of us can discern between fiction and reality and coming out isn't like drawing a picture or doing parkour after you've seen a movie. Get real ...


    For some people (like myself), we don't usually like sports or football players as they don't feel familiar to us. When we see a TV show that we like (or even a TV show character who is similar to us), then that may be the starting point for the coming out process. And yes, we can all for the most part be able to discern between fiction and reality, but trying to diminish a person's journey of coming out of the closet isn't a nice thing to do. For some people, coming out (just like painting) comes more easier than others. Have you ever thought that maybe some people have struggled to come to terms with their sexual orientation and learn to accept themselves due to how society back in the old days viewed the LGBT community? Have you ever thought that for a lot of younger gay guys (myself included) it was/is very difficult for us to be openly gay in a very conservative area? Seriously man, trying to attack me for just asking a simple question is just sad because I wanted to get other's people's answers to the question asked and yet you're trying to censor me just by being rude and condescending.