Dating in the 21st century

  • Joshthegaymer

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    Aug 02, 2016 6:35 PM GMT
    Hey y'all, I've been wondering: Is it just me or is it harder for people to find and maintain a relationship in this day and age?
  • Eleven

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    Aug 02, 2016 6:55 PM GMT
    I think ppl are getting out of tune with their instincts, when you have so much advertising shoved in your face telling you what you think you want your conscience forgets what you need.

    There is this amazing book we all need to read called The 5 languages of love, its so simple but will get you so far with friends, family and people youre into, if you want a good relationship I suggest using it to your advantage, here is a basic vid on what its about

    https://youtu.be/IijKBFmAZes
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    Aug 03, 2016 1:06 AM GMT
    Would seem to be, based on all the guys under 30 complaining about it on this site.
  • christastic

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    Aug 03, 2016 4:43 AM GMT
    If I'm still single by 30, I'll probably drop my standards and get into an open relationship like everyone else lol jkjk!!!
  • Joshthegaymer

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    Aug 03, 2016 5:01 AM GMT
    christastic saidIf I'm still single by 30, I'll probably drop my standards and get into an open relationship like everyone else lol jkjk!!!


    Haha now that was funny icon_razz.gif Thanks for the chuckle
  • Destinharbor

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    Aug 03, 2016 4:08 PM GMT
    I don't think so. Compared to what? When you could be arrested for being gay? When you could be fired for being gay (still). When you could be beat up by neighborhood thugs for being gay? When you would be ostracized by friends and family for being gay? All kids think their life just sucks and it has never ever been so bad as they have it. When you grow up you realize that (so far) things keep getting better. It is the very ease comparatively of finding a date in the 21st century America that makes it seem worse but in fact, it is sooooo much better.
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    Aug 03, 2016 7:55 PM GMT
    He seems much harder than just 5 years ago but maybe I'm to old to date. Virtually no one will meet unless it's a hookup.,


    quote][cite]Joshthegaymer said[/cite]Hey y'all, I've been wondering: Is it just me or is it harder for people to find and maintain a relationship in this day and age?[/quote]
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    Aug 03, 2016 10:36 PM GMT
    hmmm, let me guess:
    you want a relationship where the two people share all ambitions, dreams and all their free time? What would you give up for that? What would your prospective partner give you in its place?
    Joshthegaymer said... it harder for people to ... maintain a relationship...?
    say your partner gives you a bad turn. Your very marginal on leaving for good and you dont see how to forgive him. Yet you two can wait it out till you are the bad and what you have done is just as ugly.

    so why would this partner be difficult to find?
  • Joshthegaymer

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    Aug 04, 2016 7:21 AM GMT
    pellaz saidhmmm, let me guess:
    you want a relationship where the two people share all ambitions, dreams and all their free time? What would you give up for that? What would your prospective partner give you in its place?
    Joshthegaymer said... it harder for people to ... maintain a relationship...?
    say your partner gives you a bad turn. Your very marginal on leaving for good and you dont see how to forgive him. Yet you two can wait it out till you are the bad and what you have done is just as ugly.

    so why would this partner be difficult to find?


    I want a relationship where both myself and any future partner have ambitions (even if their ambitions are different than mine), dreams (I would like them to be somewhat similar to mine, but I understand that they are their own individual person), and free time (I am someone who likes to spend time with friends, so I would be willing to let them hang out with their friends as long as nothing bad happens). I would like it if my prospective partner gave me their love and support in regards to my passion of acting whether it be for TV shows and movies, or for YouTube.

    And in my honest opinion, it is very difficult to maintain a relationship because a lot of people are expecting to their partners to be willing to have sex whenever they want while people who are virgins like me are not respected by people who ask us for nudes, or web cam jack off sessions on the internet, or anything sexual like that. I am the way I am (in terms of my views of chastity until after marriage) because that is how I was raised. In regards to my views on dating a person who respects themselves and others instead of being very sexual towards others, I have been mistreated by a lot of guys who have wanted me to give them sexually explicit pictures of myself to them as well do other sexually explicit things. So I don't like it when people who are only into sex instead of dating use others for their own sexual gains. I have not once mistreated a former partner so I don't see why you made those last remarks in regards to me when I am in a relationship.
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    Aug 04, 2016 1:47 PM GMT
    Above i was just saying:
    Today's instant availability dosnt take into account the time effort necessary to discover who we will be for the larger portion of the rest of our lives.
    sex dosnt pay as big a part.
    For example; lots of relationships are made difficult because of money issues and or incompatibility over drinking sobriety and the big American work ethic. Maybe other junk.