pomor42 saidHi, guys! We've been together for 14 years. Still much in love and have many common interests. But one thing drives me crazy - almost no sex. i don't know, maybe 10-min action once in 1-2 months is normal after such a long time together, I don't have anyone to ask in person about what is usual sex life for couples is. I tried to discuss it but answer is "It's what it is, it's normal". I'm not great fan of bathhouse sex, don't want to date anyone but getting to the boiling point which is dangerous since I may do something stupid and ruin our marriage. Any advice? Will be grateful for any help
Your very first post? OK.
As a man grows older the sex declines. You might wanna be both checked for your testosterone levels. Can be part of a routine blood draw for a regular physical, which you should be having anyway. The male hormone naturally diminishes as you age, for some quicker than in others. Ask women in straight marriages what happens to their husbands, if they'll tell you. Or the husbands about their wives, for that matter.
Can I admit that my husband & I have less sex between us than we once did? But we still love each other. Sometimes love has to be reinterpreted with age. From a lot of physical to a lot of intimate companionship.
But at 42 you aren't all that old. I do recommend a doctor's visit, for many good reasons, that includes a full blood panel for you both. You need a baseline on a lot of things, to know where you stand.