Who makes the first move?


  • Aug 06, 2016 2:26 PM GMT
    I'm a rather shy person by nature. When I find someone attractive I dont have the courage in asking them out. I have read articles saying most men these days are in the same vote. What are your experiences on this matter?
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    Aug 06, 2016 3:18 PM GMT
    The guy makes the first move. Duh!

  • Aug 06, 2016 5:32 PM GMT
    CODY4U saidThe guy makes the first move. Duh!



    Which guy though Cody, funny when there's two of them
  • Badwolfxxx

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    Aug 07, 2016 3:45 AM GMT
    Don't wait. Make the move if you want him. Don't not ask him out only to regret it later. Don't live in regret.
  • Badwolfxxx

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    Aug 07, 2016 3:46 AM GMT
    I usually send the guy a drink and then when he comes over to say thanks we talk.
  • Applesauce

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    Aug 07, 2016 3:53 AM GMT
    I'm also a shy person. But guys always talk to me first. But if I see someone attractive, i suck it up and talk.
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    Aug 07, 2016 6:13 AM GMT
    Top of course. Bottoms will
    Never make the first move.


    voicefulmarlin said
    CODY4U saidThe guy makes the first move. Duh!



    Which guy though Cody, funny when there's two of them
  • Aleco_Graves

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    Aug 07, 2016 6:46 AM GMT
    voicefulmarlin said
    CODY4U saidThe guy makes the first move. Duh!



    Which guy though Cody, funny when there's two of them


    I think its Matt Damon that said you dont need to be brave to ask someone out, all you need us 10 seconds of courage!

  • Aug 07, 2016 12:51 PM GMT
    Badwolfxxx saidDon't wait. Make the move if you want him. Don't not ask him out only to regret it later. Don't live in regret.


    I like your reply. Every time I visit these forum topics your always here with advice, logical approaches an support. Thanks for that and being you!!!

    I sense you have lots of experience in your advice here. I'll take your words to heart....thank you!!!

  • Aug 07, 2016 12:56 PM GMT
    Badwolfxxx saidI usually send the guy a drink and then when he comes over to say thanks we talk.



    Your impressive....your advice and tips are truly valued on my end!

    I don't really frequent bars though....i go pSt that in my late twenties the.....I'm wondering if a normal, honestdown, to earth compliment towards him would suffice?

  • Aug 07, 2016 12:59 PM GMT
    skulper34 saidI'm also a shy person. But guys always talk to me first. But if I see someone attractive, i suck it up and talk.



    Hmm. You seem to be like me. People always make conversation with me. My reply tends to be what they tend to talk about subject matter related.....need to work on beyond that on the interest part I guess ......keep on talking

  • Aug 07, 2016 1:00 PM GMT
    MaleElement saidTop of course. Bottoms will
    Never make the first move.


    voicefulmarlin said
    CODY4U saidThe guy makes the first move. Duh!



    Which guy though Cody, funny when there's two of them



    Thanks for taking notice

  • Aug 07, 2016 1:02 PM GMT
    Aleco_Graves said
    voicefulmarlin said
    CODY4U saidThe guy makes the first move. Duh!



    Which guy though Cody, funny when there's two of them


    I think its Matt Damon that said you dont need to be brave to ask someone out, all you need us 10 seconds of courage!


    Hmm.... Valid point. Not knowing what the reply will be though may make someone nervous. Suppose that's a way of building ones confidence...thanks buddy
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    Aug 07, 2016 3:08 PM GMT
    10 seconds of courage but why take a chance expressing unwanted attention. For those shy and or looking for a home body mate something like eHarmony or even grinder is a big plus. Nothing is a sure thing, but the odds are better than stalking a neighbor or a guy at the grocery store.

  • Aug 07, 2016 4:31 PM GMT
    It depends on ones comfort level guess. Nothing ventured nothing gained. Courage and confidence can be built from the act of asking. In my example!e I may be shy but I likee to take such a risk.

    Eharmony I like


    Grindr I don't
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    Aug 11, 2016 2:42 AM GMT
    Aleco_Graves said
    voicefulmarlin said
    CODY4U saidThe guy makes the first move. Duh!



    Which guy though Cody, funny when there's two of them


    I think its Matt Damon that said you dont need to be brave to ask someone out, all you need us 10 seconds of courage!


    The stereotypical (traditional) order of who is most likely to feel obligated to pay Goes like this

    1. The male (useless in gay relationships unless dating M2F Trans
    2. Age, older guy pays (assuming difference is at least 3-5 yrs +)
    3. Income levels
    4. The party that suggested and Organised the date
    5. The TOP assuming that's known
    Typical scenario example
    Up till 2000 it would most often be
    Guy 1 :36yr old guy, TOP on $100K+ asks Guy 2: 25yr old BTM on $45K
    Obviously Guy 1 will pay

    Now in 2016
    Same scenario now could easily and often be Guy 2 pays or they split the bill
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    Aug 11, 2016 2:42 AM GMT
    Aleco_Graves said
    voicefulmarlin said
    CODY4U saidThe guy makes the first move. Duh!



    Which guy though Cody, funny when there's two of them


    I think its Matt Damon that said you dont need to be brave to ask someone out, all you need us 10 seconds of courage!


    The stereotypical (traditional) order of who is most likely to feel obligated to pay Goes like this

    1. The male (useless in gay relationships unless dating M2F Trans
    2. Age, older guy pays (assuming difference is at least 3-5 yrs +)
    3. Income levels
    4. The party that suggested and Organised the date
    5. The TOP assuming that's known
    Typical scenario example
    Up till 2000 it would most often be
    Guy 1 :36yr old guy, TOP on $100K+ asks Guy 2: 25yr old BTM on $45K
    Obviously Guy 1 will pay

    Now in 2016
    Same scenario now could easily and often be Guy 2 pays or they split the bill

  • Aug 12, 2016 3:07 PM GMT
    Sydneyrugbyjock73 said
    Aleco_Graves said
    voicefulmarlin said
    CODY4U saidThe guy makes the first move. Duh!



    Which guy though Cody, funny when there's two of them


    I think its Matt Damon that said you dont need to be brave to ask someone out, all you need us 10 seconds of courage!


    The stereotypical (traditional) order of who is most likely to feel obligated to pay Goes like this

    1. The male (useless in gay relationships unless dating M2F Trans
    2. Age, older guy pays (assuming difference is at least 3-5 yrs +)
    3. Income levels
    4. The party that suggested and Organised the date
    5. The TOP assuming that's known
    Typical scenario example
    Up till 2000 it would most often be
    Guy 1 :36yr old guy, TOP on $100K+ asks Guy 2: 25yr old BTM on $45K
    Obviously Guy 1 will pay

    Now in 2016
    Same scenario now could easily and often be Guy 2 pays or they split the bill



    Well now I see you have been around a fair bit to know a few things about this topic.....experience makes perfect I say mate!!
  • rrazvy

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    Aug 13, 2016 11:47 AM GMT
    Daddy makes the first move. Alphas always do
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    Aug 13, 2016 11:52 AM GMT
    UMayNeverKnow saidObviously the one with the bigger set of balls.

    This. Which is why I never date insecure little girly men.