Would You Date Someone Who Is Critical Of HIV?

  • AnonymKOIA

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    Aug 12, 2016 6:29 AM GMT
    Alright, my friend has been talking with this other guy for a while. Everything was going really well,calling everyday and texting all the time. My friend went over to his place,they spent long weekend together since Monday was a holiday. In their conversation they talked about HIV, then my friend said" he just feel lucky that he was negative and thought most of the positive guys got infected in their early 20s because they were kind of naive". Then this guy was like" yeah,but it doesn't matter because there are medications so its not a death thing anymore". Then my friend kept on being critical and said" those medications will still give you side effects" and just being critical and negative about it. My friend doesn't mind dating someone who is positive, he was just speaking his mind. Monday came and the guy promised to call but he never did, when my friend called he never picked up. Now my friend regrets how he was speaking cause he suspect this guy might be positive. So will you date someone who is being negative about HIV?
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    Aug 14, 2016 12:48 AM GMT
    I would think that people who became HIV positive because of naiveté, ignorance, carelessness, recklessness, etc., already blame themselves, so there's no need to add to their guilt or self-condemnation. How about a bit of compassion? I'm sure many, if not all, of these folks would go back in time if they could.
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    Aug 14, 2016 7:19 PM GMT
    I think it's true that HIV meds have some unpleasant or difficult side effects, and I believe that being HIV positive causes premature aging and other physiological changes (e.g., increased belly fat) even if HAART is working. I don't see what would be wrong with simply talking about these facts. On the other hand, judging people who are HIV positive is pointless and would be a big red flag.
  • Ekho

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    Aug 14, 2016 11:22 PM GMT
    am I supposed to act like a good person and say I wouldn't care if someone I was dating had HIV?

    no I wouldn't be with them.

    & it's none of my business what people with HIV do but if I had that I would find a forum or a dating site for people with HIV too & explore my options there. I wouldn't date someone without HIV just because I would be on newly discovered medication that hasn't been tested for a full lifespan of a human being that would prevent them from acquiring the HIV

    It's not like it really matters much anyway if youre jus boning random thotboy ass off grindr tho. Jus cross ur fingers hav safe sex n hope for the best
  • mcbrion

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    Aug 22, 2016 4:47 AM GMT
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    Aug 22, 2016 5:05 AM GMT
    AnonymKOIA said
    So will you date someone who is being negative about HIV?

    No, I would not date him. And I've turned down guys like that before.

    Not dating now, being monogamous, but when I was single & dating such an attitude was a game-ender for me. And BTW, in this context I'll mention that I'm negative. There not being a personal interest for my view.