Would You Date Someone Who Is Critical Of HIV?

  • AnonymKOIA

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    Aug 12, 2016 6:29 AM GMT
    Alright, my friend has been talking with this other guy for a while. Everything was going really well,calling everyday and texting all the time. My friend went over to his place,they spent long weekend together since Monday was a holiday. In their conversation they talked about HIV, then my friend said" he just feel lucky that he was negative and thought most of the positive guys got infected in their early 20s because they were kind of naive". Then this guy was like" yeah,but it doesn't matter because there are medications so its not a death thing anymore". Then my friend kept on being critical and said" those medications will still give you side effects" and just being critical and negative about it. My friend doesn't mind dating someone who is positive, he was just speaking his mind. Monday came and the guy promised to call but he never did, when my friend called he never picked up. Now my friend regrets how he was speaking cause he suspect this guy might be positive. So will you date someone who is being negative about HIV?
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    Aug 14, 2016 12:48 AM GMT
    I would think that people who became HIV positive because of naiveté, ignorance, carelessness, recklessness, etc., already blame themselves, so there's no need to add to their guilt or self-condemnation. How about a bit of compassion? I'm sure many, if not all, of these folks would go back in time if they could.
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    Aug 14, 2016 7:19 PM GMT
    I think it's true that HIV meds have some unpleasant or difficult side effects, and I believe that being HIV positive causes premature aging and other physiological changes (e.g., increased belly fat) even if HAART is working. I don't see what would be wrong with simply talking about these facts. On the other hand, judging people who are HIV positive is pointless and would be a big red flag.
  • mcbrion

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    Aug 22, 2016 4:47 AM GMT
    No.
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    Aug 22, 2016 5:05 AM GMT
    AnonymKOIA said
    So will you date someone who is being negative about HIV?

    No, I would not date him. And I've turned down guys like that before.

    Not dating now, being monogamous, but when I was single & dating such an attitude was a game-ender for me. And BTW, in this context I'll mention that I'm negative. There not being a personal interest for my view.