Would you date a guy who didn't value family and having friends?

  • Brock700xChar...

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    Aug 14, 2016 10:04 PM GMT

    Would you date a guy who doesn't care or value family and friends, and didn't have any other relationships other than you?
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    Aug 14, 2016 10:55 PM GMT
    ye but only if he votes trumpicon_lol.gif
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    Aug 15, 2016 1:58 AM GMT
    No, I won't, Brock, because that not only puts a lot of pressure on the relationship, but it speaks loudly about his character as well.

    Case in point, I went out with a guy last year whom when I met, seemed to be great. He was very quiet, liked to travel, like I do, has a great job, etc. We went out a few times, and I noticed that one time, he was talking about going to Dubai with his best friend, a girl, since Emirates had special buy one get one free fares. He told me that he is uncomfortable with sharing a room with her, because she is "fat and untidy, and the thought of looking at her naked would make him throw up." Ok, I was left speechless on that one. Shortly after, I asked him about his family members... Long story short, he has an estranged relationship with his mum, he and his dad and stepdad don't speak. He has one brother whom he doesn't talk to. When asking him the Cliff Notes version of why such estranged relationships, he got angry and flipped into Mr. Hyde. I dumped him. I learned after that, he has Anger Management issues, and had already been arrested/jailed for Domestic Battery. I guess my saving grace was carrying a firearm.

    But yes, if someone is not healthy enough to carry any types of friendship, or relations with his/her family, that would be a huge red flag for me.

    Cheers,

    Sean
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    Aug 15, 2016 6:42 PM GMT
    GTPSean saidNo, I won't, Brock, because that not only puts a lot of pressure on the relationship, but it speaks loudly about his character as well.

    Case in point, I went out with a guy last year whom when I met, seemed to be great. He was very quiet, liked to travel, like I do, has a great job, etc. We went out a few times, and I noticed that one time, he was talking about going to Dubai with his best friend, a girl, since Emirates had special buy one get one free fares. He told me that he is uncomfortable with sharing a room with her, because she is "fat and untidy, and the thought of looking at her naked would make him throw up." Ok, I was left speechless on that one. Shortly after, I asked him about his family members... Long story short, he has an estranged relationship with his mum, he and his dad and stepdad don't speak. He has one brother whom he doesn't talk to. When asking him the Cliff Notes version of why such estranged relationships, he got angry and flipped into Mr. Hyde. I dumped him. I learned after that, he has Anger Management issues, and had already been arrested/jailed for Domestic Battery. I guess my saving grace was carrying a firearm.

    But yes, if someone is not healthy enough to carry any types of friendship, or relations with his/her family, that would be a huge red flag for me.

    Cheers,

    Sean


    Why is it a red flag for a guy not to have friends, and family? What's wrong with not needing relationships with family, and not having any friends?
  • Dynamo_spark

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    Aug 16, 2016 6:36 AM GMT
    I could handle the 'no friends' part. But, having no family values is an issue - means he will soon lose interest in any relationship.
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    Aug 16, 2016 6:48 AM GMT
    As long as he's not from Uruguay.
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    Aug 16, 2016 10:04 AM GMT
    Lumpyoatmeal saidAs long as he's not from Uruguay.


    Whyever not????? grin!
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    Aug 16, 2016 6:36 PM GMT
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    Lumpyoatmeal saidAs long as he's not from Uruguay.
    Whyever not????? grin!

    We already know that Brock700's pictures are not his. Given his responses about "Latin is not a race" which are exactly the same as the meritorious David3K, I'm guessing that they're one and the same.
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    Aug 16, 2016 8:55 PM GMT
    I'm so old that I remember when family and friends used to rank 3rd and 4th on the personal allegiance list . It used to be God and Country ( for some it was country and God) then family ...actually friends was not even on that list. I am struck by the importance that family and friends now have .

    Lumpyoatmeal saidAs long as he's not from Uruguay.
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    Aug 17, 2016 1:15 AM GMT
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    Sulla said
    Lumpyoatmeal saidAs long as he's not from Uruguay.
    Whyever not????? grin!

    We already know that Brock700's pictures are not his. Given his responses about "Latin is not a race" which are exactly the same as the meritorious David3K, I'm guessing that they're one and the same.


    That makes a lot of sense - sounds a lot like David3k.

    OK, then who is UMayNeverKnow? - The arrogant prick who says he is 20, and supposedly joined in June. (He's joined my ignore list so I won't have to read him again.) Sounds a lot like that obnoxious Bonapart - who has not been around in some time.
  • mcbrion

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    Aug 20, 2016 4:34 AM GMT
    Brock700 said
    GTPSean saidNo, I won't, Brock, because that not only puts a lot of pressure on the relationship, but it speaks loudly about his character as well.

    Case in point, I went out with a guy last year whom when I met, seemed to be great. He was very quiet, liked to travel, like I do, has a great job, etc. We went out a few times, and I noticed that one time, he was talking about going to Dubai with his best friend, a girl, since Emirates had special buy one get one free fares. He told me that he is uncomfortable with sharing a room with her, because she is "fat and untidy, and the thought of looking at her naked would make him throw up." Ok, I was left speechless on that one. Shortly after, I asked him about his family members... Long story short, he has an estranged relationship with his mum, he and his dad and stepdad don't speak. He has one brother whom he doesn't talk to. When asking him the Cliff Notes version of why such estranged relationships, he got angry and flipped into Mr. Hyde. I dumped him. I learned after that, he has Anger Management issues, and had already been arrested/jailed for Domestic Battery. I guess my saving grace was carrying a firearm.

    But yes, if someone is not healthy enough to carry any types of friendship, or relations with his/her family, that would be a huge red flag for me.

    Cheers,

    Sean


    Why is it a red flag for a guy not to have friends, and family? What's wrong with not needing relationships with family, and not having any friends?


    It's not "not having family," it's about not liking family. One family member you don't like? That happens. But all of them? Very frequently, it's about suppressed internal anger. And not having friends? How did anyone get thru life without having made any friends? Living on a mountaintop in Carpathian, sure. In the real world, it's worth noticing.