I have a straight friend that is INTO me, cuddling is happening LOL

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    Aug 18, 2016 6:23 PM GMT
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    About 3 weeks ago this guy moved in next to me and we have been hanging out continuously since then.
    Walks, smoking pot, drinking, eating out, eating in, staying up to 1am, hot tubbing (not naked yet), talking about sex, talking about having discipline to not jerk off, fucking girls, STDs, hiking.

    Last night we talked about touch and I rubbed his back. Then I rubbed his calf for almost a half hour on and off. Then I rubbed his feet b4 I decided to go home for the night.
    He was so INTO it, not standoffish at all. I was thinking the whole time, WTF am I doing.

    I really like him as a friend. icon_cool.gif
    I have a gay flag on my truck. He knows I'm Gay. I know hes straight.
    Where is this going? icon_rolleyes.gif
    I am going to go further tonight and see if he wants to cuddle.
    He talked about ending his no-jizz streak after about a week and that he might have to settle for a "hookup" icon_lol.gif (which would mean a girl), but why is he telling me this? and Why did he ask about if I had any STDs yesterday at the brewery?

    Gay talk at the brewery, this guy has to be into/willing. I am so confused. Help. icon_exclaim.gif
  • Destinharbor

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    Aug 18, 2016 8:36 PM GMT
    The guy may be thinking of experimenting or he may just be talking like guys (gay and straight) talk to other guys. He's obviously not homophobic or fearful and he sounds secure in who he is. We gay guys are always trying to move in on straight guys and find that almost a goal to be achieved. It's no wonder that most straight guys are leery of gay guys. Stop trying to get a good guy, a good friend into bed. Be a friend. If he wants to make a move, you can react. Until then, just laugh with him and relate like a friend. Remember, if he makes a move to experiment, to you it is just another cock in your mouth but to him, it is life threatening. The life he's always had in his mind for himself. If he's a friend, respect that. I'm not saying you two can't be happy ever after, I'm just saying don't push it.
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    Aug 18, 2016 9:23 PM GMT
    Destinharbor saidThe guy may be thinking of experimenting or he may just be talking like guys (gay and straight) talk to other guys. He's obviously not homophobic or fearful and he sounds secure in who he is. We gay guys are always trying to move in on straight guys and find that almost a goal to be achieved. It's no wonder that most straight guys are leery of gay guys. Stop trying to get a good guy, a good friend into bed. Be a friend. If he wants to make a move, you can react. Until then, just laugh with him and relate like a friend. Remember, if he makes a move to experiment, to you it is just another cock in your mouth but to him, it is life threatening. The life he's always had in his mind for himself. If he's a friend, respect that. I'm not saying you two can't be happy ever after, I'm just saying don't push it.


    This is spot on. Could not agree more both with this assessment and how the OP should handle things.
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    Aug 19, 2016 3:31 AM GMT
    Destinharbor saidThe guy may be thinking of experimenting or he may just be talking like guys (gay and straight) talk to other guys. He's obviously not homophobic or fearful and he sounds secure in who he is. We gay guys are always trying to move in on straight guys and find that almost a goal to be achieved. It's no wonder that most straight guys are leery of gay guys. Stop trying to get a good guy, a good friend into bed. Be a friend. If he wants to make a move, you can react. Until then, just laugh with him and relate like a friend. Remember, if he makes a move to experiment, to you it is just another cock in your mouth but to him, it is life threatening. The life he's always had in his mind for himself. If he's a friend, respect that. I'm not saying you two can't be happy ever after, I'm just saying don't push it.


    Thanks so much. I'll be more responsive to him, and not me.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Aug 19, 2016 7:02 AM GMT
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    Destinharbor saidThe guy may be thinking of experimenting or he may just be talking like guys (gay and straight) talk to other guys. He's obviously not homophobic or fearful and he sounds secure in who he is. We gay guys are always trying to move in on straight guys and find that almost a goal to be achieved. It's no wonder that most straight guys are leery of gay guys. Stop trying to get a good guy, a good friend into bed. Be a friend. If he wants to make a move, you can react. Until then, just laugh with him and relate like a friend. Remember, if he makes a move to experiment, to you it is just another cock in your mouth but to him, it is life threatening. The life he's always had in his mind for himself. If he's a friend, respect that. I'm not saying you two can't be happy ever after, I'm just saying don't push it.


    Thanks so much. I'll be more responsive to him, and not me.


    Good advice from Destinharbor .... Let him make the first move, otherwise just keep it on a friends basis
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    Aug 19, 2016 1:43 PM GMT
    Get drunk and get in the hot tub, have a game of dares, get naked and see what happens.
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    Aug 19, 2016 4:42 PM GMT
    Be a good friend. If he wants something sexual it's probably going to mess up the friendship especially if he hasn't done anything before with a man.
    Gay men can fuck and remain friends but he's probably going to go through all kinds of things in his head afterwards.
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    Aug 19, 2016 6:00 PM GMT
    sounds like the new neighbor just moved and looking for things to do.
  • roadbikeRob

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    Aug 20, 2016 12:34 AM GMT
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    About 3 weeks ago this guy moved in next to me and we have been hanging out continuously since then.
    Walks, smoking pot, drinking, eating out, eating in, staying up to 1am, hot tubbing (not naked yet), talking about sex, talking about having discipline to not jerk off, fucking girls, STDs, hiking.

    Last night we talked about touch and I rubbed his back. Then I rubbed his calf for almost a half hour on and off. Then I rubbed his feet b4 I decided to go home for the night.
    He was so INTO it, not standoffish at all. I was thinking the whole time, WTF am I doing.

    I really like him as a friend. icon_cool.gif
    I have a gay flag on my truck. He knows I'm Gay. I know hes straight.
    Where is this going? icon_rolleyes.gif
    I am going to go further tonight and see if he wants to cuddle.
    He talked about ending his no-jizz streak after about a week and that he might have to settle for a "hookup" icon_lol.gif (which would mean a girl), but why is he telling me this? and Why did he ask about if I had any STDs yesterday at the brewery?

    Gay talk at the brewery, this guy has to be into/willing. I am so confused. Help. icon_exclaim.gif
    Probably he is not as straight as he has you believing. It sounds more like he is bi from what you are telling us. Or he could be a very open minded, curious straight guy. But it sounds more like he is bisexual and could possibly be coming to grips about it. Anything is possible in this situation so be prepared.
  • helloandgoodb...

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    Aug 20, 2016 12:08 PM GMT
    In the right moment a comment from you that "I know you are straight and I don't want to mess up our cool friendship but if I can ever need an help with those needs, I'm cool with it. Friends gotta help each other right?"
  • rnch

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    Aug 20, 2016 1:03 PM GMT
    "Questioning" guys like your neighbor are in a strange mind set. They know something is different about them; but they are paranoid/afraid/freaking out inside about it.

    I would also suggest that you let HIM make the next move.....and I suspect that he will.

    If you come on too strongly to him; he will freak out and blame you for his own slowly emerging sexuality.

    If he makes the move, he will always thank you (inside his own head, anyway) for giving him the gift of his own choice.

  • Aldente

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    Aug 20, 2016 3:21 PM GMT
    Obviously not a homophobe as the others said, however, I'd like to think that he's either curious or thinks of you as a 'bro,' and I personally think it's the latter part unless you two kissed or did something more than you've written.
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    Aug 20, 2016 5:21 PM GMT
    He's feeling you out... Comfrtable with touching, asking about your std status, saying he's in the mood to get off...

    Like everyone said... Don't push... Let him open up naturally... Sonds to me like the next step is gonna be "hey... I REALLY need to get off... Wanna blow me?"

    Fingers crossed for you, bro... icon_lol.gif
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    Aug 26, 2016 1:42 AM GMT
    helloandgoodbi saidIn the right moment a comment from you that "I know you are straight and I don't want to mess up our cool friendship but if I can ever need an help with those needs, I'm cool with it. Friends gotta help each other right?"


    Haha... the opportunist....
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    Aug 26, 2016 4:41 PM GMT
    What happened?
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    Sep 20, 2016 11:43 PM GMT
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    Last night we talked about touch and I rubbed his back. Then I rubbed his calf for almost a half hour on and off. Then I rubbed his feet b4 I decided to go home for the night.
    He was so INTO it, not standoffish at all. I was thinking the whole time, WTF am I doing.


    He was likely just using you for the free massage. Getting a massage from a guy does not mean he is gay.

    Hell, I even had a straight friend who let it go all the way to sex but who decided that no, he is definitely straight and was just curious enough to give it a go. It never quite ends the way you might hope. I wouldn't get your hopes too high.