How Should This Teenager Come Out to His Conservative Parents?

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    Aug 20, 2016 8:15 PM GMT
    NYT: By Name Withheld, I am about to be a senior in high school, and I’m gay. No one knows except my best friend, a straight girl. She keeps telling me to come out, saying it’s the courageous thing to do. But my parents, unlike hers, are extremely conservative and religious. (I’ve heard my mother say that gay people can change if they want to.) I want to be brave, and I know the world is better now for gay men and lesbians. But I don’t want to be thrown out of the house. What should I do?

    http://www.nytimes.com/2016/08/21/fashion/gay-coming-out-conservative-parents.html?
  • badbug

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    Aug 20, 2016 8:48 PM GMT

    Well, how did your parents come out to you? You know, as conservative? That must of been deeply disappointing and very hard for them to admit. "i am like Sarah Palin and Donald Trump"



  • roadbikeRob

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    Aug 21, 2016 1:45 PM GMT
    badbug said
    Well, how did your parents come out to you? You know, as conservative? That must of been deeply disappointing and very hard for them to admit. "i am like Sarah Palin and Donald Trump"



    First of all, Donald Trump is definitely not a right wing lunatic so don't put him in the same category with Sarah Palin and all the other narrow minded bible thumping screwballs.

    This kid needs to wait until he is graduated from high school before being honest with his conservative parents about his sexuality.
  • leanandclean

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    Aug 21, 2016 3:00 PM GMT
    Wait until it's safe and you can do it from a position of strength.
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    Aug 21, 2016 4:29 PM GMT
    Totally agree with others... one should come out only when they're "ready". And in this case I would define "ready" as being independent of their parents and safely able to live on their own without needing anything from their parents. If the fear is being preached to on a daily basis and thrown out of the house I would HIGHLY advise that this person focus their energy on an eventual exit strategy which hopefully includes education, employment and becoming confident.