So much sexual ageism in the gay community


  • Aug 26, 2016 12:17 AM GMT
    I've been looking for so long, but still haven't found a guy who is into me. Is there any hope for a legitimate relationship (not one where I pay the person) after I hit age 50? Should I even try?
  • tj85016

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    Aug 26, 2016 1:21 AM GMT
    lol seriously?

  • Aug 26, 2016 1:35 AM GMT
    What? Are you going to pretend that there isn't age discrimination? Trying to imply that you're hot "enough" to beat the system?

    I've seen enough guys here my age who oscillate between "I only get messages from 20 year olds" to "argh, ageists"... I'm inclined to believe they're only telling the truth half the time.
  • mcbrion

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    Aug 26, 2016 4:28 AM GMT
    seekingyounger saidI've been looking for so long, but still haven't found a guy who is into me. Is there any hope for a legitimate relationship (not one where I pay the person) after I hit age 50? Should I even try?


    I'm hoping you're not believing that simply because you're 50, that an entire sub-segment of the population is going to reject you. Do you think Barbara Walters, David Geffen, or even Bill O'Reilly think they're not "dateable"? What bothers me most about gay men is how much we buy into the ugliest stereotypes about aging to the point where we lie about our age. I'd think twice about a guy who lies about his age (and that includes the "I'm_______, but look much younger than my age," as though the age they are is akin to being on their deathbed. Sure doesn't happen in straight society, so what does that say about gay society that we spend so much time (and drugs) on developing our outsides, but are our own worst enemies about a natural process that happens to EVERYONE? IT says that, like Peter Pan, we will never grow up. If there's anything that's genuinely less attractive than that, please enlighten me.
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    Aug 26, 2016 4:41 AM GMT
    ........ but still haven't found a guy who is into me.

    Combat??

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    Will get you young fresh cock!

    Icons know these things!!!
  • bro4bro

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    Aug 26, 2016 4:46 AM GMT
    I sincerely doubt your problem has anything to do with age.
    What's the old saying about doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result?
    ... that includes creating dozens of essentially identical threads ON THE SAME FUCKING TOPIC.
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    Aug 26, 2016 4:51 AM GMT
    He's like an old white version of Matthew56 lol
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    Aug 26, 2016 5:09 AM GMT
    The username seekingyounger does imply that you have your own bias regarding age.
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    Aug 26, 2016 6:01 AM GMT
    What sexual ageism? Old men are inundated with 20-somethings!

    Radd said:
    17 is legal in my state. And when I was that age, my greatest fantasy was to have sex with a 40+ man. Not sure why the OP is being such an ageist prick though. If a legal aged young guy finds a 50 year old attractive and vice versa, who are you to judge it...

    Radd said:
    When I was a teenager (I'm talking like 14 years old) I was the one stalking older men... Why do you assume that older men are always "stalking" the younger guys when at least half the time it's the other way around? Educate yourself dude.

    Radd said:
    I didn't get hit on much when I was your age either. I was actually into older guys but they weren't usually into me. I got told I was too young 99% of the time. And guys my own age were aloof and wanted nothing to do with me. But the weird thing is now that I'm a lot older, I have guys coming at me from every direction. 90% of the guys that hit on me now are guys in their early 20's...

    HEBREWMAN said:
    when i was a young lad in my mid 30's, i was on vacation in palm springs, california. i met a man from australia at one of the gay resorts. he was 62. his name was ian. we met for dinner and then a night of full on m2m sex. this man was incredibly sexy and stayed hard as a rock for literally the whole weekend. (pre viagra days boys) he was built, furry and had an incredible scent. he was sexy, and man, did he know how to push buttons i never knew i had. from then on it was men in their 50's on up for me. woof. i still remember this man and it's been nearly 20+ years. so yeah. go for it.

    AMoonHawk said:
    Even when I was young, younger men found older men hot ... and why not, they have bigger dicks and bigger muscles, are more sexually experienced, usually have better jobs, nicer apartments or a home, nicer car, and are wiser decision makers, and a bigger bank roll...
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    Aug 26, 2016 11:16 AM GMT
    It isn't sexual ageism. You are not their preference....at least the ones you've met.

    And I'm 60. Get over it, whining doesn't do any good. When young men are interested in older men it's for the reasons above. A mature confident man would never call it "sexual ageism" because he'd HAVE a hot trophy boy! IF that's what he wanted.
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    Aug 26, 2016 2:28 PM GMT
    you_know_its_true saidWhat sexual ageism? Old men are inundated with 20-somethings!

    Radd said:
    17 is legal in my state. And when I was that age, my greatest fantasy was to have sex with a 40+ man. Not sure why the OP is being such an ageist prick though. If a legal aged young guy finds a 50 year old attractive and vice versa, who are you to judge it...

    Radd said:
    When I was a teenager (I'm talking like 14 years old) I was the one stalking older men... Why do you assume that older men are always "stalking" the younger guys when at least half the time it's the other way around? Educate yourself dude.

    Radd said:
    I didn't get hit on much when I was your age either. I was actually into older guys but they weren't usually into me. I got told I was too young 99% of the time. And guys my own age were aloof and wanted nothing to do with me. But the weird thing is now that I'm a lot older, I have guys coming at me from every direction. 90% of the guys that hit on me now are guys in their early 20's...

    HEBREWMAN said:
    when i was a young lad in my mid 30's, i was on vacation in palm springs, california. i met a man from australia at one of the gay resorts. he was 62. his name was ian. we met for dinner and then a night of full on m2m sex. this man was incredibly sexy and stayed hard as a rock for literally the whole weekend. (pre viagra days boys) he was built, furry and had an incredible scent. he was sexy, and man, did he know how to push buttons i never knew i had. from then on it was men in their 50's on up for me. woof. i still remember this man and it's been nearly 20+ years. so yeah. go for it.

    AMoonHawk said:
    Even when I was young, younger men found older men hot ... and why not, they have bigger dicks and bigger muscles, are more sexually experienced, usually have better jobs, nicer apartments or a home, nicer car, and are wiser decision makers, and a bigger bank roll...


    The lies people tell online! Do any of those geezers (especially Radd) look like they're attracting men "from every direction"?

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  • ANTiSociaLiNJ...

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    Aug 29, 2016 1:31 AM GMT
    LOL

    All the above does read like total bullshit. Either that or superficial and materialistic as hell.
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    Aug 29, 2016 2:32 AM GMT
    I'm 34. My very hot partner is 55.
    He's hot because he's incredibly intelligent and practices kindness.
    He's hot because he's doesn't say bullshit like "Everybody thinks I look younger." He accepts himself.


    BTW, my financial portfolio is greater than his so he doesn't have to buy my attention.

    Try being intelligent and thoughtful of other people. It's Very Attractive.
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    Aug 29, 2016 3:01 AM GMT
    James_Thunder_Early saidThe username seekingyounger does imply that you have your own bias regarding age.


    This. I've thought the same thing every time he posts about this subject. That profile name just rubs me the wrong way (sounds almost predatory). Is everyone entitled to a preference? Sure. But how would the OP react if a 70yo started hitting on him? Just wonder how he might behave or what expectations he might have if the shoe were on the other foot. Like... what characteristics are so specific to guys younger than the OP that those characteristics automatically can't be found in anyone the same age or older? I'll be the first to admit, I can't really wrap my head around the idea of dating someone closer to my folks' age or my nephews age than my own, but otherwise, aren't traits and character more important than a number? Either way, when someone doesn't respond, maybe it's not ageism -- maybe they're just not that into you... for any number of reasons. Honestly, I'd turn the OP down flat based on screen-name alone. Just sayin.
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    Aug 29, 2016 3:35 AM GMT
    U_K_Y said
    James_Thunder_Early saidThe username seekingyounger does imply that you have your own bias regarding age.


    This. I've thought the same thing every time he posts about this subject. That profile name just rubs me the wrong way (sounds almost predatory). Is everyone entitled to a preference? Sure. But how would the OP react if a 70yo started hitting on him? Just wonder how he might behave or what expectations he might have if the shoe were on the other foot. Like... what characteristics are so specific to guys younger than the OP that those characteristics automatically can't be found in anyone the same age or older? I'll be the first to admit, I can't really wrap my head around the idea of dating someone closer to my folks' age or my nephews age than my own, but otherwise, aren't traits and character more important than a number? Either way, when someone doesn't respond, maybe it's not ageism -- maybe they're just not that into you... for any number of reasons. Honestly, I'd turn the OP down flat based on screen-name alone. Just sayin.



    Yup. That screen name is creepy as fuck. Although I don't believe for a second that's a real account. Pretty sure it's one of our notoriously ageist guys here that created this profile to make all older guys look bad. I strongly suspect it's that Whytehot guy who ONLY posts to bash older guys. He's not quite right in the head, lies about his age and has some kind of sand in his vagina about older guys. Probably got turned down by one too many that didn't like his fanny pack self, LOL.
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    Aug 29, 2016 4:00 AM GMT
    Iys probably real but he hasnt worked out that he himself in his attitudes toward younger guys is ageist himself. meaning he comes accross as looking down on younger guys. There is always some element of ageism no matter what our preferences. THE OP should ask himself the following
    1. Is ageism meaning young hot guys aren't attracted to you?
    2 if a young guy only likes older is he not ageist just as an older guy liking younger guys only
    3. Are guys who are older that for arguements sake 40 who dont date under 40's ageist??

    All of the above are more or less ageist but none of it is harmful. for most its about preference. The OP should consider concentrating on making a connection or if only after hook ups try and put himself out there to the crowd of youngsters who only go for older guys. There is an isim for every portion of our lives it seams these days

  • buddycat

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    Aug 29, 2016 4:17 AM GMT
    True, you can't accuse men of sexual ageism when you are. What is wrong with men like yourself?

  • Aug 29, 2016 5:08 AM GMT
    I pm'd OP and he jumped at it lol. Would wear paper bag. Could've made him send a western union money transfer but decided to be merciful icon_lol.gif
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    Aug 29, 2016 5:57 AM GMT
    trixareforkids saidI pm'd OP and he jumped at it lol. Would wear paper bag. Could've made him send a western union money transfer but decided to be merciful icon_lol.gif


    Orange is hot this year I guess. LOL
  • Aleco_Graves

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    Aug 29, 2016 6:06 AM GMT
    Maybe you should be less ageist and date someone your own age?

    I think the ageist situation is less severe than its made, i dont mind chatting to guys 3 times my age... But when they flirt with me, its gross. Know your place.
  • Aleco_Graves

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    Aug 29, 2016 6:07 AM GMT
    STOP GOING FOR KIDS WHO COULD BE YOUR GRANDCHILDREN

  • Aug 30, 2016 4:16 AM GMT
    Radd said
    trixareforkids saidI pm'd OP and he jumped at it lol. Would wear paper bag. Could've made him send a western union money transfer but decided to be merciful icon_lol.gif


    Orange is hot this year I guess. LOL


    My torso is so pasty, you think I got a fake tan with my clothes on? lol why so bitter gramps?
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    Aug 30, 2016 4:18 AM GMT
    CODY4U said
    you_know_its_true saidWhat sexual ageism? Old men are inundated with 20-somethings!

    Radd said:
    17 is legal in my state. And when I was that age, my greatest fantasy was to have sex with a 40+ man. Not sure why the OP is being such an ageist prick though. If a legal aged young guy finds a 50 year old attractive and vice versa, who are you to judge it...

    Radd said:
    When I was a teenager (I'm talking like 14 years old) I was the one stalking older men... Why do you assume that older men are always "stalking" the younger guys when at least half the time it's the other way around? Educate yourself dude.

    Radd said:
    I didn't get hit on much when I was your age either. I was actually into older guys but they weren't usually into me. I got told I was too young 99% of the time. And guys my own age were aloof and wanted nothing to do with me. But the weird thing is now that I'm a lot older, I have guys coming at me from every direction. 90% of the guys that hit on me now are guys in their early 20's...

    HEBREWMAN said:
    when i was a young lad in my mid 30's, i was on vacation in palm springs, california. i met a man from australia at one of the gay resorts. he was 62. his name was ian. we met for dinner and then a night of full on m2m sex. this man was incredibly sexy and stayed hard as a rock for literally the whole weekend. (pre viagra days boys) he was built, furry and had an incredible scent. he was sexy, and man, did he know how to push buttons i never knew i had. from then on it was men in their 50's on up for me. woof. i still remember this man and it's been nearly 20+ years. so yeah. go for it.

    AMoonHawk said:
    Even when I was young, younger men found older men hot ... and why not, they have bigger dicks and bigger muscles, are more sexually experienced, usually have better jobs, nicer apartments or a home, nicer car, and are wiser decision makers, and a bigger bank roll...


    The lies people tell online! Do any of those geezers (especially Radd) look like they're attracting men "from every direction"?


    It happens here so often that I just chuckle to myself - finally someone said something hahaha icon_lol.gif
  • theonewhoknoc...

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    Aug 30, 2016 4:27 AM GMT
    UMayNeverKnow saidI used to live in New Orleans. I never met Radd, but whenever I saw him out, there was always a group of people with him and many obviously young, good looking guys.


    Well, good to know whose sock account you are icon_lol.gif
  • Eleven

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    Aug 30, 2016 4:42 AM GMT
    You are an ageist because you wont even fuck guys your own age.....

    Why should they date you?

    What do you have to offer?

    the bottom line is, no self respecting young gay man is going to get into a relationship with and old man that doesnt have money.