Young men who are sexually ageist


  • Aug 26, 2016 12:38 AM GMT
    Why does it offend you when older men hit on you? Is a simple "thanks, sorry not my type" not enough? icon_confused.gif
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    Aug 26, 2016 12:53 AM GMT
    I am a young guy, and actually prefer older men (obvious from my profile pic). Sometimes when I am very forward like that, men can get offended and they tell me I am 'snarky', or 'have a stick up my ass' (actual comments to me). This is not limited to men of a certain age range; younger guys certainly can act like that too! It doesn't offend me when any guy finds me attractive; it's extremely flattering! It is the 'letting down gently' part that can be troublesome. icon_neutral.gif

  • Aug 26, 2016 1:06 AM GMT
    Another age thread, good lord!

    Some of you chicken hawks have nothing to do but cry about how unfair it is to not be able to sleep with young guys

    At least gay culture has created for your benefit the idea of a "hot daddy" - straight men don't even have that; they need to be rich and as interesting as the Dos Equis guy to win young women icon_lol.gif

  • Aug 29, 2016 3:50 PM GMT
    Im "allot" older and its funny that young guys hit on me all the time.
  • Aleco_Graves

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    Aug 29, 2016 9:59 PM GMT
    If your old enough to be my gaurdian/parent/granparent, then its creepy i guess. My daddy issues dont run deep enough to date someone 18yrs + older than me.

    Isnt this like your 12th thread on this?
  • Eleven

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    Aug 30, 2016 5:03 AM GMT
    seekingyounger saidWhy does it offend you when older men hit on you? Is a simple "thanks, sorry not my type" not enough? icon_confused.gif


    Sometimes its enough and sometimes its not enough, sometimes you have to tell ppl to fuck off.

    You obviously dont know what its like to have an old man approach / grope you and when you say NO they suddenly see you as a piece of shit, its called objectification, when someone treats you like that they don't see you as a human with feelings, you are considered a sex toy and when you dont play you are tossed aside, so many older gentlemen have this mindset, its like they are dying and have to get as much cock as they can. Its like the titanic is sinking and everyone is climbing over each other to eat cock
  • Jeepguy2

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    Aug 30, 2016 5:46 AM GMT
    gayinacworthga saidIm "allot" older and its funny that young guys hit on me all the time.


    Yeah young guys started hitting on me about the time i started getting a little bit of gray hair. Before that they had no interest. icon_rolleyes.gif
  • Farmboy8

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    Aug 30, 2016 11:10 AM GMT
    I could be wrong, but I believe that the OP's point is more about the respectful act of politely responding with a "hey I appreciate the compliment, but I'm not interested". It's true beyond younger/older guy dynamic too. A guy gives you a compliment, at least acknowledge it and move on. Are there creeps out there..... ABSOLUTELY!! Young and old and I've had to deal with them too and I'm far from being "a stud". Can we just please stop judging and be a little more courteous.
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    Aug 30, 2016 3:39 PM GMT
    Eleven said... older gentlemen ... Its like the titanic is sinking and everyone is climbing over each other to eat cock
    +1
    from my previous life and a step daughter; leaves me with a profound respect to leave the next generation to them selves.
  • AnonymKOIA

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    Aug 30, 2016 4:34 PM GMT
    Don't be old and out of shape, you gotta be one. Old with chiseled jawline or chubby young. Get that in your head
  • craycraydoesd...

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    Aug 31, 2016 12:47 AM GMT
    trixareforkids saidAnother age thread, good lord!

    Some of you chicken hawks have nothing to do but cry about how unfair it is to not be able to sleep with young guys

    At least gay culture has created for your benefit the idea of a "hot daddy" - straight men don't even have that; they need to be rich and as interesting as the Dos Equis guy to win young women icon_lol.gif


    Even that is waning though, because the gay world is no longer as murky a place to require the navigational services of a "mentor"
  • craycraydoesd...

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    Aug 31, 2016 4:31 AM GMT
    wow, you ARE Radd! He claims this all the time icon_lol.gif
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    Aug 31, 2016 4:49 AM GMT
    Farmboy8 said Can we just please stop judging and be a little more courteous.
    + (plus)
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    Aug 31, 2016 10:41 AM GMT
    [quote][cite]Eleven said[/cite]
    seekingyounger saidWhy does it offend you when older men hit on you? Is a simple "thanks, sorry not my type" not enough? icon_confused.gif


    Sometimes its enough and sometimes its not enough, sometimes you have to tell ppl to fuck off.

    You obviously dont know what its like to have an old man approach / grope you and when you say NO they suddenly see you as a piece of shit, its called objectification, when someone treats you like that they don't see you as a human with feelings, you are considered a sex toy and when you dont play you are tossed aside, so many older gentlemen have this mindset, its like they are dying and have to get as much cock as they can. Its like the titanic is sinking and everyone is climbing over each other to eat cock[/quote

    I do get exactly what you mean and I have been dealing with that since aged 12. When I came out on the Gay Scene I was friendly towards older guys even if not interested and unfortunately they misinterpreted it. I even had a situation when I was at a bar early when it was dead, I was 23 guy was 50+ and I tried to striike up a conversation, to be friendly not to hit on him. His response was "How much are you charging mate?". I was offended at first then thought about how he may have been suspicious, though if he was not merely thinking sexually and open to being approached as a friend, or 'god forbid' an equal, then he may not have felt the need to make that statement. FYI I was not 'on the game' hence my initial disgust. It put me off older men and I was a little ageist for a while till I met some older guys who were respectful, fun and were not sleazy. It makes all the difference trust me. The OP in previous posts showed his complete lack of respect for younger guys and how he seems to view them as sexual objects yet he complains all the time.
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    Sep 20, 2016 11:39 PM GMT
    It's just unseemly. If a younger guy hits on the older guy, THEN the older guy can take the cue and move on from there. Otherwise it's just pathetic. Most of us want to date people in similar life experience stages to our own. When I see certain older guys who ONLY go for younger guys, it's transparent that the older guy has either failed to mature or is just trying to pretend they're young again by living vicariously through the younger guy.
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    Oct 04, 2016 7:16 AM GMT
    ^^^ agreed with Poster above, well I tend to like guys around my age/experiences about +/- 5-6 years give or take.
    But once in a while, I do find a sexy cute 19 or 20 yo guy too. I think it's more about lust though, not love with younger guys. I dated a UCLA
    freshman about 3 years ago, he was cool and pretty nice. But I don't think he was that much into me as I was into him and
    I was pretty much tired of driving to see him every time. Anyway, lessons learned! I usually don't hit on younger guys at the club unless, unless
    if he specifically winks at me or give me the okay to go in. icon_eek.gificon_cool.gif
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    Nov 22, 2016 8:40 PM GMT
    Eleven said
    seekingyounger saidWhy does it offend you when older men hit on you? Is a simple "thanks, sorry not my type" not enough? icon_confused.gif


    Sometimes its enough and sometimes its not enough, sometimes you have to tell ppl to fuck off.

    You obviously dont know what its like to have an old man approach / grope you and when you say NO they suddenly see you as a piece of shit, its called objectification, when someone treats you like that they don't see you as a human with feelings, you are considered a sex toy and when you dont play you are tossed aside, so many older gentlemen have this mindset, its like they are dying and have to get as much cock as they can. Its like the titanic is sinking and everyone is climbing over each other to eat cock



    True that. icon_biggrin.gif
  • Edepic

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    Nov 23, 2016 3:21 AM GMT
    [quote][cite]marshcram said[/cite]

    "As an older guy, you have to acknowledge the power differential that exists between you and someone much younger than you. That power differential, of course, is in your favour. If you knew this, you would stop hitting on younger guys."

    This is not always the case. One size does not fit all. Youth can captivate.
    Reread " Lolita". The power differential was hers the entire way. So too the power of the magnetic young Marlene Dietrich over the elderly Emil Jannings in The Blue Angel.
  • Edepic

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    Nov 23, 2016 4:47 AM GMT
    ^
    Fiction can often capture the core truth of subjective experience. To paraphrase Freud, " The poets have been describing my 'discoveries' long before I came upon them".
    If you prefer case studies review Peter Blos and Otto Kernberg on Sado-masochism. Along the way to getting educated you might want to lose the attitude.
  • 1LuckyBoy

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    Nov 23, 2016 3:00 PM GMT
    This whole post is funny. If you're getting the wrong (rude) answer, you're likely doing it wrong. And I agree, it's a little creepy when you're the one 20+ years older and hitting on the "kid". It's no different from a 40 year old dude hitting on a 20 year old girl... just weird. That said, I have no issues with younger/older couples. The real question I have (in as non judgemental way as possible) is >>> why would a grown man want to seriously date a young twink? What do y'all have in common?
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    Nov 23, 2016 3:25 PM GMT
    The thing I actually find ironic about most of the complaints about ageism is how some older men really get offended when younger men disregard them for their age, without realising that they themselves are also being ageist for disregarding the same older or similar aged men by ONLY pining for young men.
    The worst part is that often they lack the insight to realise it's the pot calling the kettle black.
  • jeep334

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    Nov 24, 2016 11:07 AM GMT
    Desire_It saidThis whole post is funny. If you're getting the wrong (rude) answer, you're likely doing it wrong. And I agree, it's a little creepy when you're the one 20+ years older and hitting on the "kid". It's no different from a 40 year old dude hitting on a 20 year old girl... just weird. That said, I have no issues with younger/older couples. The real question I have (in as non judgemental way as possible) is >>> why would a grown man want to seriously date a young twink? What do y'all have in common?


    The truth be known, two guys from such different generations might well have many common interests but the two guys involved would have to have extraordinary and unique personalities and life styles to make it work as a couple. It could, and does, work but when it does, it's somewhat unique. I really believe that for the most part, the desire is simply and most often sexualy driven, from both sides. It makes for a few good romps but not so much a relationship most times. Acceptance of this fact takes the creepiness out of the situation and allows for some enjoyment, as short lived as it might be.
  • 1LuckyBoy

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    Nov 24, 2016 12:37 PM GMT
    jeep334 said
    Desire_It saidThe truth be known, two guys from such different generations might well have many common interests but the two guys involved would have to have extraordinary and unique personalities and life styles to make it work as a couple. It could, and does, work but when it does, it's somewhat unique. I really believe that for the most part, the desire is simply and most often sexualy driven, from both sides. It makes for a few good romps but not so much a relationship most times. Acceptance of this fact takes the creepiness out of the situation and allows for some enjoyment, as short lived as it might be.


    I agree with this. It is 99% of the time sexually driven, it has to be given it's never usually an "accident" when an older guy meets a young guy. We all have those gays that hang around our clubs/bars, they are 45 years old and trying to take home the drunken 21 y/o cutie. I guess it just seems odd to me, because if I were in my 40s and still single, I'd want to settle down with someone in my age range who can offer me all that I can offer them. Time gets more valuable the older we get, it seems bizarre to waste it on chasing chicken around the dance floor. For the younger gay, this is quite normal though... they love being catered to and spoiled by some older daddy figure. The human mind is fascinating to me... lol
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    Nov 24, 2016 11:32 PM GMT
    For me personally I am open to anyone 21yrs and older as a sexual partner and although I until last year dated anyone more than 5 years either side of my age, after knowing this particular 22yr old for 3 years, I did give it a shot due to having had no luck with finding anyone decent 5 years either side of my age in the last 2 years. That though was an exception and was because having become good friends and slipping into becoming FB's a number of times before both pulling back, we got to know each other and he generally only goes for his own age. Overall I don't initiate any potential sexual or love interest in anyone under 30 but willing to respond if the guy under 30 shows he has some interest of curiousity. Reason is because I still remember how it can be to get hit on by lots of Creepy guys then when I showed any potential interest in anyone over 30 the response was "how much are you charging" especially if over 40 and a couple of times that was just chatting at the bar when I came in early in the evening. The OP has to understand that because we all go to school, we grow up with only same aged peers and it's not till we are in our mid 20's we mature beyond that reliance on having mainly or exclusively same aged peers which is why we also choose those same aged peers for sexual partners. The guy I dated, had a lot of home schooling so he was more used to being around people older than him therefore it was natural for him.

    If you do find interest from someone much younger, try to tease out what their motivations are. Some want to be showered with gifts or money spent on them. Some have Daddy issues, some are sick of those their own age seeming stunted in their outlook due to inexperience, their is rarely two who have the same reasons as many have a combo of the above. Most however are same aged oriented till they are 25 or so, accept that and move on or test the waters and be prepared to get reactions your not that happy to receive. If you put yourself in their shoes, you might react the same way. Also as previously posted here, if you have nothing in common, don't expect to much. Try seeking younger guys you have something in common with if you must go exclusively looking for younger

  • Nov 25, 2016 12:24 AM GMT
    Desire_It said
    jeep334 said
    Desire_It said I really believe that for the most part, the desire is simply and most often sexualy driven


    I agree with this. It is 99% of the time sexually driven, it has to be given it's never usually an "accident" when an older guy meets a young guy.


    Older men want to "date" younger men for physical reasons... The sun rises in the east, sets in the west... The earth is round...