Finding a training buddy

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    Sep 01, 2016 10:08 PM GMT
    I've been going to my gym for a couple months now, started with a PT but now trying to go on my own and I'm finding my motivation for actually going is flagging a bit, plus I could use a spotter for doing heavier lifts, especially the last couple reps. I'd really like to find a training buddy to help keep each other accountable, and spot for heavier lifts, but I don't have any idea how to go about it.

    I'm kind of shy and have a bit of social anxiety, so I'm hesitant to walk up to randos in the gym while they're trying to work out and strike up a conversation. Anyone have any advice or resources to help me out? I'd really appreciate it!
  • prototype

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    Sep 02, 2016 7:46 PM GMT
    Honestly just be forward. Just ask hey can you spot me, give the person some background "I'm gonna do 4 reps at 225, I can get 2 but I'll need some help on the last 2." Just be confident when asking.

    I mean you're not asking anyone out and if you're at the gym most of the people there all have the same goal so it's not weird to ask.

    Hope that helps!

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    Sep 02, 2016 8:43 PM GMT
    Differs from gym to gym. If you are hurt by rejection then do not approach the randos. If someone approached me I might decline simply because I time my workout (including rest periods) with care.

    If there are classes or group training in your gym then maybe you can make a friend there and ask him/her to train with you.
  • Destinharbor

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    Sep 02, 2016 9:29 PM GMT
    Great advice, Proto. Perfect. The best way to make gym friends is to be seen there regularly, doing credible work. Doesn't mean you have to be the biggest or strongest guy there, just doing serious sets with obvious knowledge of what you're doing. Which includes respect for the lifters around you, as lean suggested. After a while you'll be respected and it is then easy to ask for a spot. Granted, a workout partner is best but most of those start as friendships outside the gym. Don't know anyone you can suggest working out together? Most guys feel a bit nervous about starting but would love it if someone showed them the ropes.
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    Sep 05, 2016 10:02 PM GMT
    Thanks for the tips! I'll see if I can convince any friends nearby to start coming out with me, sounds like that's probably my best option right now. icon_smile.gif